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meme: 25 random things about me.


after Mel, Jasmine, Jenny, Berry, and Namid all tagged me on facebook I figured OKAY FINE YOU ASKED FOR IT. Plus like 6 more of you have done it here! *jumps on bandwagon*

1. The problem with me doing things like this is that I can never manage to be succinct. Interesting, since when I was writing for classes I always fell short of the length requirements, and I couldn't pad it out with fluff... maybe I just can't write less than a paragraph or more than a few pages, heh.

2. I once applied for a job as a writer -- can't remember the exact job description now -- and as my sample writing I included an essay I wrote for a philosophy class. It so impressed the person hiring that ze called me for an interview, and damn-near gave me the job, but at the last second ze realized that I hadn't finished college yet (ze hadn't noted the year on my resume) and backpedaled. (that was okay with me since the job was less writing and more summarizing math-y stuff) That was a HUGE deal to me, as I was very insecure about my writing ability (or any of my abilities, for that matter) and the attitude of the interviewer made me feel like I had a gift.

3. I hate glasses. I don't like them on me because I feel like they are a barrier between me and the world, and I don't like them on anyone else because the glare keeps me from being able to make full eye contact. In the right lighting and with the right coating they don't, but usually they do. (I do like the look of them but only in pictures, in person I'd rather be able to make un-barrier-ed eye contact) My partner and I both plan to get laser eye surgery as soon as we can afford it. For now, I usually wear daily contacts, because my eyes are too sensitive to re-use them or even to wear them for more than 8-10 hours at a time.

4. I don't have a great love for meat, but I'm not a vegetarian. I understand the ethical reasons for not eating meat, but since I know that plants have feelings too and I feel their life force as much as I do animals, I feel it is just as much killing to eat plants as it is to eat animals. I do not feel it is wrong to eat anything -- including people. As long as my body was treated with respect, I would not mind if someone killed me for food (if they would otherwise go hungry). I would prefer that they asked first, but if they needed my body to survive, I would be happy to provide that. So, when I eat I try to remember to thank the animals and plants who gave their lives to make my food (and I wish I could ask first!). Ultimately I would like to raise all my own food. I think I could eat an animal who was a friend, but not until I felt like they were old enough that they might die of old age, and I dunno how I would tell that, so I'm not sure.

5. Strange food habits: I have an aversion to meat other than turkey, chicken, or fish -- but every once in a blue moon I crave a burger. I don't like cow's milk but love goat's milk. One of my favorite foods is tuna, cream cheese, and salsa mixed together and eaten with soy rice crackers. I love making coffee with egg nog as creamer. Instead of normal dressings I like cottage cheese and salsa on my salads. I love love love cheese and could never go without it. Anything made with cheese and tomato is pretty much guaranteed yum to me.

6. I hate to prepare food and don't usually enjoy the actual process of eating. If I could just take a pill and get all my nutrition and energy for the day, I would do that almost every day -- every now and then I'd go to my favorite Mexican restaurant, have a smoothie, or eat some raw veggies/fruits. Which is why I LOVE odwalla bars. No preparation, a compact amount of highly-nutritious food, and lots of energy.

7. I loooooooove fairy lights ;-) for my spiritual birthday last year, my partner made a spiral of blue lights on the ceiling of the living room. I have violet lights on the ceiling of my sanctuary and on one wall of the bedroom (though the ones on the wall faded to fuchsia grrr).

8. I love natural light but also love nudity, dilemma! we have nearly-sheer fabric hung on the windows so that I can have both, sorta. When we move I want to be at least on the second floor so I can have naked windows and naked me.

9. I'm always naked at home except for socks and shoes/slippers. (my feet easily get cold though nothing else does)

10. I'm a tidy dirty person. I don't care if dirty dishes sit forever, as long as they are scraped free of gunk and sitting in a neat stack next to the sink. I don't care if the couch is covered in cat hair as long as there isn't anything on it that doesn't belong. I don't care if everything is covered in dust as long as it's in the right spot. Unfortunately, my partner is exactly the opposite, and ze sees my perfectly-arranged books and decorations as 'clutter'. Which is why we will each have a room of our own when we move! (the bed will be in zir room)

11. I find 'suspenseful' scenes (especially of someone slooooowly walking in the dark) in movies/shows to be really annoying. For me, it's as if someone is telling a story and pausing for three seconds between every word. If watching alone (as I usually do) I always fastforward them.

12. I used to never watch any shows, but then they started making shows like The Mentalist and Ghost Whisperer and Lie to Me and Fringe and In Treatment and other shows that explore the psychic/psychological. That FASCINATES me.

13. I'm still really, really sad and angry that they canceled Moonlight. There's only one season but oh, I love it so much! They really dialed down the sexism (such a relief for me, not having to cringe every time someone says something 'romantic' aka 'knight-and-princess-sexist-shit' -- surprising, with a vampire theme!) and the dialogue is really witty and all the cast members worked beautifully together -- such chemistry! -- and the female lead was refreshingly rounded (and instead of hiding that, they dressed zir in clothing that showed it off!!!) and the male-male friendship was intimate without 'making up for it' with sexism and violence. AMAZING, really. My partner and I are re-watching it now.

14. I'm a very relaxed driver. I prefer to go exactly the speed limit, because I feel no need to go over. (if I have to get somewhere in a hurry I get my partner to drive because ze enjoys speeding and I really dislike it, heh) I do not understand why people prefer to stress themselves out by competing and racing when they could just relax. I always drive in the slow lane so that the racy people can go around, but if it's a one-lane road I will not speed up to please the person behind me. If they climb up my tailpipe I will slow down until they pass me -- I will slow down 20 miles under the limit if I have to. Let them endanger themselves and waste gas. They either back off or pass me, and then I go back up to the speed limit. If I'm feeling really kind and there is an easy place to do it, I'll pull over and let them pass, but that doesn't usually happen.

15. I'm also very focused when I drive, and do not like to talk, touch or be touched when driving. If I'm in a new place where I have to make a lot of quick turns, I do not like to even have music on (though I do most of the time). Most of the time I will not answer the phone or even check it while driving.

16. The other day I was trimming a coffee filter and my partner said, "I love that you're recycling those" and I asked for an explanation because it didn't seem like recycling to me. Ze said that some people would just throw them away because they didn't fit and get new ones, but instead I went to the bother to trim each one to size. I think about that every time I make coffee now, and it always makes me smile.

17. I love being alone and being around people an equal amount, but I need more alone time than social time.

18. I'm never bored if left to my own devices. Even as a little kid I remember being baffled that people get bored, and wondering "why don't they just think?" Thinking has always been fun for me. I might mentally design landscapes or houses, or have conversations with people, or create myths and fantasy creatures and humanoid races for my imaginary world -- back when I was little. Now my thoughts usually drift to feminism/equalism, spirituality, designing landscapes (the one thing that has never changed), or my lovers/friends.

19. Like J said, "if I'm on the phone with someone, I'm always doing something else at the same time. Sitting down and doing nothing but talking on the phone isn't enough for my brain/body to feel stimulated and active, even if the conversation is very interesting and important to me." I recently discovered that photo-editing/icon-making is the PERFECT background activity for me while talking on the phone, and that raised my quality of life by several points!

20. I think it is unreasonable and rude to expect anyone to drop what they are doing to talk on the phone at whatever time you call. Like J said, "No one is ever entitled to getting in touch with anyone else." This is why I almost never answer the phone. No one seems to GET this! Usually when someone calls, I am not at the exact right moment for talking, so I don't answer. I finish whatever I am doing before calling them back, or if I don't feel like talking I don't call them back. And if they scold me or complain about how long it took for me to call them when I finally do, I never talk to them on the phone. I won't put up with being pressured or scolded.

21. I've always wanted to own a GIGANTIC house so that I could have tons of people come stay on holidays ;-) and just drop in for a week whenever. And maybe live with me. I don't like the idea of living in a house with just me and my partner -- that's part of the reason I want to stay in an apartment for a while yet. I just like the feel of having other people around.

22. kinda ties in to 21 -- if I was suddenly extremely rich, I'd buy land, have 8 little four-room eco-friendly solar-powered houses built in a circle with a larger building in the middle that has the only kitchen in the center (with glass-walled connecting hallways so it's like a wheel, each hall-section having a door facing in and a door facing out), and there would be a massive pool (shaded by the solar panels :D :D :D) on the grounds (with a fantastic slide!!!) and of course my dream garden, and I'd hire people to farm organically and spiritually for me and whoever wanted to live in my awesome little village :D And the land would be very wooded, with a 1/2mile driveway so that even though it wasn't very far from a big city, it would have a sense of forest. And I would also have dairy goats and rescued horses. And assuming I was EXTREMELY rich I'd also donate a ton to my causes.

23. my monetarily-supported causes: Equality Now, Georgia Equality, CHRIS Kids, RAINN, Legal Momentum, Big Trees Forest Preserve, & The Snow Leopard Trust. btw, if you want to give me a little something for my birthday but don't want to spend a lot, donate even the smallest amount to the Big Trees Forest Preserve and it will mean THE WORLD to me, I feel rather desperate that I can't afford to donate right now. I can't express how much I need that place to stay intact and well-taken-care-of.

24. My birthday is in four days :D

25. My holy books include: The Secret Life of Plants, the Bible, Betty Eadie's books, Michael J. Roads' books, Melvin Morse, M.D.'s books, and Talks with Trees. These are the books which have shaped and inspired my spirituality (so far).

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Comments
flyingshaman ══╣╠══
I love the one about the coffee filter! That made me go "awwww!"

And I -love- the way you drive, as I remember that I've told you before. Not only are you very focussed but you're very in tune with Silvia and know when something is up. I haven't met anyone before who really seems so in tune with their car the way you are. That always amazes me.

I -so- agree with you on the glasses, though I never knew your thoughts on it until now!

Wow, I would never have guessed that you didn't like the process of eating.. that's a new one to me.

Gar, I know you haven't tagged anyone, but now I feel like I might need to do this... hm.. I'll see!
belenen ══╣adorable╠══
awww :D *hughug*

edited because LJ is fucking up my icons *grrrrr*
wolfmare ══╣╠══
5 - Cow's milk makes me feel ill. Give me goat's milk though, and I'll down a quart without pausing for breath. I'm not sure what the difference is really, but there is one.

14 - That's pretty much how I drive. Back where I grew up, in southern Missouri, that was a perfectly acceptable way to drive. Down here, it seems that if you try to drive safely, everyone else will be more stupid on the road to counter it. :(

belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
5 - I know that supposedly lactose-intolerant people can often drink goat's milk with no problem, so maybe your mildly intolerant to whatever it is in cow's milk that's different (I used to know what it was but can't remember now).

14 - those people tend to pass me and get away quick ;-)
wolfmare ══╣╠══
I'd rather have those folks far enough away that if they wreck, they won't be taking me with them.
moonvoice ══╣vilturj - himalayan monal wing╠══
3 - that's really interesting. I'm okay with my glasses, precisely because they are a barrier between me and the world. *blush*

6 - I don't really enjoy the process of eating either; and I also hate preparing the food. It's one of the few things I really struggle to be 'present' for, because I actually don't want to be.

7 - Squee! Fairy lights are win. :)

20 - I completely agree with this, and actually spend whole days with the phone turned down. People can leave a message on my mobile/cell if they really want or need me. But my space is my space, and having to drop everything for a phone call is like being expected to drop everything for a visitor who hasn't given you any notice. I don't mind doing it for a brief time; but it does impinge on my space and my time.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
3 - you're not the only one, I'm sure!
20 - exactly!
rapidrabbit ══╣╠══
Still don't like to cook, huh? I've just grown to love it more and more...and I really hate that I don't have the proper time for it. I drag out cooking, taking an excruciating amount of time to do simple things (like chop spices or trim chicken) because it's so incredibly relaxing for me. Also, eating is one of my favorite things in the world. :-P

I love glasses. Contacts simply don't make sense for me right now (I get accidentally poked in the eye a lot - such is life with a toddler) and I have glasses that I love. I've always been surrounded by people with glasses, so I suppose I never saw them as a barrier. Though I do prefer when my husband wears contacts, because his prescription for nearsightedness is really strong, and his glasses make his eyes look teeny tiny. His eyes are far too pretty to be downsized. I'm farsighted, so no such problem.

Pretty much agreed on 4, though I don't think I'd want to raise my own livestock. (I simply don't think I'd be able to do a good enough job. I've provided my own food before, though, as I used to do a lot of fishing and my family lived off of those fish when I was growing up.) I'd like to be somewhere that allowed me access to a real butcher, with healthier, free-range livestock, though, because I do dislike the meat industry at large.
belenen ══╣eccentric╠══
haha, and I NEVER WILL. Unless they invent one of those protein-synthesizer things where you punch in what you want and that's all the effort 'cooking' takes, LOL! I guess for me, it's like an art form with absolutely no reward. I don't enjoy eating enough to make it worthwhile, Ben doesn't care enough to make it worthwhile, it doesn't last, and I find photos of food really gross. If I'm going to put all that creative energy into something, I want it to be something that gives me a significant reward.

I do prefer when my husband wears contacts, because his prescription for nearsightedness is really strong, and his glasses make his eyes look teeny tiny
Me too, another reason I don't like them! My eyes are too pretty for downsizing too haha!

oh wow, I didn't know that about fishing, that's really awesome!
the_lighthouse ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣amused╠══
hee hee ;-) they need to quit making cell phones smaller and work on making food smaller!
xochitl ══╣Peace╠══
i agree so much with #4. I think there is nothing inherently wrong with eating animals OR people. However, the meat industry bothers me (most 'industries' bother me), as do the things we put into the animals we kill and then eat. I grew up with a dad who would bring home wild fish and game, which seems way more natural than buying a steak from the grocery store.
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
YEAH. Mass-anything is always shit, and mass-handling of living beings is worse. If you eat what you kill (of course), I think hunting is the most responsible meat-eating.
csakita ══╣╠══
now my time to say "very interesting" ;) ... very insight-full reading, so thank you for sharing random glimpses :)
belenen ══╣amused╠══
:D
labellavoce83 ══╣╠══
I'm never bored if left to my own devices.

I agree. In college, I'd get really angry when people would come into my room and be like, "I'm really bored." I don't know if it's because I'm an only child or what, but I've always been pretty good at entertaining myself, whether it be because I picked up a book, did something on the internet, call someone, plan something, or anything, really. There's so much to do in this world, and the occasional feeling of boredom is normal, but some of my former friends used to complain about being bored all the time - probably because they needed a sideshow in the rooms 24/7 or something.

I think it is unreasonable and rude to expect anyone to drop what they are doing to talk on the phone at whatever time you call.

That's why I send tons of text messages. I've chalked a lot of it up to phone anxiety, but mostly I know I'm always in the middle of something when people call, and I don't want to inconvenience them. So by sending an email or text message, they can get back to me at their leisure or call me about it.
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
I think people get bored when they're afraid to think. If you don't know who you are, going into your own mind is a scary endeavor. What if you hate what you find there?

yeah! text messages were a very clever invention.
camilleyun ══╣╠══
I don't like to drive with music on either.

I love watching Lie to Me and Fringe.
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
Lie to Me is pretty much my favorite show right now. I'm noticing new things about people's speaking and behavior and it is so fun!
biznessman_alfa ══╣╠══
in case i'm not on in a few days, happy birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!
belenen ══╣effervescent╠══
thank you! :D
belenen ══╣transfixed╠══
that is SO AWESOME, thanks for sharing!
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