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Kristy visits -- thrift-shopping & movie-watching / Playing By Heart


Kristy came up for a few days -- and promptly took off with Rebecca and elya to North Carolina. But it didn't really bother me because I have adjusted my expectations. I had no idea the power you have over your own emotions. If you accept people as they are and don't expect more of them than they are likely to give, you're a lot happier and more free. I'm not pleased that she keeps me at a distance and seems to want me around just to adore her -- but you know what, there is nothing I can do about that, so I'm accepting it. I just had to realize that at this point in time, she does not want to be realfriends. And I am not responsible for her choices and the fact that she is really missing out by choosing not to be realfriends with me.

So we had casual fun on the day that she was originally planning to leave. She told me that when she heard that I was going out with the girls, she decided to stay an extra day, which I took with a grain of salt because she always tends to stay later than she plans to. But it flattered me all the same.

We went thrift-shopping, which resulted in three new shirts and two new dresses for a total of $17. ;-) Oh, and Miss K was so sweet -- she gave each of us $20, which meant my stuff was actually all a gift! And she took us all out to lunch, which was fabulously yummy.

Then Rebecca and Kristy and I went back to my flat to play with Kanika, and after a bit I decided that I absolutely had to wash my hair right then, so I told them they could leave if they were bored and I set up the bathroom (I have to have candles and music for washing my hair). Kristy offered to help me wash my hair, which I thought was so incredibly sweet, and so they both stayed in the bathroom with me while I washed my hair, and Kristy massaged my scalp for me. I wish Rebecca and I were that comfortable with each other when Kristy's not around. Kristy is the one person that I am never uncomfortable around -- 'cause I know that I can't shock her! And she seems to have a relaxing(?) effect on Rebecca.

Later Kristy and elya and I went to Kroger ('cause Publix was closed, otherwise I'd have pitched a hissy fit) and bought ice cream, and then we came back and watched movies. Guess what my suggestion was. "Playing By Heart," of course. I knew Kristy would love it, but I still don't really know what Rebecca and elya thought. I was scared to ask because I hate the idea that maybe they didn't like it. Kristy and I cuddled on the loveseat and I petted her hair for almost the whole movie. Seeing the character Joan smile in that movie makes me smile, it actually makes me happy. I can't help it.

Oh. And then Kristy and elya put on a country line dancing video and actually started learning the dances! It was hilarious. I thought elya was kidding when she pulled out the video, but no, she really rented it, she didn't find it at a garage sale for a quarter. After they wore out their craziness, we watched "Don Juan Demarco" which I found rather dull and silly, but Kristy actually petted my hair some while we watched it, so that made it worth it. That was another expectation thing -- rather than expecting her to offer, I asked, and I felt no compunction about it.

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sidheblessed ══╣╠══
I never thoguht of having music and candles ot wash my hair. Good idea!
belenen ══╣ethereal╠══
oh yeah. I turn an hour-long chore into a relaxing experience. ;-)
rangoth ══╣╠══
It now occurs to me I have never see Don Juan Demarco. It sounds like a movie I prolly wouldn't love. >shrug
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
Well I dunno, it might suit other people's taste, just not mine.
rangoth ══╣╠══
So what are your tastes in movies?
belenen ══╣eccentric╠══
I prefer them to either expand my mind, uplift my spirit, or make me laugh loudly. If they don't have one of those effects on me then I consider my time wasted. I like dramas, usually, and I enjoy the occasional comedic chick-flick and Adam Sandler movie. ;-)
rangoth ══╣╠══
Kevin Smith?
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
I haven't seen any of his movies yet, but I intend to. ;-)
rangoth ══╣╠══
I love you :)
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
aww! ;-)
misemifein2 ══╣╠══
This is a terribly unrelated comment, I know, but

I now have a debit card! Think thats how it is spelt. Anyhow, that would maybe mean I could pay you for jewellery? I can't remember how you said I would do that, so could you tell me again please? That is only if you're feeling like making jewellery (and I can work out how to pay!).

And, I was wondering, why does elya spell her name with a little e?

AND why is one of the pictures in your friends banner upside down? Was it requested that way or was the photo upside down in the first place? I wasn't going to ask but then it keeps catching my eye every time I look.

belenen ══╣artistic╠══
wee-hee! Yay! To pay me you'd have to set up a paypal account at www.paypal.com (it's pretty self-explanatory, I think) Here is the link to set up an account. When you get the account set up, let me know and I'll tell you how to send money.

But before all that you need to decide what you want! ;-)

elya spells her name with a little 'e' partly because it's prettier and partly because it is a reminder to her to be humble. ;-) She's an amazingly sweet and gentle person.

The upside-down photo? Well, she posted the photo that way in her journal and I told her that if she let me use it I'd leave it upside-down and so she let me (even though she says she's a bit shy). She's quite unique, so I like it that way. ;-)
synisterchyck ══╣╠══
I love going to thrift stores, I got an '80s prom dress cut the skirt off of it and now I have a sequined bustier.
belenen ══╣caffeinated╠══
awesome!
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