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yay it hasn't been a month-long gap!


icon: "eccentric (a photo of me tilting my head and with raised eyebrows and a pursed-lipped smile)"

Sure enough, this new schedule is helping me do more LJ! it hasn't shown up yet but I have written several partial entries last week and I have been reading more. I am setting my priority like this: read at least 3 times a week, write every lunch even if it is small and I don't share it, post at least twice a week, reply to comments, comment on others' entries. I feel bad to put that at the bottom but I can bring it up more when I have repaired my connection with LJ more. I'm also allowing myself to be "sloppy" and reply to comments and posts here and there without trying to be perfectly fair and never miss anything, because that just sets me up for failing.

I think I also need to do some switching up of my list, because there are some lovely people who I just can't keep up with and there are a lot of defunct journals. For me to really connect with people I need them to post 2-20 times a month. Much more than that and I start feeling really guilty that I can't keep up, but any less than 2x a month and I feel like we can't build any momentum. It also helps me when there are a few new people on my flist because the extra curiosity boosts my ability to read everyone. So if you know any good friending memes or if you know people who I don't know who post reflections on their lives and relationships, please let me know.

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Comments
wantedonvoyage ══╣╠══
Do what brings you joy. I probably overpost from your perspective but it's part of my own self-care process.
belenen ══╣╠══

not at all, no such thing! there's no wrong amount to post, just amounts I'm good at and amounts I'm not good at. I would NEVER want to discourage anyone from writing as much as they possibly wanted.

webgirluk ══╣╠══
Yay for your new schedule working out ;-) I don't post a lot but I think that's partly as not many read. If I had a small group of dedicated, life share readers, I would post more probably.
call_me_katya ══╣╠══
I'm not sure how good this is - no-one has replied to me but I've found a few people by replying to their posts - but I found a friending meme a few days ago. The person who runs it ran one a couple of months ago with the same questions, but this is definitely from a week ago.

https://spiral-meter.livejournal.com/695922.html
cactus_rs ══╣Gene Kelly╠══
Small victories :D
ragnarok_08 ══╣A19 ★ alice seno╠══
Hooray for the new schedule working out!
darkestgarden ══╣╠══
How do you manage those who left for DW? Does it matter at all? I try to post links but I need to get better at mirroring in a timely manner. You're the only person I'm still connected to through LJ now (everyone else has fallen off the radar or moved to DW) so if something better would work for you I'm willing to change things up.
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Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.