November 2017
      1 2 3 4
5 6 7 8 9 10 11
12 13 14 15 16 17 18
19 20 21 22 23 24 25
26 27 28 29 30


wretched and nearly disgusted with LJ


trying trying trying not to be depressed/disgusted with all the slash and bdsm on LJ... trying to tell myself that there is good, enough to merit staying... and staying open rather than locking myself down to friends-only, protecting myself -- and who from, anyway? Even one whom I thought to be lovely linked to a pedophile-rape joke. JOKE! And I know she didn't mean anything by it but. But how can people find that funny?

feelings: wretched

back to top

Comments
misemifein2 ══╣╠══
People are strange, and sometimes it looks like the bad outnumbers the good, but often they are just mistaken. World needs people like you to show them how to be better. You inspired me, don't know if I ever told you that. I wouldn't have found that if you were friends locked (although, being friends-locked myself, I can't say you shouldn't be).

It is depressing and disgusting, but I do think that it is a minority. And if it's someone in particular then we can always gang up on them :p

Sometimes people don't realise that what they say or do is wrong, it isn't intentional. I'm pretty sure I do. Then people can be pitied.

I suppose if I really practised what I preached then I wouldn't have a locked journal, so there isn't much I can say. Want a hug?
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
Yes, I'd love a hug! ;-)

Thank you for saying all those lovely things... and how specifically did I inspire you?
misemifein2 ══╣╠══
Ahh, difficult to explain, and so long ago. To be nicer (I know you don't like word nice, but can't think of another), to try for openness, not care so much about what other people think. That kind of thing. I believe I've changed since knowing you, for the better, and that a lot of that is because of you.
belenen ══╣gentle╠══
wow.... I'm humbled. Thank you.
anar_anar ══╣╠══
Because people are disgusting. I wish there was some optimistic view I could give you but there really isn't. People thing it's funny because people are disgusting.
Not everyone.
But...
a lot of people.
It just sucks a lot more when it's someone you didn't expect it out of...
I'm sorry.
maladroitkat ══╣Me - this sucks╠══
I just realized that this was probably in response to the “hardcore valentines” link I posted a couple of days ago. I really should have put a warning up because a lot of them were extremely crude, offensive, and just plain wrong.

The pedophile/rape ones were out of line completely. They weren’t funny, and I don’t agree with them. I guess I shouldn’t have posted one at all, knowing what the others were like. Slash, homosexual relationships, and bondage don’t bother me at all as long it’s between two consenting adults.

I’m sorry, doll. I didn’t mean it to be offensive to you. Looking through them again, I realized just how offensive a lot of them are.
belenen ══╣passionate╠══
Thanks for apologising... I was planning on commenting to the post, but ended up making a backdated post (so it wouldn't show up on anyone's friends page) instead. It was rather triggering and I wanted to not think about it.

You're forgiven. I know you didn't intend to cause harm. It may even be a good thing if it gives you pause next time ('cause 1/4th of all women have been raped or molested at some point, and some men have too -- most just never talk about it).
maladroitkat ══╣Me - this sucks╠══
I was wondering why it didn't show up on my friend's page. The only reason I happened to see it was because I was on your journal, looking for something you wrote a while ago.

I feel bad because I didn't really even think about it. I guess I’ve always lived in this little bubble where bad things don’t happen. I have to remember that they do happen… They happen to amazing people.

The whole thing was a huge error of judgment on my part. That’s the naïve part of me shining through. Anyway… I’m sorry again. I made the post private a little while ago as a reminder, and thank you for making this post. I’m glad I stumbled across it.
on communication, social justice, intimacy, consent, friendship & other relationships, spirituality, gender, queerness, & dreams. Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.
Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.