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question: most interesting and thought-provoking question(s)?


I'm working on a re-do for my get-to-know-you survey, so...

What is the most interesting and thought-provoking question you've ever been asked?
alternatively: what question(s) are your favorite(s) to ask when you want to REALLY get to know someone?


multiple responses and stories behind those questions also welcome :D

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jendaby ══╣Soul of Iris╠══
I have been asked so many, and I'm sure that I will think of many more after I click to post! Someone once asked me where I thought I would be if I hadn't experienced some of the traumatic events of my youth. After much consideration, I came up with this answer:

I would be an artist, probably a painter, living in the Pacific Northwest in a house in the forest that had huge windows. I would have cats, and probably a bloodhound. I would have a same-sex partner who had a more ordinary job, and if we were lucky, we would have adopted a child. I would probably have never given up smoking, and I would probably not have contact with my extended family.
This concept is based on the area in which I really excelled in school (I won competitions), the college I wanted to go to (but couldn't afford), and the fact that I always planned to stay with the first person I fell in love with who genuinely loved me back. Of course, another version of this scenario is the same as above, only I am alone in a studio apartment in Seattle or Portland with three cats.

And I often stop and think that, while I would have liked to have done things differently and not have been hurt when I was young, the events that occurred put me in the right place at the right time to be on the path I am now. I face challenges, I have obstacles to overcome, and I get frustrated with things, but I know that I am loved. I know that I have friends. I am happy that I have a bond with my extended family. It doesn't make me grateful for the truly horrific experiences, but it does help put things in perspective and to remind me that sometimes what we seek isn't the path that is best for us. Sometimes we need to climb over some rocks and mud, and when we pull ourselves up, we will find we have reached a vista we never imagined.
jendaby ══╣Anthropologists╠══
And my favorite question to ask people is what periods of history appeal to them and why. Not necessarily "when would you live" because most of us stop and think about hygiene and medicine and sanitation, but "when would you like to visit, as an invisible witness"

Of course, there are so many civilizations and cultures that we still do not know about or understand, and the anthropologist in me wants very much to see them!!! But, in general, I would like to see all aspects of culture during the times of Art Nouveau and Art Deco. I think the clothing, art and architecture from those times is beautiful, and there were so many huge advancements in technology! But the way history is portrayed, the upper-class is so romanticized (and everyone who says they want to live then is imagining themselves rich - I have done this too, since it is the main focus of most literature and, in the latter era, film, of the times). But really, any time where we as a species created so much beauty - and, oh, the music from the 30s! Especially the jazz! So, so awesome! Obviously, I wish that there had always been more gender and racial equality because I don't like seeing people hurt or oppressed, but I feel like the 30s were sort of the beginning of people realizing that women could do more, and people began to become aware of the dangers of racism. I know a lot of terrible things happened then, too, but I think that is true of any era. I would like to know more about the history of America from the perspective of different cultures.

Anyway, it is always a great get-to-know you! :)
biznessman_alfa ══╣jesse james is my homie╠══
it's 1 of my favorite questions to ask people too. everyone sees how the "upperclass" lives in the movies/shows/books/etc, but it's never the "real person" in history. the slave/servant/ordinary person. you never hear people say "i wanna live in the 1800s as a factory worker." it's always "17th century England during Henry VIII" or something like that. history is always romanticized, that that's what people think history is, basically what's on shows like The Tudors.

I would like to know more about the history of America from the perspective of different cultures.
i'd like to know too. i think it would be pretty interesting.
yourcowboymouth ══╣╠══
"are you happy with your life"
jenniology ══╣Musings╠══
"What makes you you?"

Second place goes to "What inspires you - what makes you joyful?" because it is so hard to answer with words.
aerialmelodies ══╣Leaf╠══
I was asked on an interview "What would you change about yourself?" Normally you'd be asked "What can you do better on the job?" but that one made me go "ummmmmmmmmm" for over a minute!
tralfamadore ══╣╠══
When being interviewed for positions in groups or organizations at college, I was inevitably asked the same question. Since I attend(ed) school in the same town which I was born and raised in, people always wanted to know how I thought my upbringing in this community shaped who I am today. They were curious about my experiences living in my hometown, and how the experiences I have had here effected the person I have become.

Perhaps my most favored question to ask people is about reincarnation. The first thing I request is that they put apart their beliefs about the subject and answer as if reincarnation is, in fact, a certainty. This sometimes puts people off, but I love asking people to consider who or what they may have been in a past life. The responses are always so fascinating and I find that even the people who have never really considered the idea of reincarnation before give answers which deeply reflect themselves in some light.
frecklestars ══╣English language╠══
What's your favorite word? And if you can't pick just one (I know I couldn't), pick five.
celestialsight ══╣╠══
This question in and of itself is pretty thought-provoking. =)

What do you value most in life? What do you consider the greatest achievement(s) in your life thus far? What inspires you/brings you the greatest joy/pleasure in life? What/who shaped you the most, into the person you are today? What does "love" mean to you?
camilleyun ══╣╠══
Questions I like:

If you could have any one superpower, what would it be and why?

If you were attending a costume party, what would your costume be and why?

And the most important one to which for me there is only one correct answer that I would be comfortable with:

You and I are walking down the street. Someone comes up to me, yelling and screaming with limbs flailing accusing me of things. I freeze. As I'm standing there motionless with no readable expression on my face, what do you do?
clown_frog ══╣╠══
This is the kind of post where if I made it I'd be disappointed if people didn't respond, so I'm gonna! Sadly though, cannot think of any questions in particular I've been asked that have been most interesting and thought provoking... I think because the most interesting and thought provoking things come from discussions.

Do you ever stop to think WHY you are you? Why are you looking out from these eyes and no others? Does that affect your belief in science or god? Reality?

I know I can never get my head around it. It all makes sense until I ponder that one... but at the same time its so awfully difficult that asking it might get very little by way of response!

I'll have a think :-)

People like to talk about themselves, their experiences, in general. So anything that taps into that. Depends on the mood of the person asked. And people like to give advice.
on communication, social justice, intimacy, consent, friendship & other relationships, spirituality, gender, queerness, & dreams. Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.
Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.