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first bellydance lesson


Wow. I think this is going to have more of an impact on my life than I had thought.

Patricia had told me to wear something tight enough that she could see my midsection, to see if I was doing the moves right, so I wore a tight stretchy shirt & pants, expecting to be grossed out or irritated when I looked in the mirror, but I wasn't. That's a pretty good thing, since the outfit hid nothing about my figure. Then when I walked into the dance room and saw myself in the floor-to-ceiling mirror, I realized that I really like my body. I like that I have hips, I like my legs, I like my breasts, and I don't mind my belly so much (and I love my heinie). That was before we started.

I was actually rather disappointed in the lesson itself, because I was so clumsy and I had expected to pick it all up with no trouble. I hate failing, and hate it so much more when I fail at something important to me -- which is why I don't even like attempting things that are important to me. But I did try, and I didn't quite fail, I just didn't do that well. But I'm determined to get better. It's okay to fail, self. It is okay to make mistakes. It is okay to NOT be perfect at everything, dammit, get that into your subconscious! And just because I'm clumsy at the beginning doesn't mean that I'm never going to get it or that I have no talent for dance. (that was painful to type -- just the idea that I could possibly not have talent at something so important to me -- uh) My muscles are just lacking in dexterity right now. Hm. I just realized that I was comparing this lesson to the one I took two years ago, and that was when I was still in perfect shape from working on the dairy goat farm (farming = tons of physical labor) -- and at that one I was very quick to pick things up. *sigh of relief* I feel so much better. I may have talent at dance -- I'm just out of shape. And that's fixable.

Speaking of which, I already see a change in my belly, and I'm not exaggerating. Ben said so too. Yay! Muscles are being toned! And next week she's giving us CDs to practice to.

And also, I expected to be exhausted afterwards, but though my legs were quivering a little, I felt energized and sprightly. Maybe I won't die next saturday when I have counseling, then bellydance, then work!

feelings: pleased
sounds: Sunny Day Real Estate: "Grendel"
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valynn ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
thank you!
evileve ══╣╠══
I took Egyptian belly dancing for a while and loved it.
It's definately harder than I thought it would be....but damn it's so empowering.
belenen ══╣shimmering╠══
damn it's so empowering

I know! Something about the movements builds pride for being a woman, I think.
eternitywaiting ══╣╠══
I'm sure you'll do fine...you;ve got the right attitude about it all.

Belly dancing classes soud fun...where are you taking them? I wouldn't even know where to look...it doesn't seem like a YMCA thing. :-P
belenen ══╣shimmering╠══
thank you!

Actually, my counselor Patricia has been a professional bellydancer for years, and she teaches it, so I'm taking it from her. I'd say visit a Turkish restaurant and ask the bellydancers there (if there is one near you that HAS bellydancers).
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
oh, and look through the phone book and call all the dance places and ask about bellydancing, because sometimes they don't advertise it.
writer_lilies ══╣╠══
I need to find one of those classes somewhere. I doubt it'd be in my town though. :P I'd probably have to go to Detriot or something. How much is it?
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
Well, Patricia teaches for the cheapest price I've found -- six 1.5 hour lessons for $80. The second cheapest was four 1 hour lessons for $44. I'd say look through the phone book, and if that fails you, go to a turkish restaurant and ask the bellydancers there (if there are any such restaurants near you). oh, and call all the dance places and ask about bellydancing, because sometimes they don't advertise it.
writer_lilies ══╣╠══
Yeah I found one at my old college and some other ones too. Now I just need to scape the money together find a way to get there and then my jiggling can be fully appreciated. :)
pinkstrands ══╣╠══
ohh my sister was going to do belly dancing!
but when we went to check out alesson..the days the lady
was giving lessons was the day my sistr was busy..
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
that stinks. What about you, did you want to bellydance?
pinkstrands ══╣╠══
not really. haven't the time anyways..
dangermike ══╣╠══
My ex took belly dancing for a long time, and it really helped her come to terms with her body image. For some reason -- it's an odd phenomenon -- the women in her classes (all shapes and sizes) really learned how to feel good about themselves. Something about celebrating the figure instead of being shameful about it. I don't know. It was a good thing, though.
belenen ══╣shimmering╠══
Something about celebrating the figure instead of being shameful about it.

I think you hit the nail on the head. Also, in learning that movement itself can be beautiful, women become less fixated on how their body looks and focus more on what they can do with their body, how they can find beauty in their body through movement.
emptywineglass ══╣╠══
I understand how you felt when you said that you were disappointed in the lesson. I've always been pretty musically inclined and when I met Josh I asked him to teach me how to play his guitars. He started teaching me, and I thought I'd learn it quickly like I have other instruments . . . but of course it didn't work out like that. *sigh* Just keep at it! :)
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
thanks, I will! And I'll get better!
taogroovewitch ══╣╠══
It's a lot harder than it looks, huh? :) Keep at it. Pilates has nothing on bellydancing. LOL

Man, where's my doumbek? Damn day job.... ::doum doum teh kah doum:::

:)
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
Actually, my teacher has us doing Pilates to warm up. ;-)
darkpool ══╣╠══
I've got to try a bellydancing class sometime. It sounds so cool. Maybe next fall, if I've gotten my black belt by then.
belenen ══╣mysterious╠══
You're so cool. Miss Black Belt. ;-) And yeah, definitely try it sometime!
darkpool ══╣╠══
awww, thanks.
mabels ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
Thanks! I can't wait to have enough of the moves down to feel confident improvising. ;-)
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