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Adam Sandler -- irreverent & iconoclastic


Adam Sandler is one of my heroes. When he makes a movie, he takes an important message and wraps it in crude, offensive humor so that those who love crude, offensive humor will SEE it -- and those are the ones who most need to see it.

I recently watched "I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry" and... wow. There were some terrible 'jokes' in there but also so much truth! He took two straight white males on a journey where they realized what it means to lose your privilege and drop a few rungs on the social ladder. And instead of having them simply be irritated at how they didn't 'deserve' to be treated like that because they didn't REALLY belong to the lower social status (which would be likely, but would have slowed down the journey), they stepped quickly into the roles and felt it, and showed it. How often do you see that? A GLAAD representative said "The movie has some of the expected stereotypes, but in its own disarming way, it's a call for equality and respect." I definitely agree. It made me laugh and cry and... wow. heh, I guess that's my response -- awe!

Sandler wears the asshole label to do some beautiful things. I love him for that. And as much as I would love to not see sexist 'humor', I'm willing to forgive it in his movies. Maybe that makes me a little bit of a hypocrite? But it always gets addressed, called out for what it is, and to me that is infinitely better than the 'subtle' sexist themes in so many other movies that gets completely ignored (or the not-at-all-subtle that gets reinforced rather than called out). And for that reason I feel like he genuinely sees the problem and like everything else, mocks it. Can't know without meeting him but that's my reaction.

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djcliche ══╣╠══
i haven't seen I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry yet, but this is like the 3rd review i've heard of it being good, so i think i will see it.
I don't think you are a hypocrite. You are right, that crude humor is often needed to get people who normally would not, to open their eyes.
Also, my opinion is that if you let everything offend you, life is just gonna make you a grumpy pissed off person.
Sexist humor or any "distasteful" humor isn't funny to me if the purpose is just to rag on anyone different, but if there is an underlying message of goodness, sometimes making it raunchy makes it better and less threatening to people who have for whatever reason, felt it safer to keep their minds closed.
last month, my formerly extremely homophobic uncle came to Boston to visit my parents for a weekend. He could not wait to tell me about that movie and how much he liked it, and then he told me all about his friend at work who is gay.
If you knew how much my uncle HATED gay people, you'd have thought he was replaced by some kind look-alike.
Something about that movie made him see his wrongs. So hell yeah, i give it props. He certainly would not have sat down to watch Torch Song Trilogy, or The Times of Harvey Milk, or Before and After Stonewall or any of those kind of movies. But Adam Sandler... yeah.
belenen ══╣inspired╠══
sometimes making it raunchy makes it better and less threatening to people who have for whatever reason, felt it safer to keep their minds closed.

exactly! and wooooow, that is such an amazing story about your uncle! *happiness!*
djcliche ══╣╠══
thank you. (:
it was pretty cool
bellerisa ══╣╠══
I love both Adam Sandler and Kevin James so I just wanted to see it for the laughs but the movie surprised me too. It was really quite touching :)
belenen ══╣inspired╠══
oh yeah, I love Kevin James too :D I can't wait for the next (rumored) collaboration between James and Sandler ;-)

did you see 50 First Dates? that movie broke my heart and delighted me to no end ♥
bellerisa ══╣╠══
Yes I enjoyed 50 First Dates - I like Drew Barrymore too :) - it was lovely. Sandler comes across as silly but he seems to have done quite a few sensitive and romantic films.

I hope the collaboration rumours are true!
depravedhumane ══╣╠══
Oddly enough, you have just convinced me to watch it. I wasn't going to purely because I am not a big Kevin James fan, but I suppose that is the message is that positive, then I can deal with Mr. James for a little while.
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
cool! I like James m'self, have since I saw him in Hitch ;-)
depravedhumane ══╣╠══
Having never seen Hitch, I would not see that.

Though I think I have a few movies to watch this weekend now.
browneyedgirl65 ══╣╠══
Personally, I can't stand Sandler's brand of humor, and there's nothing at all wrong with that.

That said, if that's what he's doing with his brand of humor, then good on him. I still won't watch it though ;-) I'll recommend it to those I know whom I think would enjoy it (not too many people either, but still...!)
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
heh, well he has done one non-slapstick film, 50 First Dates -- have you seen that? it's absolutely fantastic, heartbreaking and delightful and original -- even people who dislike him would like it, I think. plus, Drew Barrymore!
aetheric ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣inspired╠══
definitely! That one and 50 First Dates -- have you seen that? it's absolutely fantastic, heartbreaking and delightful and original -- even people who dislike him would like it, I think. plus, Drew Barrymore!

and Big Daddy is unbearably cute, but that has the trademark slapstick stuff ;-)
aetheric ══╣╠══
Oohhh actually yes! I have seen 50 First Dates and I thought it was so cute! :D So there's one I really enjoyed, definitely!
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
cool! I liked him before I saw that, but that's what made me see him in a whole new light. and then came Click, which wasn't the best movie but said something fantastic about life, and Spanglish, which also was pretty powerful (with positive body-image messages!), and finally I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry, which was just the sprinkles on the ice cream :D
belenen ══╣hypnotiq╠══
I did! it was frustrating because I can't bear the thought of fast forwarding life, but I loved the message and concept ;-)

it was so great meeting with you guys!

WOW, those photos are AMAZING! I tried to get photos of the sea dragons when I went but they pretty much all turned out crap -- good job with yours!
cyclops25503 ══╣╠══
He is the greatest. :D
belenen ══╣amused╠══
yep! ;-)
delicatexflower ══╣36; drew. ever after - "courage"╠══

aw! i thought the same thing about the movie!

the scene with the anti-gay rights group + the
gay activists makes me cry every single time. =[

belenen ══╣eccentric╠══
yay! now I want to see it again! ;-)
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