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photoshoot with storeyphoto / why I no longer shave

on the photoshoot:
planned to leave last night and spend the night there (the photographer is my uncle-in-law and I lived with Bob and Mary for about five months) but... that didn't work out because Mary had thought we were supposed to be there earlier so she was annoyed with us for being 'late.'

So instead we got up terribly early (for a Sunday) and drove to Gainsville. I tell you what, next time I am going to be extremely clear and down-to-the-minute on the planning.

I feel a bit uneasy because I know I didn't do my best work. I hadn't had enough time to relax and focus, I had about five hours of sleep, and I was bloaty from not having drunk enough water yesterday. In skimming through the photos (we did all digital this time) I saw that my face was pretty closed, I think because Mary tends to have a muting effect on me at first and there wasn't enough time for it to wear off, and also because I just didn't have much energy. I really feel disappointed about that.

Also I wore dark rose-purple lipstick/liner, and I don't know if I'll like that in photos or not. My face is very rose-toned already, so that might be good... or not. Next time I'm definitely going for more brownish tones. My eye makeup was perfection though.

Yet at the same time, even though my belly is very untoned right now, I felt more comfortable with my body than ever before. I wasn't constantly worring about how my belly looked (though I did spend some thoughts on it, I won't lie). Oh, and I didn't have to shave, either. I brought my razor just in case, but he was cool with it.

Why don't I shave anymore? because anar_anar mentioned that she doesn't, and that freaked me out a bit at first, and then I thought, "why do I shave?" and realized that the only reason, the ONLY reason, that I shave is because that is the socially acceptable thing to do. I don't like the feel of shaved skin any better than hairy, I hate the chore of the actual shaving, and I actually find hairy armpits very very sexy on guys and girls. Not so much with the leg hair, but you can barely see mine anyway. So why waste time, energy, and money doing something I don't want to do just to be 'normal?' (I do trim, just because certain body hair can give unwanted friction during fun times)

It was a short shoot, about 3.5 hours (we usually shoot 5-7 hours) but we did jewelry shots (YAY!), shots with the grey nettish fabric (which was unbelievable, even more awesome than I thought it'd be, we're definitely using it again next time), careful shots with lit candles (I look like a priestess, it's awesome), shots with butterfly wings, shots with my awesome dagger skirt and knee boots, and a few hair shots. And I should receive the CDs on Thursday, YAY!

Also, I'm going to take a six-week bellydancing class, and afterwards we're going to have another photoshoot. I can't wait to see what my belly looks like after six weeks of bellydancing!!! (I'll be much more flexible, too, I'm sure)

feelings: accomplished
sounds: Fono: "Strangest Thing"
connecting: ,

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jhubert ══╣╠══
I have heard that most women in the USA shave their armpits, and I was always a bit mystified about that...
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bluebl00d ══╣Fandom╠══
I shave cause that's how I like it, not because it is "socially acceptable". But I'm one of the fortunate ones, I don,t have much hair on my legs and it takes forever to grow, I'm the envy of a lot of women around me lol But my armpits have to be shaved, it bothers me not having my armpits freshly shaved and beside to the norm, my armpits tend to smell if I do have hairy armpits O_o And being the hygiene freak that I am bad B.O is a no no. And as for the pubic area, well I used to shave it completely until recently, I mean I still shave but I leave out a small patch, must be the creative side of me hahahaha

Well that was my two cents on the subject ;)
belenen ══╣giggling╠══
well that is a good reason to shave -- because that's how you like it. Good for you! (you creative silly person you)
misemifein2 ══╣╠══
I was looking through my old art books, and I came across Manet's Olympia, I used to love that painting because of the way her left hand is painted. Anyway, that's where I'd seen hands like yours before, and she has a little black cat, so I thought i'd show it to you. It would be cool if you could set a photo up like that.

When it was originally painted and shown in a gallery it had to be hung really high up because it shocked so many people that they kept hitting it with canes and umbrellas.


p.s. think I'd like some advice from you on shaving, but I'll email you if I do need it, if thats ok :)
belenen ══╣shimmering╠══
oh wow, those hands are very like mine! And I kinda like the painting, and kinda don't -- 'cause of the slave woman. Slavery is such an evil thing.

p.s. email me if ya wanna!
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scourge ══╣stiletto╠══
your idea on shaving....or lack thereof at least has more merrit than the previous people i've encountered. When I was in the military, one of the guys in our sleeping area announced that his brother would " no longer bathe, in order to protest Jerry Garcia's death ". That prompted us to take a vow too, That this guy would be KOS (Kill on Sight) if we ever met him. Stupidity of that degree should be terminal.

I totally understand and respect your right to shave, trim or neither of either as you see fit and are comfortable with. I normally trim back all hair between toes and armpits, and shave my arms totally. (it started because I used to have normal boy arms (ie...hairy) all the way down to about 3" before my wrist where the medical tape from gymnastics and kickboxing had pulled it all out by the roots. it looked rather funny, and so I started shaving them in highschool so it would match, and just never stopped.
belenen ══╣eccentric╠══
huh! gymnastics and kickboxing, how interesting. One can't accuse you of being normal. ;-)
writer_lilies ══╣╠══
I sweat a lot. I shave to cut down on odor. I don't shave my legs at all. No need. They're either covered with hose or pants. (TMI ALERT) My dog used to use my legs to scratch his back when he was alive. Lol.
anar_anar ══╣╠══
Actually, that's a myth, you don't "smell" anymore with or without pit hair. People think that because they are able to "feel" the sweat more with unshaven pits... but there is no greater smell.
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thesaj ══╣╠══
I actually think hairy armpits are sexy too....

I liked that about Kimberley. :)
belenen ══╣teasing╠══
cool! Now I know something new about Kimberley -- does she know you're going around telling people that she doesn't shave her armpits? ;-)
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anar_anar ══╣╠══
yay for no shaving... yayayayayayay :D

I'm excited to see the new photographs...

And you shouldn't have to pay money to leran to bellydance! pfft, youve got a persian girl right here that can show you how to not only bellydance, but do some of the (much) prettier middle eastern dances!
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
hee hee, I knew you'd approve!

WOW! I never thought! Well I tell you what, after this class (when I feel a little more coordinated and less self-concious) we will definitely have to do that, it sounds like so much fun!! Do you just dance at home or do you have a group that you get together with to dance? The idea is so exciting!
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shespoke ══╣╠══
i find that i get more satisfaction out of shaving after it's been about a week or so inbetween. plus it's less irritating. i do like the smoothness of shaving over hairyness though. but that's after the fact of shaving and it take a lot for me to get to that point to do it anyway. i always cut myself and i definitely don't look forward to that. :(
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
have you ever let your leg hair just grow out (like 1 cm long)? After a week it's still a bit stubbly, but when it gets longer it feels just as smooth (to me) as shaven legs (except when you rub upwards).
eternitywaiting ══╣╠══
I swear to god, I'm the only person who actually revels in hair-nudity....and everyone makes such a big deal out of a person's desire to shave or not to shave!

I do not care about "social norms" (as is evident by a lot of things I've done with my appearance) I just loooooove hairless skin. Smoothness is neato. I'm a total shave-below-the-waist person, and I do it for my sake. It's all well and good that Robert likes it, but it doesn't impact my decision. It's a matter of what I find sexy, and what I think is worth it. Shaving is easy for me because I've been doing it for so long, it hardly takes any time, so I don't feel it's a great inconvenience.

The only reason I don't shave my arms is because the skin on my arms is a lot more sensitive and doesn't take well to the razor. Plus, unlike the dark hair below my waist, my arm hair is blond and kind of cute. :-) It's also softer and generally less irritating. I hate the feeling of leg hair rubbing on clothes and sheets, my arm hair is soft enough that I can't feel it. (*TMI warning*) As for shaving "the zone," I just enjoy things more that way...I'm verrrrrrry big on oral sex, and being hairless just means there's less to get in the way. :-P
belenen ══╣shimmering╠══
I'm all for shaving if you like being shaven! I question the reasons, not the action, and your reasons are quite understandable.

And like I've said before and will say again, there is no such thing as TMI with me. ;-) I personally trim very close with scissors (the small safety scissors without points) but I don't like the idea of having a razor down there. I wanted to try getting it waxed, but don't think I could take the pain. I'm not that big on oral (mainly 'cause of Ben's facial hair), but I am very into 'manual' and less hair = less friction = more rubbing. ;-)
maladroitkat ══╣╠══
I can't wait to see photos from your shoot! You will be showing us, right? :-)

I took a bellydance class once, and it was amazing. I was extremely sore the next morning. I don't think my abs have ever worked so hard before.
belenen ══╣artistic╠══
yep, will post 'em once I get a chance to look through them.

I know! I took a class once too, and it amazed me. I felt and saw more muscle definition after ONE CLASS. I can't wait to see what happens after six weeks.
ohsaycanyousay ══╣╠══
I've always wanted to take a bellydancing class... Good for you!
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
thanks! and you should look into what's available in your area!
shespoke ══╣╠══
i have actually and you're right, it does feel soft like you shaved except when you brush upwards. i normally in the winter rarely shave, but during the summer i go with the norm cuz i'm a sucker like that. plus unfortunately my hair is dark and my skin is light brown so you can tell when i haven't shaved.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
Yeah, I'm lucky my leg hair is light-colored. I think I'd not shave anyway, but I'm not sure.
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