October 2017
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progress with my partner and I


My partner and I have been fighting and arguing constantly, but it's good, we're making progress. It's... cleansing, I guess, and even though it's frustrating, it feels right. It feels like muscles burning after a strenuous workout -- it's a good kind of ache, with satisfaction in it. We're breaking down all these walls that built themselves out of neglect and indifference. And for the first time, I know that he's putting full effort in. I feel like we're working together. I still can't really believe it -- I think I really expected him to shrug and say bye, not fight to create a healthy relationship. He's truly an amazing person. ♥

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cosmic_dreamer4 ══╣╠══
I'm happy for you, that things are going well for you and Ben. I know exactly what you mean when you talk about a strenous workout, I personally like the ache- it means that I really did a work out and that it will have an impact on my body. Your arguements will have an impact on your relationship too, hopefully it will open up the gates of communication to fulfilling eachother's needs and wants.
spindell ══╣╠══
in a way, conflict is a crap-load better than indifference, as long as you fight fair, at least it's communication!

Urgh... I better go apply this in my own life too, I guess (is the Queen of Indifference)
bluebl00d ══╣Angelina / Those Luscious Lips╠══
Communication is the foundation of any relationship. I'm glad Ben and yourself are putting it into action and trying your darndest to save your marriage/relationship.

I wish you guys the very best ♥
bellerisa ══╣╠══
This is good to hear. I'm rooting for you both.
acid_burns ══╣bones and angela / because of you╠══
This is good to hear ♥


*hugsyou*
blue_eye ══╣Justice╠══
That's a good thing. He loves you and is not that willing to give you up that easily! :-)
silverie ══╣╠══
a lot of people don't see the good that can come out of arguing. true argument may get heated and angry but rarely does it truly destroy relationships. i don't think many people get that.

my ex, michael, made it a point to say "i love you" whenever we argued and then jump back in and say whatever he needed. it would always throw me off balance but it taught me that we may be arguing but we still loved each other.
taraxoxo ══╣╠══
Sounds like good progress!
tawney ══╣╠══
Good! I am happy for you. Of course, I don't know the whole situation, but I am happy.

My boyfriend and I were having some conflicting ideas and some major problems, and he had every opportunity to leave me behind and move on to whatever makes him happy, but he told me that I am what makes him happy... and he decided to give me the time and the patience that I needed, and he decided that we were worth it enough to stay.

I was never happier.
juansrx ══╣*mtl2╠══
Well, as you know him, you will know better what decition to make, I hope everything will be all rigth for you two.

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