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sanctuary -- I'm finally going to have one again.

At small group on Tuesday I told my group (5 people including me and the leader/counselor) about my weekend, and they were very supportive... I just poured my heart out, and they understood. It was such a relief. We were all much more open, actually, and the session felt cleansing.

One of the things we talked about was my need for a sanctuary, a place that is all mine where I can focus myself. I haven't had a real sanctuary since before I got married (1.5 years ago), and it has worn on me. I need a place to be surrounded by myself, shutting out everything that is not me. So that was one of the things we prayed about -- and the next day, Ben and I stopped by the thrift store and found the perfect chair for 8 dollars. (8 is a sacred number for me, by the way) What I'm going to do is section off a corner of the bedroom by hanging fabric from the ceiling, and in that section I'll have my chair (which I'm going to cover in new fabric) and some other things, and that will be my sanctuary. You have no idea how exciting this is to me. I'll be able to have a safe place to talk to God (for some reason it's not as real to me unless I talk out loud, and I don't feel safe talking out loud to him just anywhere). I'll be able to rest spiritually without having to go to the church!

I'll take photos when I have it set up, I'm sure. ;-)


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tybonium ══╣bjork╠══
I am a firm believer that everyone should have a sanctuary. My boy and I each have a spot in the house that is 'theirs'. This doesn't mean that the other person can't go in those areas, but that if we do go into the other person's space, we respect the fact that we are a guest there. I love my boy, but I still feel it's important that I don't get so wrapped up in 'us' that I forget to take care of me (which I sometimes neglect).

I'm glad you have found a way to make that work for you. Congrads on the new chair!
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
That's awesome that you guys respect each other like that. Respect is so important in a relationship, especially a close one.
gracie4881 ══╣╠══
last nite i went to my church and while i was there i was wondering how can i talk to god without looking crazy,so afta reading ur lj u gave me and idea,so thank 4 sharing and i cant wait to c pics and im glad that u found ur sanctuary
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
awesome! ;-)
kevloid ══╣╠══
sounds cool. :-)
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
nod nod
sidheblessed ══╣╠══
I think having a sanctuary is really important. You need time to reconnect with yourself and your spirituality. You need time to relax and reflect.

I think my room is my sanctuary.
belenen ══╣passionate╠══
You understand! I think intense personalities have more of a need for sanctuary than others.
paperwings21 ══╣╠══
That's great news.
I hope it all works out just like you've planned it.
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
thankie! ;-)
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belenen ══╣passionate╠══
I really think you should.
carodus ══╣╠══
I truly believe that it is essential for everyone to have private space. We all need to retreat from time to time - whether this is mentally, physically, emotionally or spiritually.
I have an armchair which I love - I bought it with my first pay cheque - and I spent ages looking for it - I wanted the 'perfect' reading chair. It is so hard to find!!!

I started painting again because I need to mentally retreat from day-to-day life at times.

Enjoy your new space :) HUG
belenen ══╣artistic╠══
Yes, exactly. Especially artist types, we tend to spread ourselves out and we need a place to gather ourselves again.
wandrlost ══╣╠══
i have my little alter, with my prayer books, candles and incense. and i have my prayer mat in front of it. i pull all of these out from under my bed when it is time to meditate or pray. my hidden sanctuary. and my peaceful spot.
belenen ══╣artistic╠══
That is exactly what I am going to create for myself. When you first told me about your altar, I realised just how important it was to me to have that space, and I actually started to plan for it. So thanks for sharing!
misemifein2 ══╣╠══
That's brilliant, I'm pleased for you, it's nice to have a place.

And cool about the counselling group too :)
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
_bijou ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
yay indeed! ;-)
moody_godess ══╣╠══
i understand the need for your own space. and for some reason, its quite a calming feeling to wrap your world in beautiful tapestries and sit with only your own thoughts and being.

so yes, i woulda gotten very excited about finding that chair. just for the pure symbol of it. hope you post pics.

belenen ══╣shimmering╠══
I'm going through ollllld comments in my inbox, and this one reminded me that I still haven't posted pics! I need to do that soon.
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