June 2018
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bellydancing disappointment -- no gift, no motivation


I have to fight with myself every time to go to bellydancing. I love it, but I feel like I have very little natural talent, and if I have no gift for it, why waste my time? If I'm not going to be more than average, why bother?

I'm spoiled, because I am usually better than average. And I'm a bit fucked up, because I have always been pushed to perform better than everyone else. So faced with the idea that I am not gifted at something I have so much passion for is just... painful. And why face unnecessary pain?

But I keep going back, mainly because I want to stay decently fit, and other than bellydancing (and practicing at home) I'm not active at all. That's not why I wanted to bellydance! I wish I could just... get a shot of confidence, I guess. No, what I really want is just to be naturally gifted, because I am spoiled fucking rotten and I want ALL the gifts and ALL the talents possible! To make life fun and make challenges worthwhile, because in the back of my mind I would know that I have a gift and can, if I put my mind to it, beat everybody.

Maybe it's just a pride thing. Maybe I'm proud, snotty, and don't like performing sub-par even though I'm trying my damnedest. I don't like being inferior to anyone in any way. Yeah, sounds like I have some pride issues. Hmph.

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angel
gyrlcentric ══╣angel╠══
maybe that is exactly why you should do it

to learn to enjoy dancing for itself, because you want to
some lessons are harder than others and to learn them we have to keep going until we get it

so you keep dancing, and when you feel pain or frustration remind yourself that you do not have to be perfect to be good enough

life doesn't have to be one big competition but sometimes it is hard to stop
shimmering
belenen ══╣shimmering╠══
wow, thank you so much for that. I need to read it every day. ;-)
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