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important events in 2006 / inner and outer metamorphoses



Wild Woman by Willow Arlenea


My totem animal, the dragonfly, lives as a nymph for a while, shedding her skin many times to emerge as a more developed creature, and only with the final shedding does she have wings. I feel that I have metamorphosed several times this year, and with this last shedding of my skin I have realized that I now have wings! I have reached completeness, developed all that I need to fly. I will continue growing in a new way, learning to use what I have. This is exciting and scary because there is no more waiting around to be ready; I have arrived.


((fabulous summary-by-date idea copycatted from sabr))

January
1st -- I feel like a bad wife, feel disconnected from my partner
21st -- Ashley bought Anika a flight to GA for a week so that she could be with me, since she was going through a really bad time.
23rd-29th -- Anika visits; I support her while she struggles in other relationships; we talk and bond and discuss soulfriendship and I think she is interested in a soulfriendship with me.
February
3rd-5th -- I realize I misunderstood Anika, and she didn't want a soulfriendship, and I'm crushed at losing that possibility.
6th -- my friends FLOOD me with love, birthday wishes in their journals, calls, emails, presents! I felt so incredibly special ♥
11th -- I spend 8 hours in the ER for severe abdominal pain, and they tell me 'we dunno what's the matter.'
16th -- I share my feelings and break the silence between Ashley and Anika (locked only to them), who had a clash during the visit
... Anika and I drift into an uneasy silence
March
7th -- photoshoot with Bruce Garlick
8th -- Hannah and I start having realtime conversations via g-talk!
13th -- I post about soulfriendship, and Hannah and I start discussing it...
16th -- after talkingtalkingtalking about soulfriendship until we are positive we have the same definition, we decide to be soulfriends! ♥ ♥ ♥ one of the happiest days of my life! ♥ ((this is extremely important because I have been waiting and wishing for a female soulfriend for years!!!))
26th -- I post a letter I wrote to Oprah, and comment wars ensue.
28th -- Anika unfriends me (and by extension, Hannah), vaguely related to the Oprah post but mainly because she just doesn't feel able to be friends with me. (Ashley is infuriated by her actions and unfriends her also) I am cruuushed, mainly because of the email she sent me.
30th -- after processing, I decide to focus on the positive.
April
... I email Allison, trying to re-connect, we go back and forth and then she stops responding.
10th -- I post about what I learned from Anika
15th -- my partner and I have re-connected, worked out stuff, and I'm thrilled. He has a new, healthier view of sex.
25th -- Still mourning the loss of Anika but also so happy over re-connecting with my partner and having HANNAH!!!
May
... Ashley and I start growing closer, spending every Tuesday night together
22nd -- I get my hair dyed for the first time ever! and cut shorter than ever before
June
3rd -- I disagree with the sermon and go to talk to my pastor, and he criticizes my life. I feel incredibly rejected and devalued, but try not to let it break my tie with Liberty.
30th -- Ashley and Kevin's relationship increasingly bothers me because she's drowning herself in him.
July
7th -- Rebecca gets married! I realize how much I love her and still want to be friends with her, but the next day she moves to New Mexico.
... I talk to Ashley very seriously about Kevin, because I cannot watch her self-destruct.
27th -- HANNAH COMES TO VISIT OMG!!!!!
28th -- fun day with Ashley and Hannah
30th -- Hannah and I have fun with my partner and his family and then later we go to a fair that 'just happens' to be in town, and we spotted it on the very last night!
31th -- we watch Foxfire & have a very intense discussion, sorta related.
August
1st -- got depressed and my partner and Hannah comforted me, it was just incredible. I felt so secure and loved. Later, Ashley came over and we all drew on each other with markers and then drew portraits of each other!!! Hannah and I didn't sleep at all, just stayed up talking and talking and talking.
2nd -- Hannah spends the day with Ashley, comes home exhausted from not having slept for over 24 hours, and we have a huge clash, and end up going to sleep unable to sort it out.
3rd -- I'm awed that Hannah is so open-minded and willing to forgive and work stuff out, we have a beautiful reconciliation. That night we visit the green couch with my partner and have awesome conversation. We finally showered our colors off and then talked all night.
6th -- photoshoot!!! with storeyphoto, afterwards we drive home naked in the summer breeze. ;-) When we got home we ordered pizza & looked @ pics.
7th -- visited Georgia Aquarium -- Hannah's first aquarium! (yay leafy sea dragons!) then Hannah found out that she got into Stirling! we celebrated by going to dinner at my fav. Mexican restaurant.
9th -- we went to Helen, I broke my tailbone tubing down the river... later we had a terrible terrible clash where I thought I was going to lose her and I really felt like I was going to die from the pain... we cried and cried and cried...
10th -- ...but we worked it out ♥ and I learned that with Hannah, it really is permanent, and we can get through anything. We went out for dinner and coffee at coffeehouse with my partner, and then he attempts to teach her to drive a stickshift, heh. Then we go skinnydipping with Ashley!
11th -- Hannah and I watch playing by heart ♥
12th --- we go to the book exchange and later to caribou coffee for great conversation with my partner
13th --- Hannah leaves, after a long silent sad drive to the airport.
September
...Ashley finally breaks up with Kevin
7th -- I have a 'celebration of Ashley' night with Kazi, SabR, and Cherise, and end it with a cleansing ceremony.
20th -- I make a mourning bracelet for Ashley
26th -- Allison unfriends me with no explanation
October
... work stress, worry about Hannah, have no internet (man that was a shitty month)
November
3rd -- add 5 new co-mods to curvygirls
18th -- struggles with my partner, depression
23rd -- fight with my partner, find out that my little sister is still in danger, my mom is doing nothing to protect her from my dad; my cat runs away
24th -- meet Aurilion, have fun conversation on my green couch
25th -- see my mimosa tree dead; find Aurilion's name for her; breakdown, Ashley and Aurilion leave, eventually get courage to call them, they come back and we clash until we're too tired to continue
26th -- Aurilion leaves
27th -- gave notice for my job
December
1st -- Kanika comes back!
11th -- last day at work
14th -- Ashley unfriends me.
15th -- have amazing selfportrait photoshoot
... have so many wonderful conversations and new connections with friends!
26th -- miraculously find 3 remaining Torey Hayden books at the used book store and buy them with Christmas present credit!
29th -- post beliefs on human sexuality.
30th -- curvygirls breaks 1000 members!
31st -- have amazing conversation with my partner and realize how far we've come over this year. ♥


I feel like some of my metamorphoses have been inner and chosen, but the majority of them were external. My ties with this area have been severed again and again: Rebecca moved, my church wounded me and I haven't really attempted to fix it, Allison cut ties with me, my mimosa tree died, Kristen and I both changed and now we strongly differ on important issues, and Ashley broke up with me. I still love the land with all my heart -- Georgia is in my blood and always will be -- but I have no place that really feels mine since my mimosa died. Emerald is still there but the crook of her trunk is not enough space for me to take root. I feel that I am being prepared for a new way of life, perhaps a move. I welcome it with open arms! and pray that it will be near to one of the glorious friends who fill my life with light. ♥
...Said The Sun to the Shine by Earthsuit...
Said the Sun to the Shine
Come shadow, what you find?
Said the Sun to the Shine
You and I forever bind

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Comments
delicatexflower ══╣nature ][ everything small has to grow╠══

what a beautiful way to recap your metamorphoses!

may i steal the idea and place it in my journal?

it sounds like to me you are a truly beautiful
butterfly that has emerged from your cocoon.

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belenen ══╣nascent╠══
of course you can use the idea, I got it from a friend too! ;-)

well, sorta -- I'm a dragonfly that has shed her final skin and now has wings. ♥
delicatexflower ══╣╠══

thanks! awesome. i can't wait to recap =]

ah, you like dragonflies better? i love butterflies!
so if i call you a butterfly, you know i *adore* you!

hehe! =]
belenen ══╣exuviate╠══
yesh, I LOVE dragonflies. ;-)

and awwww you adore me! *adores you back*
sidheblessed ══╣╠══
You've had a big year but I think all the painful things brought you closer and closer to the freedo you're feeling now.
belenen ══╣dancy╠══
I agree! ♥
acid_burns ══╣bones and booth / you're home to me╠══
... think I'll walk me outside
and buy a rainbow smile
but be free
they're all free
so maybe tomorrow
I'll find my way home...
belenen ══╣curious╠══
those lyrics are beautiful... would you share the song? I've never heard it.
acid_burns ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
thank you! I love it ;-)
easternsun ══╣╠══
That was beautiful to read :-) You seem so in touch with who you are.
belenen ══╣voltaic╠══
thank you lady ;-)
dragonwine ══╣Bette: Exxxactly..╠══
The transitions you have made so far are quite inspiring. I hope the new year holds even more positive changes and lessons for you.

Take care.
belenen ══╣artless╠══
oh thank you so much!

and I gotta say, I LOVE that icon!!! it makes me smile every time. and also? can I add you to my colorblock of friends? I know we're pretty much JUST friended each other but I think we're going to be great friends. ;-)
dragonwine ══╣Bette: Exxxactly..╠══
I'm honored that you would want my mug up there. Let me give it some thought and I'll get back with you on my decision.

Hope you're having a lovely weekend. ;)
woah_the_kettle ══╣╠══
What a big year :O
I would do mine but if it was from my LJ it would mostly be me bitching about stuff cause thats what I do hahahah
belenen ══╣curious╠══
oh c'mon, do ittttt so I can learn more about you!!!
sabr ══╣╠══
Wow, what a year! I am sad to have missed out on some of it, and I think I'll go back and reread some of the stuff (August, particularly), but I am glad that you and I are friends now, and that I have been witness to some of these miraculous changes. <3
belenen ══╣bel hearts hannah╠══
ah... a lot of August didn't get written about because I was too busy LIVING (yeah, in caps!) but you can see the bits and pieces I did write by looking at the hannah's visit tag. ;-)

I'm glad we're friends now too, you awesome person. ♥
free2be ══╣╠══
I am happy for you and for your new life. So much is to be enjoyed. Dig in.
belenen ══╣effervescent╠══
thanks! *digs in*
clown_frog ══╣╠══
Much love and happiness for you! Especially for the 31st, ending the year happily. And I like that song, its buoyed me up. Not in a talky mood, but have some hugs!!
belenen ══╣adoring╠══
yay! *hugs back*
meganlynnangela ══╣╠══
This may sound odd, but if you're looking for someplace new to see, I think you might like Oregon. But I don't really know, because I don't know exactly what it is you love about Georgia. There are many beautiful natural wonders here that I think you would enjoy, and the climate culture-wise is very laid back. They say you can always tell an Oregonian by the fact that he or she doesn't dress up to fly on a plane. LOL in fact the very thought of dressing up to fly is absurd to me--it's uncomfortable already! Bring on the flannel PJ pants, baggy cotton tee shirts, and flip flops or slippers!!

It sounds like it's been a year full of growth for you. Congratulations! And here's to future growth. *clink!*
belenen ══╣amused╠══
ah, well, I ABHOR the cold, so I don't think I'll move north without at least a little kicking and screaming. ;-)

thanks!
flyingshaman ══╣╠══
I am SO happy for you, Bel. I really, really am. There's this great space and light where you are now; you really feel a lot freer.

You have freed yourself up. I am so happy!
belenen ══╣wild╠══
thank you Aurilion! *trillls*
katielilie ══╣╠══
Somehow I missed this post until now, but I just wanted to say that the re-cap idea is very cool, and I may use it myself. I'm glad you feel like '06 has been such a productive year for you. I feel the same for myself. :)
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
thank you thank you! I hope you do use it yourself, it's a great glimpse into a person's life, I think.
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