February 2018
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lost passion for LJ / how I use facebook & twitter


I have a particular style of journaling; most of my posts are "this happened [in detail] and this is how it made me feel and these are the philosophical/spiritual/relational thoughts it inspired. [in a looooong post]" And that's the sort of journal I prefer to read, also, as it almost invariably inspires me both emotionally and mentally. For years I had several friends who posted primarily in that style -- first Anika, Ash, & Kate; then Hannah, Meliae, & Ava; then Aurilion, J, & Andie. (everyone I friend has some element of this, but they're the ones who did it the most) Now some of those have moved to other journaling sites or have changed posting style or very rarely post or have taken an indefinite hiatus, and I feel rather tenuously connected to LJ. I miss Hannah the most -- a post that takes at least half an hour to read (at least four full-screen-length paragraphs) and an hour to reply to, THAT is my kind of post! I can sink into it, live it. (sharing photos is a big part of that too) Ohhh I miss that SO much. And it makes me really sad because without that I've lost a lot of my passion for LJ. I comment really rarely now even though I read everything and often hit the reply page -- I just feel disconnected from LJ itself. And what's more annoying is that I've stopped replying to comments in MY journal. I want to find some way to revitalize my love for LJ. I think it'll involve finding new people with whom to form that sort of intellectual foursome, which seems to be unlikely amounts of too-perfect. (says the faithless one) I need to at least make an effort -- I have a permanent account f'cryin'outloud, I don't want it to go to waste.

With LJ, I only friend people who post often and in a style I like, because otherwise I'll just end up skimming their posts and I'll feel like I'm lying to them by having them on my flist but not reading them. But I friend most everyone who requests it on facebook, because I don't have the same goal there. With LJ, I want to develop real friendships; with facebook, I just want to keep in contact and get to know people. I'm open to developing friendships via facebook, of course, but I don't feel I'm setting a goal of friendship by adding someone there.

Facebook is so different from all the other social networking sites I've been part of; I'm used to internet communication being pretty exclusively with not-in-person friends. On facebook I mainly connect with people I've known in person; relatives, in-laws, high school friends, friends from so long ago that we disagree on most everything, and (since summer) local friends. It's so weird to me! And I never thought that such a 'superficial' method of communication would have any value to me, but I actually have become quite fond of facebook. I've found that even when people don't share lengthy introspection, I can get a sense of who they are and what's important to them through their status updates, links, and photos. Not as good a sense, of course, but something meaningful nonetheless.

Twitter is another 'silly' method of connection that I've become fond of. There I connect with LJ friends, mainly, and I've loved seeing a new side of them -- all the little things that aren't enough to post about but still interesting enough to share. I have it connected to my facebook status, as it serves pretty much the same purpose but with a different group of people. And it's become kinda an art form to me to make tweets that are exactly 140 characters and neither fluffed nor missing important info.

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aeffortless ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
hm, I've never really considered switching journals. How does that affect you?
oceanid ══╣╠══
Yes, I recently made a post similar to this a few days ago. Everyone seems to be moving on to other mediums, I wonder whether it's even worth me posting my thoughts given I doubt anyone is around to read them now. Similarly tho, I don't want to pour my inner thoughts into twitter or face book, as much as I love those tools, they don't have the same level of depth LJ has always had for me.

I've been thinking tho, that instead of just noting the problem I should do something about it. Based on the responses of my last post, it looks like people still do come around to read, maybe I should just keep on posting and not worry who does read. Kinda like, post for myself :)
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
well, I do post for myself, but I don't have as much to say because I don't have that same continuous source of inspiration. It used to be that my response to other people's posts was always spinning off into my own journal because it inspired me so much. Now... well, I still find inspiration in my flist, but it's not the kind that makes me want to write. :-/
moonvoice ══╣ghibli - PM - night-walker╠══
I have become quite fond of Facebook too. Especially as my 'real life' family knows almost nothing about me (I'm quite a recluse, and reluctant to share details in real life), so they've learnt a lot about me online, and in exchange, we've actually grown stronger in some of our relationships.

Twitter I also like, though I forget about it sometimes.

But Livejournal is my first love, and I still check it every day. I agree that the saturation of quality posts has gone down somewhat since the advent of other sites that promote shorter blogs or soundbytes and so on.... but there's still enough here to keep me here.
callmebee ══╣╠══
I think your style of posts is one of the main things that I liked about you. You have a way of drawing my attention in and making me actually want to click the ljcut. For a while, I even tried to copy it in my own journaling until I realized that I have my own style and that it's a perfectly good style.

I still love your posts though, fyi.

I recently came out of a "disenchanted with lj" phase, and find that I actually want to post again. For me it comes and goes, but right now there's so much inspiration (positive and negative) that I need to have that space where I can share it, even if I write it for myself. That's the aspect of livejournal I like the most, that even though this is just for me I know that others are taking part in my inner workings and seeing things in words I'd never say aloud (even if I really, really want to).

I got a facebook account around the same time I got my first LJ account, when I still went by PinkHair or whatever it was that I went by back then. It was only for college students at the time, and way different. I like it a lot now, and I like that I can talk to my mom there. LJ though, this is where I bare my heart.
acid_burns ══╣ta/ never was a cornflake girl╠══

I just don't have any words these days. I wish there was a way to remedy this.
theindiequeen ══╣╠══
I know exactly what you mean. I used to post so much more in my LJ that I have been recently. (Although, I've been trying to "revive" my livejournal lately.) And due to some major conflicts that have happened over the years that started with things I said in my livejournal, I don't feel like I can be as "open" here as I used to be. I still use LJ as a private journal at times when I feel like typing instead of writing, but it's not really the same.

I really enjoy reading your livejournal, though! You're one of the few people on my flist whose entries I always look forward to.
sidheblessed ══╣╠══
I have noticed that many people on my friends list are not writing as deeply on LJ as they used to. I know I am not. For me, it's lack of energy and inability to focus. I miss writing more deeply and have many entries stored in my brain to commit to writing as soon as I can. I don't know when I'll get energy back but I do hope my brain will return once the baby is out!

I am not sure why there are less deep post on LJ. I think a lot of people are busier or busy working on their own personal work privately. Facebook and Twitter do have something to do with it but I don't think that's all it is. It's probably a combination of all of the above.

I still enjoy reading your LJ and appreciate that you still post in the same deeper style. :)
kiwi ══╣╠══
I'm the same way as you - my LJ friends are FRIENDS, the people on FB are people I know in some way, shape, or form. As I've said, it's the reason why I'm really careful to never post very personal things there. As far as twitter goes, so few people know I have a twitter account that I do it more for the sake of being random. I like the idea of spouting off something quick and random and having someone else find it and say "hmm" or "oh, me too!" or something like that.

I think these phases do come and go. I find right now that I'm so exhausted by the day to day that I don't have the energy to post. Which is a shame, because I assure you that I have a lot to say...it's just that things are so out of control in my world that I don't have it in me to try and write it. I should post that...thanks for the reminder.

I like your posts, personally. You're one of those people whom if I miss a week or two of updates, I check out to see what's up.
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Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.