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my typical day


My typical day probably sounds very boring from the outside, because most of it happens inside my head. I have two kinds of days; when-my-partner-works and when-my-partner's-off. (when I have a visitor it's all random)

A 'when-my-partner-works' day (when I am on my preferred schedule) starts by waking up about an hour after my partner has gone to work (which varies from day to day). It goes like this:

Morning -- I get up, do some reps on the HealthRider (my goal is 10 per day at half-hour intervals, increasing the length of each set gradually), then set my phone alarm for 30 minutes and read. When it goes off, I work out again and then read again. I generally read an hour of fiction one day and then an hour of non-fiction the next, but sometimes I mix it up and do half an hour of each. Days of reading non-fiction for an hour is often followed by me talking to myself for... quite a while. This is how I compose most of my posts; I speak them out loud to myself, complete with facial expressions and exclamations, occasionally shouting -- I'm sure to someone peeking in I would look quite insane. I'll make myself tea or coffee while ranting to myself. On fiction days I'm generally less overflowing with thought and so I might just sing or dance around or talk to Kanika while making my drink. Then I check my LJ, email, facebook, etc, and have breakfast while watching a show or movie. Thirty minutes after I've eaten I set my alarm to go off in 30 minute intervals (for working out), and interrupt myself each time the alarm goes off (if I don't immediately interrupt I end up procrastinating until it never happens).

Afternoon -- My partner comes home for lunch and I usually read while ze checks zir game & car forums and plays chess and axis & allies online. Sometimes we talk -- it depends how much of a hurry ze is in. If I'm feeling especially kind I might give zir a shoulder massage. I put my contacts in about this time (can't have them in for more than 8 hours so I put them in late). Then ze goes back to work and I get online (mainly LJ, dA, & facebook), make jewelry, read, watch a movie/show, edit photos, clean up, play with Kanika, dance, or write. If it's warm I might put on clothes and go out to a coffeehouse or used book store or secondhand shop or park; if it's cold I generally stay in. (now that it's getting warm I'm finding local events to go to and people to meet)

Evening -- My partner gets home and if it's one of zir 12+ hour days, we have dinner while watching a show (we have certain ones that we only watch together; this is something that makes my partner feel loved, as ze likes doing things together). If it's a shorter day and ze gets off work early enough, we might go out for dinner or for coffee & a drive, or stay in and make love (we make plans for sex; we don't do 'quickies'). Then ze either gets on the computer or goes to bed, and I call Aurilion to talk for an hour or two. Sometimes I edit photos or make jewelry while talking, because those things involve a sort of instinct that doesn't disrupt my concentration on the conversation. Then I'm off to bed, where my partner and I snuggle a little and then 'back-cuddle' (press our backs together) and go to sleep.

A when-my-partner-is-off-work day varies. When we get zir schedule we assign days -- some are us-days and some are zir-days. On an us-day we might go to a park/reserve (that's usually what happens), or to the used-CD store, or if ze is feeling especially generous we might go to the used-book store (where I browse and ze waits). Sometimes we try out a new coffeehouse, and we usually go to our favorite Mexican restaurant or have pizza. Generally the point is just to spend time both doing things together and talking (not at the same time). On a zir-day I entertain myself while ze plays on the computer, usually Neverwinter Nights (which zir parent and four of zir siblings play). Ze likes to have me around on those days (there's so little time when ze's not at work or sleeping that we just can't waste it), so often I spend a lot of time reading or jewelry-making (I used to edit photos or write but my laptop is broken). Usually in the evening we spend a little time together -- maybe just dinner & a show, maybe more, it depends on zir mood. Those days also end with a conversation with Aurilion, though it is often shorter than usual.

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tralfamadore ══╣me - cold and in awe╠══
To me, this doesn't sound boring in the least. In fact, I'm absolutely fascinated by the control you are able to exhibit over the daily occurrences in your life. So often it seems as though my days are happening to me -- they manipulate my existence, instead of occurring visa versa.

I truly love this entry for the insight that it gives me into your life and the important nuances of life that come so far in shaping your experiences and values.
belenen ══╣kissy╠══
heh, I've not always had such structure! This year I decided I was becoming completely unable to handle any rigidity at all (instead of just disliking it) and started working to be more comfortable with things like deadlines and schedules. It's working pretty well so far!

thank you ♥
cunningbunny ══╣me╠══
Ah, how I would kill for your schedule. Mine is so much more hectic and frazzled. One day I will schedule plenty of "me" time and actually be able to follow through with it all. I haven't been able to read a book for pleasure in months, and it's a major accomplishment if I can devote a couple hours a month to artistic endeavors. I am jealous. :-P

Shame [your partner] (heh, I want to use the term on your public posts at least, but my linguistic tendancies make it seem right to do brackets since I'm replacing the name in my mind :-P) doesn't play any games I do, I'd welcome the company. Tell zir if ze ever decides to give a shot at Left 4 Dead or Sacred 2, ze'd have a built-in gamer buddy. They're newer games, but ebay is a game-price haven. :-)
belenen ══╣fantasy╠══
I am certainly quite lucky!

heh, I was tempted to use brackets too for the same reason. Ze's not too into gaming in general nowadays though -- I think ze just plays NWN to spend time with zir sibs & parent. I think it's actually been months since ze last played a shooting game (ze was VERY into Crysis for a while). Sacred 2 looks like something ze might be interested in though so I'll ask ;-) Do you ever play WOW?
cunningbunny ══╣l4d oh shit╠══
Hah, okay, now I feel a little better about my punctuation obsession. :-P

Left 4 Dead is the first shooter I've ever played. The genre as a whole never appealed to me because it's 99% war games, which bore the crap out of me. But I love horror movies, and zombies are way cooler than enemy soldiers. :-P Plus, the game actually has a female character, and I hate that war games always force you to play as a male.

Never done WOW, largely because of my boycott against pay-monthly games. (Though even if I had the disposable income, I'd lean more towards Everquest, I think. I've liked games from them, like the Champions games on PS2.) I had a Perfect World character started (MMORPG that's *free* - my favorite word :-P) but it'll stay on the backburner methinks, because I don't have that much gaming time, and I'm enjoying these two right now. (And it takes me a while to grow bored with a game.)

Have you given gaming a shot? I know it's not something you used to be into, but hey, if I can try a shooter.... ;-)
the_magpie ══╣Cardinals╠══
This sounds so... delightfully comfortable. I love knowing other people's general schedules... I might post something like this myself. Thank you very much for sharing. :)
belenen ══╣curious╠══
it is comfortable ;-) I am very lucky! I would be interested to see what your days are like too!
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belenen ══╣connate╠══
awww ♥ thank you! and hee hee :D
oceanid ══╣╠══
I love these kinds of posts, I feel like I get the opportunity to know you more rather than just "know" you. If that makes sense. Your days sound so lovely, like there is a calm to them.
moonvoice ══╣╠══
I agree with this. I like 'daily' posts because it gives more of an insight I think on some levels and a deeper kind of knowledge. It's very cool.

I like the way you map your days out. :)
belenen ══╣artless╠══
cool!

thank you ;-)
belenen ══╣artless╠══
aww, thanks! My days are pretty calm I suppose, externally anyway ;-)
celestialsight ══╣╠══
I admire your ability to create and stick with schedule like this. I wish I could get better at the sticking to it part, I really need to make my days more productive.
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
yeah, I have to do the structured part first (reading) or else it never gets done! The timer really helps me because I put the phone across the room and that way I'm already interrupted and next to the health rider so it's easy to do it (don't have to try and watch the time and then tear myself away from whatever I'm doing).
aliyna ══╣╠══
This seems way more structured than my life! You seem to have a lot of discipline when it comes to exercise, which I do not.
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
Heh, well, the phone-timer really helps me because I put the phone across the room and that way I'm already interrupted and next to the health rider so it's easy to do it (don't have to try and watch the time and then tear myself away from whatever I'm doing). Plus the health rider is actually FUN so it's not such a chore. I can visualize myself flying and the movement fits right in.
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belenen ══╣nuzzle╠══
yeah, I am very lucky not to need a paying job!

hee hee, yeah, my partner has asthma and gets claustrophobic if ze is facing me, but we like to be touching, so back-cuddling works. Sometimes I face zir for a while but I can't really fall asleep that way because I need a pillow between my knees to be comfortable. (we both sleep with body pillows)
xochitl ══╣Art is srs biznss╠══
These sound similar to my days recently! I'm enjoying having some time off from working. :3
belenen ══╣curious╠══
cool! what sort of things do you do?
deleon ══╣╠══
It is interesting that you wrote this post, because I have often wondered what your daily schedule looks like, though I'm not sure why I have wondered this. LOL! That is a GREAT idea about setting your phone alarm. I know I "should" do my exercises first thing in the morning. But I get on the internet instead. Then procrastinate doing my exercises. I keep watching the clock saying "oh only five more minutes" -which turns into an hour. But an auditory alarm would be better.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
oh, yeah, I have to overcome my procrastination with an irritating phone alarm *giggles* Otherwise I'd never get around to it, for sure.
clown_frog ══╣╠══
I've heard people say "man, i'd be so BORED if I stayed at home all day", as if that reflects well on them... I don't think it does. If they mean they really enjoy their work then thats good, but not to be able to entertain yourself for long stretches of time is a sad thing. I wish I was better at it. It would be the lack of interaction that would drive me crazy if I didn't go to work, but I would prefer to get that interaction in others ways!

It is wonderful the way you entertain yourself, your imagination, it is something very special. I'd like to think everyone is capable of that... but perhaps everyone is different... some people need masses of friends and talking to people (rather than enjoying alone). Whether talking to yourself, out loud or otherwise, or talking to others, its the use-of-mind that is the thing. Well, thats what I think. Keeps it alive, growing. Not dusty wrinkly pear-fruit.

I like the way you and your partner do things together, it sounds so comfortable :)

Neverwinter nights is dungeons and dragons, right? *whispers* if you don't know this site already, it might be good place to get patrner presents... jinx.com... it might be really well known in America, I'm not sure.


belenen ══╣voltaic╠══
Yeah! Exactly! People tend to be like, if you don't have a paying job, what do you DO? and I'm like... the same things I'd be doing in my spare time if I DID have a paying job! It's amazing how if I work as a cashier for 40 hours a week I am considered more productive than if I spend my time educating myself and interacting with others in meaningful ways and creating art. I just don't get that... money is not that important. I mean, if you need it that's one thing -- but sacrificing time for money just to have extra money? no thank you!

Oh, I do need more interaction... it's just so hard to find. And having a job didn't help me at ALL -- almost all the conversations were so surface-level -- but it may have been the places I worked. I'd like to try working somewhere interesting, where I could keep my violet hair and wear funky clothing.

Hee, it is comfortable ;-) it was difficult to get to this point but we really fit together beautifully nowadays.

Well, NWN is created with dungeons and dragons background, but it's actually an MMORPG. thanks for the link though!
clown_frog ══╣╠══
Its all crazy. Its a kind of brain washing, I think, although not deliberate. Just "the way things are". Job good, no job bad. People on benefits especially bad! Ach. I do not like it. The whole system is stupid. And some jobs... like working on a line in a car door factory. It sucks. It is entirely just doing something for the money. Don't even CARE about the output. Or being an envelope stuffer. I'm not saying people who do these jobs are just completely unproductive... and if people are happy doing this then that is good! But I hate that these jobs exist.

I want to someday support myself doing something that I can see happening, and that means something to me. Like running a bed and breakfast, growing own vegetables. Anything!

Would I work if I didn't need the money? No! Or not at this work anyway. If its something where the time doesn't feel like a sacrifice then yes, but not this!

Anyway, ranting, and not making much sense! Ideas aren't in order, haven't thought it all over.

Mmm, my interaction at work is not exactly fulfilling, but having people and words around me is good for me. Somehow. I don't know why, but I recognise the effects when I go without! I had a man yesterday who came to the door and talked at me for AGES, using the phrase "I hate to bitch, but..." about five times! But still it is better for me than none.

I miss cuddles.

(just talking of human interaction)

Does your partner (try not to use zer name because comments public too, I guess, it feels strange somehow) enjoy work? Or want more spare time? Curious, but ok if you don't want to share words on that.
frecklestars ══╣alone & dreaming╠══
Bah, this isn't boring! I was always a bit curious. And honestly, your days sound lovely. Enviable. I wish I had the time to call people. But with 10-12 hours on campus each day (though this week I've been slacking), plus any errands that need to get done, I just feel so frenzied that it's difficult to call people. I kind of wish I had a job where my work didn't come home with me, even though I usually like it.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
cool! glad you liked ;-) I am very lucky!
urban_ballerina ══╣╠══
do you find scheduling sex in takes out the spontienty or romance? just a question because been with my boyfriend so awhile...and been through some horrible life stuff and getting back into it is not so easy. i havent tried planning it becaz of feelings that it is too sterile or something being planned or something. but i know once you do a bit the rest follows...so maybe ill give planning a go. weve been together for ages and it used to always happen but since me being sick its been harder and think maybe scheduling could work. haha.

if not in sexual endevours, but in taking up inspiration from this entry i really think i need more routine to my day. im terrible with it. just cant do it. but when i do do it it feels good and helps you to be more ontop of things. so maybe too in sexual habits? who knows..haha
darkpool ══╣╠══
Sounds very..maybe fufilling? peaceful anyway. Routines are really helpful, they sound yucky yo those of us who aren't naturally attuned to routines but I've learned that they really help you do more of what you want. I was getting a good routine going for a while and actually finding so much more time for myself. But like everything thing else, after Jason lost his job that went kablooey. Now I'm just so tired all the time from working and trying to do everything else.
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