February 2018
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marriage series / restinghugs


We actually got up early and went to church this morning (well, 11:00 is early for us, we went to the 12:00 service), and PJ gave us what I think is his best sermon so far, on marriage and how people have twisted the Bible to make it seem like God wants women to be subservient. When they get this sermon uploaded to the web I'll post the link -- it just clears up all that shit and explains what God really wants, totally debunking the idea that God wants the husband to make the decisions and the wife to shut up and obey.

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Later on, Ben and I laid on the couch together and just cuddled for at least 1.5 hours.... it was so beautiful to me. When I went to work later it was all I could think about, and all I wanted to do was go home and lay on the couch with Ben again. It meant so much to me -- I wish I could express it. All of my senses were just drunk, it was as if I was smelling and tasting and hearing and touching his spirit, and he was caressing mine.

If I got a dose of that everyday, what a phenominal person I would be!

feelings: satisfied
sounds: Dido: "It's My Life"

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angelxxxtweak ══╣╠══
I've felt like that before... so many times. For the past year of my life, I've fallen asleep in the arms of a man I ended up falling in love with. Every night/morning/whatever, when we would finally lay down together was beautiful to me. I laid there with his arm around me, his hand clasping mine, and I felt so much love between the two of us... undeniably. The sad part is, he's having troubles within himself lately, and we can't be together because of it. He says he doesn't even care about me as a girlfriend anymore. He says it's impossible for him to... not because of me, but because of the problems he's having trying to figure out who he is and who he is going to be for the rest of his life. I miss him so much, even though he's right by my side every day...
belenen ══╣gentle╠══
wha? Why is he withdrawing? I'm sorry, that must be so painful.
mabels ══╣╠══
Id like to read that sermon...lol...the last time i visited a church a woman was up there telling everyone who she HAS to obey her man and god told her to. I didnt like that church at all...it was creepy too.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
uh. That poor, incredibly wrong woman is going to be in serious trouble for leading so many people astray... as are so many of the christian leaders over history.

I'll post the sermon link when it's up -- it's actually a video (or audio) not a transcript. ;-)
mabels ══╣╠══
thanks!
misemifein2 ══╣╠══
The ideas of what God wants changes so much. One of the questions in my exam today was about God, it was interesting. Concluded that morality is a matter of reasoning, which means believers and non-believers alike can both work out the best way to live!

It's interesting, religion. I love to think about it. The man I know from Iran is a christian, but he doesn't think much about it I don't think. He keeps saying there are scientific reasons why God exists but he never tells me what they are. It's very frustrating, I wasn't trying to convince him there wasn't a God, I don't know whether there is a God. I'm trying to find out.

I'm glad your church doesn't think women should be subserviant and I'm glad you are so happy with Ben.
belenen ══╣gentle╠══
The ideas of what God wants changes so much.

That is true, because people keep twisting the bible to try to make it say what they want. You know people can take things out of context and make them seem opposite of what they really are. But if Christians would just read the Bible and look for God's meaning rather than their own wishes for what it says, they'd be able to agree.

Morality is a matter of reasoning -- but I consider my relationship with God to go deeper than just how I define my morals. I haven't forgotten that email you send me a while ago -- I've been thinking and I still mean to respond to it.
misemifein2 ══╣╠══
I haven't read the bible, so I can't say much, only what I've heard. I've heard that the bible is full of contradictions. however, if those have all been taken out of context, then that is false. I can't say, I would need to read it.

But the bible was written by people. Were all of these people instructed by God? Could it be that they themselves twisted meanings to what they feel should be correct (or at least some of them) and the greater part of the bible is only human interpretation?

Another thought. If there is one true god, why are there so many religions, and why have there been so many before christianity? Zeus and the like. There could be one God who is supported and believed in in many different ways by all these religions. They could have caught something of him. But it makes the bible equal to all other holy texts. Then what God really 'think's' (for want of a better word) could only be discovered by reading all of them. Perhaps?

Thats all speculation anyway. I'm not too clear on my own thoughts, but I can't believe that everything in the bible can be taken as from god. It was written by human hands.

More important. Is it possible to put aside your own feelings of what should be right and to read the bible with a blank mind? Can anyone do that? If someone did and found something that went against popular opinion, would he be allowed to speak it, and would that have any effect? It seems to me that getting any clear guide of God's wishes from the bible is impossible.

As far as your relationship with God goes, of course it will be deeper than defining your morals. I would expect no less :)

Please bear in mind that my thoughts on this aren't very clear and well thought out yet. It's a difficult subject. I'd love to hear all your opinions and understand your belief better, but if you'd rather not have me arguing then just say.
ex_alariya46 ══╣╠══
Names
I was reading one of your memories where you were writing down what names you thought all of your closest friends were, and I just thought it was really neat because when I was writing in my journal today trying to find a name for Allison (to write nice things, of course. :) ), 'Sparkle' was the first thing that came to my mind. She truly is, isn't she?
belenen ══╣curious╠══
Re: Names
;-) she is.

I'm flattered that you've read some of my memories -- have you been to my website yet?
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Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.