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updated important posts list

I updated my important posts list on my userinfo! Some of the posts are really old, but the majority of them were made in the last 12 months -- which I think says a lot about my current rate of growth, heh. Here 'tis:

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· main characters in the story of my life (needs updating...) ·
· identity: my self-labels and my definitions of them ·
· parts of a person -- spirit, heart, soul, mind, and body ·
· bisexuality is a stable and legitimate sexual preference ·
· concept of sex as a spiritual exchange, polyamory ·
· my decision to use genderfree language ·
· discussing genderfree language ·
· polyamory -- how I choose my lovers ·
· on use of the word 'rape' & 'curse words' ·
· the bel survey -- my answers & tell me about you! ·
· LJ journey to openness & honesty; my love for nudity ·
· the difference between openness and honesty ·
· about artistic nude modeling ·
· open-mindedness ·
· love & affection ·
· soulfriendship ·
· misunderstandings ·
· on vanity weight loss ·
· expressing pain vs. complaining ·
· on talking about a person behind zir back ·
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Also, if you're new-ish to my LJ or you want to check out the posts which are most important to me (this list doesn't include most of my spirituality posts because they build on each other too much for that), here's a helpful tag: the essential belenen collection :D

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aliyna ══╣╠══
I just read your entry on curse words and was curious if you'd ever looked into the history/etymology of cunt? Really fascinating, definitely makes you think twice about the hideous amounts of negativity generations and generations of men have placed on it.

Not that I run around saying it all the time, but I have come to see it for what it really is. Here's some reading:


belenen ══╣eccentric╠══
oh I LOVE the word cunt. I only use it in a positive light, of course, and only to mean vulva+vagina.

the only time I have an objection to it is when it is used as an insult -- to me, it is not okay to reduce someone to a body part, even if it is done 'affectionately' or 'positively.'
aliyna ══╣╠══
Oh for sure, I see now. Definitely.
belenen ══╣eccentric╠══
I have to add -- that's one place where I'm a little hypocritical. I adore being called a cunt in an affectionate way, heh (when I'm sure that the person doing it has respect for me).
aliyna ══╣╠══
I always felt that it ought to be a title withheld for the most powerful sort of woman warrior. The Amazon who has born the most children, had the most lovers, defeated the most enemies, landed the most conquests. The Queen, in every sense of the word.

And in fact, the Middle English queynte is one of the speculated etymological origins of cunt, and quene is the Middle English origins of queen. Coincidence? Probably, but maybe not!!
aetheric ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
sleepysunshine ══╣earth warrior╠══
You truly are an inspiration to me. My goal is to be more open and more understanding, and each post I read, I learn from example.

Thank you!
belenen ══╣beautiful╠══
awwwwwww ♥ thank YOU, for this ♥
dirgesinthedark ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣bisexuality╠══
what a cool way to find me! thanks for letting me know ;-)

Well, polyamory is a big part of my life -- not just the relationship style but the theory/beliefs behind it, you know? It's part of my General Outlook on Life, heh. And so is my view of sex -- I believe in equality-at-every-moment and do not like the idea of one person having power over another (whether given or not) in any situation, especially in such a vulnerable one as sex. I've gotten really frustrated because I can find people who share my view on sex OR who share my view on relationships, but seemingly never both at once. And I'd love to know of more similar points of view (other than my two lovers of course). Opposing views are great but it is wearying if you only hear them and never agreeing views.

And also, in a relationship-type way ;-) because sharing those two views is necessary for me in a lover.
dirgesinthedark ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣amused╠══
hee hee, dangerous! Well you seem pretty interesting, so I would welcome your comments!
on communication, social justice, intimacy, consent, friendship & other relationships, spirituality, gender, queerness, & dreams. Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.
Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.