November 2017
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my love for textual communication


Ever since I was introduced to the marvelous world we call the internet, I've loved it. For some reason it's not socially acceptable to admit a love for the internet, 'cause it's 'not real'. What is real, then? merely what you can touch, smell, and physically verify? I've never believed that in any way. I believe in God, I believe in the spiritual world, and those are very powerful, important parts of my life. I think that most of the time, what you can't see is far more real than what you can see.

The internet is a way of communcation that throws out the physical (if it's the good kind of internet, that is) and focuses on the essential. I've made some very real friends over the internet -- jed_i_diah being one of those. He's not an active LJer, unfortunately, but some years ago he and I developed a wonderfully close friendship via IM (back in those days when I lived with my parents and used AOhell). We listened to each other, shared our hearts, prayed for each other... then his girlfriend (who had apparently had a very bad experience with an online 'friend' that she met in real life) told him not to talk to me anymore, and so we lost contact for a good while. We got back in touch after I got engaged to Ben, and he ended up flying down to ATL from CANADA (the Wynnes let him stay in one of their spare bedrooms) for the wedding. Meeting him thrilled me! If I had gotten back in touch with him after he'd broken up with Michelle and before I got with Ben, well, my life would be very different. (I'm glad things happened the way they did though) He's such an incredible guy, really. I wish I could hook him up with one of my friends, 'cause they're the only ones I think are good enough for him. ;-) (actually, he has a girl now, but I haven't gotten a chance to ask him about her)

Other than Jed, I had a friend named Dominic who I was pretty close to for a time, but I've since lost his contact information.

Recently, there's been you guys. There are quite a few of you whom I'd do every bit as much for as I would for a friend that I know in real life, and while we have not had a conversation as such, commentations come close. I think I'd find it pretty easy to carry a conversation with Aubrey or Kate or Kyra (I know your name is really Kimberly, but I like calling you Kyra, so I'm gonna keep on), just to pick three. I feel like I understand quite a few facets of who you are, I feel like you have a good grasp of who I am, and isn't that what a relationship is? You're an important part of my life.

I don't understand how people can take LJ so casually, when you can be so real here. LJ has made a profound impact on my life -- I am so incredibly more open than I used to be, so much less ashamed of who I am. Now I know some of that is because I've been through a lot of counseling in the past year, but I think LJ counts for about half of my change. I would feel no shame or hesitancy explaining my past and myself to a stranger (as long as they asked, of course, I don't go around telling everything to everyone). That, from the girl who used to hate to tell people even the most casual things about her, because it gave them too much power over her emotions. Now I've been open and discovered that there are indeed people who will mock and disrespect and even attack, but they are much rarer than I thought, and people who want to understand me (or at least people who find me moderately interesting) exist. To the spiteful ones: thank you for making me stronger. Your animadversion, combined with the support of people I greatly respect, has taught me that being nakedly honest will cause trapped people to hate me, but open-minded people to respect (or even admire) me. I've always wanted to be one of those people you either love or hate.

feelings: contemplative
sounds: Fono: "Burn"

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toadiedeogre ══╣╠══
WOW! You know the more I read your stuff, the more I think, you are so like me! Well almost.....but really close!! i totaly see really what you are talking about!!! (BIG HUG)

Toadie
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
;-)
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It's really a pretty amazing phenomenon, this Internet thing. It's fundamentally changed the way we communicate.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
very true.
jhubert ══╣╠══
I'm quite enthusiastic about the Internet myself - I have been online since 1995, and it has had a profound impact on my life. Still, it is good to remember its limitations - our senses are filtered through a monitor, and we are limited to text and flat images for the most part. It cannot and should not completely substitute for "real life" social encounters - while it has vastly expanded our options, it is limited in ways that normal interpersonal interaction is not.

Perhaps this will change in the future, as technology becomes more advanced, artificial intelligence comes into its own, and the line between "real" and "unreal" becomes more blurred as we become able to link our senses directly to computers. But as of now, both need to be balanced against each other.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
It cannot and should not completely substitute for "real life" social encounters

I agree of course -- the thing I am really pointing at here is that many people think of the internet as a computer game, kinda, not as a means of honest communication. It's like a phone crossed with a library.
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kevloid ══╣╠══
you'll get a kick outta this. :-)

http://gprime.net/video.php/reallifevsinternet
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
heh heh *shakes head* Sounds like the guy version of the internet.
thesaj ══╣╠══
It's amazing how much more open we can be when hidden just a bit....

The internet is becoming just that....an "internal network"...and is going from "infonet" = "information network" to "infonet" = "informal network"

But hey...if not for LJ Kimberley and I would not be dating...

"Kyra and Saj...sitting in a tree...K-I-S-S-I-N-G"
belenen ══╣giggling╠══
hee hee
thesaj ══╣╠══
I guess you could say that LJ has helped bring about the "textual revolution"

HISTORY OF REVOLUTIONS:
Planetary Revolution
French Revolution
American Revolution
Industrial Revolution
Civil Rights Revolution
Sexual Revolution
Digital Revolution
Information Revolution
and now....the Textual Revolution

:P
belenen ══╣caffeinated╠══
very cool!
misemifein2 ══╣╠══
What has annoyed me about internet friendships is how people really don't seem to realise (always) that the other people are people, real people. Could be real friends. It can be hurtful. Because I've thought I was friends with people and then realise that I'm not, like they will say "I have no friends" and I say "I'm your friend" and get "yes, but you aren't real. You know what I mean". I don't see it that way.

I knew a guy on the internet, he came to visit me a couple of times. Huge impact on my life. Not a good one, in the end, but that doesn't mean the internet is bad. Just circumstances.

If I shout through the wall at lauren then it's just as real as walking through to speak to her... Except if I lock my door then I can shout all sorts of nasty things and she wont be able to hit me. Not that I would, she's a sweet thing. She isn't there at the moment either. I actually talk to her on MSN messenger a fair bit, when I'm on the computer, even though she's in the room right next to mine and I can hear her music playing, and when she coughs.

Funny old world.
belenen ══╣shimmering╠══
I've thought I was friends with people and then realise that I'm not, like they will say "I have no friends" and I say "I'm your friend" and get "yes, but you aren't real. You know what I mean".

I've never had that happen, just lucky I guess. And cautious, don't say that until I'm pretty sure that they kinda feel the same way about me.

You're my friend.
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kevloid ══╣╠══
there was a thing on tv a week ago talking about blogs as 'the new journalism'. and it is.
belenen ══╣shimmering╠══
hmmm, yeah, I suppose so. *wanders off to contemplate*
miss_madisonave ══╣╠══
i totally agree because i've made some really awesome friends through LJ. one of them lives in daytona beach and when all the hurricanes were hitting florida, i was worried sick about her and i would watch the weather channel to make sure her area was okay.
but of course, i could never admit any of this to "the real world" because like you said, it's not socially acceptable.
darkpool ══╣╠══
Wow, when did you add Belenen? Did you find her through my journal? Isn't it wierd how all your livejournal friend become the same over time?
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on communication, social justice, intimacy, consent, friendship & other relationships, spirituality, gender, queerness, & dreams. Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.
Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.