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a curvy girl story


Eve, 'Kenzie, and Danielle, I need your snailmail address! (unless you aren't comfortable with that, of course) And wandrlost, you ROCK for going through and taking all of my favorite polls. ;-)

A little story I commented to someone that I didn't want to forget (from when I was a cashier at Walmart):

I hate seeing perfectly healthy curvy women buying slim-fast and fashion magazines. One time a curvy girl came in my line, and she had one of the loveliest bodies I've ever seen, yet she was buying some diet pills. I couldn't help myself, I asked her, "You aren't trying to lose weight, are you?" She laughed a little self-consciously and said, "yes, always... why do you ask?" and I said, "because you look gorgeous the way you are! You certainly don't need to lose any weight." She shyly said thanks. Then the two guys she was with came over and I gave her the receipt and they left... and I was a little worried that she might think I was hitting on her, but DAMN I can't STAND the idea of her thinking she was anything less than beautiful. Afterward I was glad I did. I hope it made a difference to her.

P.S. like the new icon? That's a professional bellydancer's belly.

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gyrlcentric ══╣consent╠══
i love my body the way it is now but i use metabolism boosters because it is always a struggle to stay right here where i am at

so i agree that trying to lose weight to be too skinny is sad and i hate to see girls doing that but sometimes it is just staying there that is difficult
belenen ══╣gentle╠══
but maybe, if you have to fight your body constantly to stay at that weight, maybe your body's natural form has a bit more curves... just my thoughts.
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kevloid ══╣╠══
this one girl on my list is absolutely fit (she's on a rowing team and can run for like an hour), but she's decided to starve herself this summer to lose weight. :-O

a few of us told her there's no possible way she needs to lose weight but she won't listen. instead she posted today that she's not gonna talk about her diet plans anymore so we'll leave her alone. :-/ arg.

this kinda thing drives me nuts.
belenen ══╣upset╠══
Oh my gosh. There just aren't words.
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misemifein2 ══╣╠══
That's great, it really is. Every little helps (I hate that phrase because it's the motto of the supermarket I used to work at, but I can't be bothered with paraphrasing)
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
That's my thought, that every little bit helps.
bizkit_nc ══╣╠══
you probably made a difference...people need compliments...if we all made as many compliments as we critized imagine how we all would feel!!
belenen ══╣passionate╠══
I KNOW!!!
sidheblessed ══╣╠══
There is a sad sad shortage of curvy women out there. No one seems ot realise women are meant to have hips and rounded tummies!
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
exactly!!!
kmiotutsie ══╣╠══
Doesn't it suck, seeing things like that? i love curvy girls!!
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
me too!
boobiequeen ══╣╠══
I have a lot of trouble accepting my body as it is, mostly because I know it isn't healthy to be so overweight...but I also have this mental image of myself, before my dad died, when I was a competition dancer, softball player, etc. Even then, my boobs were big (for "that" kind of girl). I never went to any kind of therapy after my father died. I thought I was handling his death well...and all things surrounding his death that I consider now, as an adult, I did handle it well. And on a plus side of gaining weight, I learned to enjoy food. I just enjoyed it too much. I stopped my physical activities and just ate. The only thing I did was theatre...theatre dance is nothing compared to what I used to do. Now, I'm technically "obese" but I'm not so bad that I can't find clothes that look good on me. I just happen to have huge boobs and a gargantuan ass, plus a tummy, which is the only part I really hate. Hell, I'll keep the hips, thighs, ass and breasts any day. Anyway...one of my biggest problems accepting my weight...is that I get a lot of..."You would be so attractive...IF..."....or...."You have such a pretty face...BUT..."..."if you lose weight, Danielle."..."but you're just too heavy, Danielle."...not many people seem to appreciate the fact that a woman can be plus sized and attractive...but if a man is bigger, he's got all the skinny girls going after him...which is kind of funny...

I can smother people with my boobies!
eternitywaiting ══╣╠══
You don't enjoy food "too much."

I want it put on the official record that I eat way more than Danielle (and have the cholesterol to prove it, heh) so no talk about over-enjoying food. Food exists for joy!

And I never feel the need to add a "but" or "if" whenever I think how beautiful you are, Danielle. :-)

And (in vague support of the heavy guy/skinny girl idea), look at Robert. :-P
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belenen ══╣╠══
amazedcreation ══╣╠══
You know, I think that your comment was well justified. But if I heard that comment come from another girl, it would mean a lot to me, but not as much as it would if it came from a guy. Not that I would think they guy was hitting on me, but too few guys compliment girls on being curvy. It's always been in my curvy mind that guys would rather girls be thin. But, I don't want to be thin, nor could I be "thin". But, hearing, "You look great" from a guy when you aren't stick thin is SO affirming. I just wish guys would say it more - because we all know some of them really do believe that.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
yeah, that's a good point. It's very encouraging to know that men do appreciate the curvy figure.
phrankenstyne ══╣Idiots╠══
Nothing pisses me off more as a fat guy than looking at women that are moderately plump to waifishly thin complaining about how fat they are. Every time I see a girl, especially those I work with, pinching that tiny little roll of stubborn belly fat (which, I might add, gives them shape and makes them more attractive to me) and saying how they need to lose 15, 25 or more pounds, I want to scream and rip off my shirt and show them what fat is. I mean, seriously, I can bounce my belly like a basketball and I'm not complaining, but Heaven forbid a woman have a little cushion for the pushin'.

On a slightly more. . .related note, don't these women realize that if they lose too much weight, the hips, ass, and boobs men like will go away too? Seriously, think about it. What are hips, ass and boobs? Well placed groupings of FAT cells. Well, hips are bones, but you know what I mean.

Real women have curves. And nice faces. And minds able to run circles around men's. And senses of humor. And nice cars. . .well, maybe not.

P.S. - Love the new icon. Completely drooltastic. Now we need some bellydancing shots of you. . .hint hint.
belenen ══╣curvygirl╠══
Exactly! I'm hoping that my new community will help women to see that a curvy belly is a beautiful thing, not something that must be gotten rid of at all costs. It's hard when everywhere you look you get the message that you aren't sexy/attractive/etc. unless you have a flat belly -- that's always been the worst battle for me. It becomes easier when you seek out images of healthy women and realize that 95% of healthy women have curvy bellies. Anyway.

Bellydancing shots! Yes, I definitely want to do those, but I need to save up and buy the rest of the costume first.
wandrlost ══╣╠══
the icon doesn't show. at least not on my mac.

and, yes, i enjoyed filling out your polls. i'm an honest fellow and don't miond sharing. i'll send a pic to the "show your face" poll when i'm on a comp that i have pics on.

and i can't agree more with our societies fascination with the beauty myth. unatainable, unhealthy waifishness when a woman is already attractive. sheesh. pisses me off.

show me real beauty on any given day. not that wich comes in a bottle or pill or cosmetic counter.

lol, and, bel, i always rock ;)
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
show me real beauty on any given day. not that wich comes in a bottle or pill or cosmetic counter.
Amen, yo!

heh, yes you do always rock. ;-)
juansrx ══╣*mtl2╠══
Somtimes, it´s hard to accept yourself the way you are, but you must thank God for having two arms and two legs, and a working body!!
juansrx ══╣*mtl2╠══
and the icon is nice...but I prefer kickboxing!
ex_alariya46 ══╣╠══
I'm sometimes afraid that if I give a woman an honest compliment she'll think I'm hitting on her too. I think sometimes people are overly sensitive to people of the same sex complimenting them because they are used to being ignored by members of the same sex.

And I really like your new icon. :)
wandrlost ══╣╠══
still no icon for me and my mac.

but i agree with the other comment that we need shots of you bellydancing. sounds tres exotic.
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eternitywaiting ══╣╠══
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aubkabob ══╣╠══
i LOVE the icon! i know that your compliment of the wedding dress shot helped my self esteem, too, greatly! i never wanted to be a stick, but do want to work on my arms and thighs, mainly. i put on over 70 lbs within a year and a half (after the rape), which has caused great strain on my joints, and i would like to get down to an area where i feel healthy again, and where my knees aren't suffering. (now down to 210, am looking for a more reasonable goal weight like 170, maybe a tad less.) i'm sort of thankful to my heritage that there isn't ANY way that i can lose all of the curves! even at my heaviest (over 240), i still had an hourglassish figure.
belenen ══╣strong╠══
It's a good thing to lose weight for health reasons, but I think that should be the ONLY reason anyone EVER tries to lose weight. Brava to you, my friend! I'm sure you'll get there. ;-) At least you can be sure that you are sexy even if you aren't where you want to be health-wise yet. Hourglassish loveliness and all. ;-)
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12thknight ══╣╠══
I really, really loathe our society for objectifying skinny women. There is nothing wrong with someone healthy, curvy or whatever...and I have to say that every woman I've ever dated or been interested in had a beautiful, healthy figure, like size 12-16ish.

Honestly, I look at the size 5s and I immediately think that they must be starving themselves to fit someone else's idea of beauty. It makes me recoil.
belenen ══╣gentle╠══
Honestly, I look at the size 5s and I immediately think that they must be starving themselves to fit someone else's idea of beauty. It makes me recoil.

Sadly, I do that too. There's a fragility to ed-types that scares me. I feel like if they fell over they would die, their bones would just shatter like glass.

On the other hand, my friends who are naturally thin always seem to have a ton of energy. Of course I never ask, but I feel like I can tell whether a woman is naturally thin or anorexic.
mabels ══╣╠══
nice piture.

Im glad you said that t that girl!!!
belenen ══╣curvygirl╠══
me too!
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