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Yucky to yay / I gave Ben 'quality activity' love / Ashley time!


Yucky to yay. The yucky: me feeling sick and having to sit out 20 minutes of bellydancing class. The yay: me taking Ben out and him being delighted.

Ben's a quality activity person, which means that he feels most loved when doing something together with a person. I never really understood what that meant until a few days ago, when we sat down and talked about it. Basically I just drove him around, bought him his favorite food and a frappuchino, and talked about whatever he wanted to talk about. That wouldn't have done much for me, but he was so happy, which of course made me happy. I suppose what made it special for him was just the fact that we were together having focused time on togetherness.

I learn more every day. Now if I can just remember to do this sort of thing more often!

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I also hung out with alariya for just a little bit after bellydancing; we chatted and visited a very cool, very eclectic shop (where I might sell my jewelry). I made her a double pair of earrings because I love her and because she lost the necklace that Kevin ordered from me for her, which is just tragic. But the earrings are gorgeous, and she loved 'em.

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Comments
ex_alariya46 ══╣╠══
You betcha I loved 'em! :) Not as much as I love you though... Perhaps we can hang out again on Saturday morning?
belenen ══╣earrings╠══
so glad you loved 'em. When I give jewelry I made, it's like giving a piece of me away.
aubkabob ══╣╠══
reading this post made my heart smile :) it definitely sounds like a productive day to me!
belenen ══╣curious╠══
yay! (and what is with the tiny icons, btw?)
aubkabob ══╣chocobo╠══
you don't like my little chocobo?
belenen ══╣upset╠══
no, 'tis dumb! 'cause it reminds me of video games, ick.
aubkabob ══╣╠══
since i permanently grounded myself from online gaming, i almost never play the things anymore - usually only when i'm sick.
amazedcreation ══╣╠══
Thought you might appreciate this :) http://www.campaignforrealbeauty.com/
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
I did like it -- except for that one lady who said, "I'm curvy, and that's okay" -- she seemed to be excusing a flaw rather than celebrating her beauty. hmph.
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