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active, thoughtful LJ friends: recommend your friends and yourself!


icon: "vivacious (me, hugging myself and smiling engagingly)"

I've had a number of friends saying that they want to find more active, thoughtful LJ friends. And I always want more friends who write about stuff like:


  • an interaction they had with someone that made them realize something new

  • their introspective, thorough, and specific take on concepts that are often assumed to be the same for everyone: friendship, romance, sex, gender, relationships, parenting, etc

  • an experience they had that conveyed deep meaning to them

  • their specific desires, especially ones that aren't common

  • their core values and how they live them

  • events in their past that shaped their present

  • previous intense relationships (friends, family, lovers)

  • their daily life and how they learn from it (not interested in a recap without the thoughts and feelings that went with it)

  • their spirituality and how they invest in it (ritual, meditation, prayer, self-education, etc)


Have some friends like this? recommend them in the comments! if you have a lot like this, pick a random set of eight or fewer.


You are an LJer like this? Fill this out!


also feel free to spread the word!

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belenen ══╣artless╠══
I have many (very lucky!), picking just a few who I think may welcome new friends:

bunnika, kmiotutsie, lilywolfsolomon, call_me_katya, sidheblessed, keiwontia, chillychilly22, & wolfteaparty.
bunnika ══╣bel: rainbow building╠══
Yes yes all the friends. Filling out one momentarily. ^.^
lilywolfsolomon ══╣╠══
I wish I could friend you twice!
keiwontia ══╣╠══
Also will fill this out later! Definitely interested. Love talking about myself anyhow ^^
sidheblessed ══╣╠══
I'm up for new friends! I shall fill in a survey. :)
bunnika ══╣bunny: reach╠══
1) My age and location: 30, Laurel, MD, USA
2) My self-labels: Nonbinary, pagan polyromantic, asexual, queer, feminist, socialist, crippled parent. Probably more, that's off the top of my head.
3) My posts usually fall into the following categories: Daily happenings, reflections on my relationships and life choices, my journey towards self-discovery
4) My favorite things to read on my friends list are: Deep musings on the things that matter most to my friends
5) My friendship dealbreakers are: Unchallenged prejudice, untrustworthiness, uh...republicanism? :-P
6) I post entries on average once every: (day, 2 days, week, etc) Couple days
7) Things I like to do to become more of my ideal self: Question my outlooks and actions, question the people in my life, question the world. All the questions!
8) Also, if you hate kids or animals we probably won't mesh. I'm totally up for friending across platforms, too, so if you wanna be Facebook or Tumblr friends too, lemme know!
call_me_katya ══╣Cat╠══
I'd like to add you, partly on the basis that we were both tagged in this, and also that you seem like a very nice person! Would that be okay?
bunnika ══╣bunny: reach╠══
Absolutely! Any friend of Bel's and all that. :-)
lilywolfsolomon ══╣╠══
1) My age and location: 32, Atlanta, GA, USA

2) My self-labels: Queer, pagan/Jewish/Buddhist and all that, non-binary, trans, kinky, pan/demisexual, anarchist, "poly"/relationship anarchist with spiritual process commitment orientation, otherkin, priestess, sacred intimate, lover, fool.

3) My posts usually fall into the following categories: Transformation, the deeper meaning behind everyday life and events, healing, following synchronicity and my heart, cathartic release, whatever I feel inspired to write about, which often involves some kind of longing for the divine. I love writing from prompts and I am excited to start writing from the ones offered above.

4) My favorite things to read on my friends list are: I want to see your insides. I want to see how you work, how you process, what matters to you, what scares you, what you love, what you long for. Really I want to see you writing about whatever you're inspired to write about. If it matters to you, I"m there.

5) My friendship dealbreakers are: dishonesty, unquestioned judgmental attitudes and rigidity towards others, any kind of manipulation/abuse/drama...

6) I post entries on average once every: it varies widely!

7) Things I like to do to become more of my ideal self: Intimacy practices where I consistently learn to take down walls and be more and more open with my heart. Writing, expressing, vulnerability and surrender. Ritual. Expressing, writing, sharing. Meditating and spending long hours in nature. Connect deeply with music.

8) Also, I love being *there* for my LJ friends. It's always been a sacred community to me, a family, and my online journal friends totally changed my life over the years, and I really want to feel I'm sharing this journey of life with you. I love being supportive in whatever way I am able; if you're struggling, I'm there. <3 Facebook/Tumblr work for me as well.

My recommendation: dolphindream, a dear friend of many years.
ravensong ══╣Me: Cemetery╠══
Hi! I hope you don't mind, but I added you. You seem pretty cool, and I couldn't help but notice that your birthday is 6 days after mine! (Same year and all :D)

Going to fill out my own little survey thing in a comment to the actual post :)
lilywolfsolomon ══╣╠══
Of course! And wow, I was actually born just six days after you! Really looking forward to reading and I'm excited about what I'll learn from you.
taigerchily ══╣zhang ziyi - flying daggers - gruss╠══
Hi :) you seem pretty interesting, and I'd like to get to know you.
I added you so you can have a look at my journal :)
ravensong ══╣Me: Cemetery╠══
1) My age and location: 32, New Jersey

2) My self-labels: queer, genderqueer, geek, Pagan, feminist, animal-lover, writer

3) My posts usually fall into the following categories: Spirituality, musings about my writing, relationship things, day to day life, equality issues, animals, and photography (though the last is not very often as I'm just exploring photography)

4) My favorite things to read on my friends list are: other people's thoughts on spirituality, sexuality, and social issues

5) My friendship dealbreakers are: dishonesty, disloyalty, racism/sexism, unapologetic homophobia, basically intolerance

6) I post entries on average once every: (day, 2 days, week, etc) 2-3 days. I try to be more active here (I'd ideally like to post nearly every day), but life doesn't always allow for that

7) Things I like to do to become more of my ideal self: continue my writing, practice my spirituality, take a few courses in various things (go to college, but also take courses in things like tarot and Runic work)

8) Also, I'm kind of obsessed with books and writing. It's my life's blood.
alicroc ══╣╠══
i may just steal your prompts and write about them all :D
webgirluk ══╣pic#118113725╠══
1) My age and location: 41/UK.
2) My self-labels: Deep thinker, quirky, creative, open minded, analytical, childfree, introvert, non conventional, young at heart, writer, radio presenter, sister like friend.
3) My posts usually fall into the following categories: Self discovery, my journey and thoughts of trying to build a meaningful social circle, deeper thoughts in general on relationships, social issues, psychological issues, hobbies, friendships, goals, the livejournal community.
4) My favourite things to read on my friends list are: As above really.
5) My friendship dealbreakers are: People who are unkind in nature or excessively arrogant. I try and focus on what is working in a friendship, rather than what doesn't gel so not sure I come with many dealbreakers as such.
6) I post entries on average once every: (day, 2 days, week, etc) About twice a week but it does vary and I'm hoping to post more. Maybe with more LJ friends where we can step into one another's lives and connect well, I'd get the inspiration to post more. I do value feedback to posts as well as being there for others when it comes to offering thoughts on their life journey.
7) Things I like to do to become more of my ideal self: I like to read, to think, reflect and self create goals.
8) Also, I seem to get on best with those I guess who feel a bit *unsettled* in life or very different to the norm. For example, I'm not married, quite reclusive, no kids and am only ambitious in my own hobbies and don't really care about ambition in a career/working for someone else sense.

I strongly value friendship and those seeking real friendships although having friendly LJ friends where we can connect in our journals with no interaction away from it is fine too. I do like a mix of both and two way interaction matters to me on here.

Also, I like getting to know people who relate to mental health struggles.
slinkslowdown ══╣[[Custom]] Fox silhouette╠══
1) My age and location: 25 / Nanaimo, BC, Canada
2) My self-labels: Pansexual, genderqueer, genderfluid, non-binary, transgender, LaVeyan Satanist, atheist, 6.5 on the Dawkins Scale, disabled, cripple, peripheral neuropathy, PTSD, OCD, panic attacks, curious, science-lover, animal-lover, furry, writer, artist.
3) My posts usually fall into the following categories: Stuff about my day, posting about my transition, posting memes, music videos, furry art, work*.
4) My favorite things to read on my friends list are: Anything my friends post, to be honest. I like seeing what different people use their journals for.
5) My friendship dealbreakers are: Bigotry.
6) I post entries on average once every: (day, 2 days, week, etc) Day, sometimes more often.
7) Things I like to do to become more of my ideal self: Keep track of my transition and goals.
8) Also, *I'm a volunteer with LJ Support. I often post my frustrations about the work and funny things that happen. I also post any known issues affecting the site so my friends know what's going on.
guardiancastiel ══╣╠══
1) My age and location: 23/TX,USA
2) My self-labels: daughter, friend, lover, 65% heterosexual, cat lover, writer, nurse, feminist, activist
3) My posts usually fall into the following categories: New stuff going on in my life, fandom talk, fan fiction stories
4) My favorite things to read on my friends list are: New fan fictions, other people's life going-on's
5) My friendship dealbreakers are: Bigotry
6) I post entries on average once every: (day, 2 days, week, etc) I haven't posted that often until recently due to bad internet. I'd like to post every couple of days or so.
7) Things I like to do to become more of my ideal self: Suppress my default feelings
8) Also, I love to crochet and craft. Will be finishing school for Registered Nursing in May
taigerchily ══╣zhang ziyi - flying daggers - hat╠══
1) My age and location: 40, Switzerland

2) My self-labels: minimalist, perfectionist, seeker, dreamer, writer, me

3) My posts usually fall into the following categories: my daily life, my search for myself, and whatever bothers me

4) My favorite things to read on my friends list are: everything that helps to get to know my friends better.

5) My friendship dealbreakers are: intolerance, fanaticism & radicalism, disrespect

6) I post entries on average once every: (day, 2 days, week, etc) it varies widely

7) Things I like to do to become more of my ideal self: reading, (therapeutic) writing, meditating, trying!

8) Also, it's been a while since I was regularly active in my journal. There had been several attempts to write more, but all of them failed. I started to realise that livejournal wasn't the home on the net it used to be, and I wondered why. Now I know what I missed: Me, posting more good entries. Deep entries, not just blah blah I did this, I did that, my kids did this, they did that. I can use facebook for this. I want my journal to be a place where I can talk about what really bothers me, what makes me happy, what makes me sad. I want it to be a safe place where I can share my thoughts, and where I can be honest (especially to myself).
raidingparty ══╣╠══
I really wasn't planning on doing this...
... but something pulled me back today.

1) My age and location: 35, Decatur, GA, USA
2) My self-labels: Utilitarian, White, Viking, male, straight-presenting (genderless sapiosexual), Christian by culture (polyreligious conceptually), cisgendered, partnered, social capital, potential ally for underclass
3) My posts usually fall into the following categories: Primarily experiences in my own life (of late, focusing on my relationship), followed by theories about the world at large, followed by entertainment snippets: Jokes, poems, songs.
4) My favorite things to read on my friends list are: New discoveries.
5) My friendship dealbreakers are: Intentional harm, unwillingness to learn (especially in regards to unintentional harm), disrespect
6) I post entries on average once every: (day, 2 days, week, etc) 2 weeks, at this point? Would like to up to 1 week.
7) Things I like to do to become more of my ideal self: Pay attention. Make lists. Stop reading Facebook automatically. Connect people.
8) Also, it's...
raidingparty ══╣╠══
Re: I really wasn't planning on doing this...
You already know raoin, but I'm also friends with chris-warrior and wolven, and I think ye'd synch in different circles.
starcrossed ══╣╠══
1) My age and location: 28, Maine
2) My self-labels: no labels
3) My posts usually fall into the following categories: I talk a lot about my dance and musical theatre stuff. Otherwise a mix of RL and fandom.
4) My favorite things to read on my friends list are: Fandoms in common, RL stuff (really interested in dance/ballet, musical theatre and NYC.)
5) My friendship dealbreakers are: When everyone post/paragraph are 'my boyfriend did this' and 'my boyfriend did that.' Also I do not appreciate drunk posts.
6) I post entries on average once every: (day, 2 days, week, etc) Varies, always at least once a week, no more than twice a day.
7) Things I like to do to become more of my ideal self: exposure for my bus anxiety.
8) Also,
call_me_katya ══╣╠══
Thanks so much for the tag, I'm genuinely honoured to be included! It always takes me ages to think what I want to write in these things but...

1) My age and location:
33, Belfast, Northern Ireland [part of the UK]
2) My self-labels:
Thinker, writer, singer, creator, eager, learning.
3) My posts usually fall into the following categories:
Accounts of my day, but hopefully interesting ones. Thoughts and feelings. Some self-doubt which I talk through so it loses its power. Hopes and dreams, and odd little realisations.
4) My favorite things to read on my friends list are:
Just general life-posts. What do you love? What are your motivations, struggles, everythings? Humour is also good! Someone who reaches out instead of purely updating for themselves in an insular fashion.
5) My friendship dealbreakers are:
Manipulation, underhandedness, dishonesty. Playing one off against the other. Keeping someone deliberately in the dark.
6) I post entries on average once every: (day, 2 days, week, etc)
Probably around 3 times a week, I think?
7) Things I like to do to become more of my ideal self:
Meet new people, sing, dance and feel free. Walk, write, create poetry and songs.
Things I would like to do but don't really fully understand yet: Ritual, meditation, learning more about Paganism. I would like to not have to feel the need to understand something fully before I try it.
8) Also, I guess I'm here to make friends. Just because someone lives thousands of miles away doesn't mean they can't be a true friend; I'm really finding that out on LJ. Yay humans!
mccfan ══╣MCC╠══
1) My age and location: 44 – Australia
2) My self labels: Lesbian, stubbornly independent, deep thinker, quirky
3) My posts usually fall into the following categories: I don't post to my journal very often, but when I do, it's brief. My posts are random. Sometimes about me, sometimes about whatever has my attention at the time...
4) My favorite things to read on my friends list are: recommendations of things - books, movies etc. Opinions on topical news. Personal stuff if you want to share...
5) My friendship dealbreakers are: posts constantly filled with photos/stories of babies, weddings, selfies or celebrities. Negative people, homophobes, or those who are completely self absorbed...
6) I post entries on average once every: ha! I haven't posted to my journal in months, but am hoping to change that...
7) Things I like to do to become more of my ideal self: learn to trust more, doubt less, exercise more, eat less and enjoy my life as I sit comfortably in my own skin…
8) Anything else? I generally prefer to make the occasional comment on friends' pages, but am trying to get back to post on my own journal. (See my profile for interests.) Happy to add new friends if you are not expecting an overload of comments and updates. Ask away if you want to know anything...
starcrossed ══╣╠══
Friends? You seem like an interesting person and your dealbreakers are mine!
mccfan ══╣Rainbow Notes╠══
sure!
tjoel2 ══╣╠══
I remember you from LJ Idol, early in the season. I'm very interested in spirituality. Mind if I friend you?
sidheblessed ══╣╠══
1) My age and location: 31, Canberra, Australia
2) My self-labels: Queer, lesbian (in the context of my relationship), bisexual, disabled, feminist, writer, reader, mother, animal-lover, tea-drinker, polyamorous, Pagan, Druid, plus size/curvy, bibliophile, performer, journaler.
3) My posts usually fall into the following categories: What I've been up to, important news, my thoughts and feelings. I'm working on including more entries including my deeper feelings and philosphies in 2015.
4) My favorite things to read on my friends list are: All of the above! I also love seeing pictures of where you live and the people you love
5) My friendship dealbreakers are: Any kind of prejudice you deny/refuse to work on, cruelty or mean-spiritedness, using me as a thing rather than treating me like a person.
6) I post entries on average once every: (day, 2 days, week, etc) Once a week or so.
7) Things I like to do to become more of my ideal self: Write in my journal, asking myself what my motivations behind my actions are, trying to spot habits and patterns of behaviour, coming up with plans of action to create healthier behaviours, listen to my gut, ask for what I want, work through any new or long term grieving, talk to a therapist about any long term issues I need outsider help in working through, apologising when I'm wrong.
8) Also,

on communication, social justice, intimacy, consent, friendship & other relationships, spirituality, gender, queerness, & dreams. Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.
Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.