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I feel rambly. So imonna ramble a bit. (yes that is a word, I use it all the time! 'imonna' means 'I am going to' in case you didn't get that)

Comments. I have been changing my views on them. When I first started LJ, I never replied to comments left in my journal. Then I happened upon a journal-rating community, and one of their rating criteria was 'does this person reply to comments?' and that got me thinking. When people say something to you in real life, you don't just act as if you didn't hear them, so why do that on LJ? Nowadays I respond to almost all of the comments I receive, because even if I have nothing to say, it's just polite to let them know that I read their comment and appreciate it. I know I usually respond days later -- I think that's because I want to wait until people are finished commenting and then reply all at once so that I don't miss any.

Also, I want people to reply back to my comments on their posts -- if the comment is a decent length. If it's short, I don't care, but if I took the time to write out a few paragraphs and then don't get a response, I feel ignored. And then since I feel ignored I stop commenting. Why bother?

I also used to not comment much at all; I've been changing that, slowly. Why? Because I realized that even when someone left me a short comment, it mattered to me, so it probably matters to other people. And how do you know that I read your journal if I don't comment? Still, I don't have enough time to comment as much as I'd like. Mainly because I'm too much of a perfectionist... I save all the posts I want to comment to into organized temporary folders, and then go back and comment when I have time and inclination.

I get most excited when people comment on my jewelry posts. Really, really excited. So if you wanna show me love, comment on my jewelry posts. And do my polls. ;-)


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shioneh ══╣curiouser╠══
a comment to your comment post
I've also changed my view on commenting. I never really used to reply to them when I first started out my LJ but when I met someone on here who practically always replied to her comments, I realised how much I appreciated getting an answer back and I started doing it too.
I'm a big commenter on my friends page though. Sometimes I think I comment too much. If that's possible?
I hear you on the perfectionism. A lot of my comments take me 10 or 20 minutes to write. I write sentences and erase them over and over again.

Talking of comments, I left you one a few posts back on your journal re you adding me and such. I don't know if you ever read it or not which is why I'm drawing it to your attention :)
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
Re: a comment to your comment post
I write sentences over and over again too! And then sometimes I end up giving up and not commenting at all.

And yep! I responded to that comment right here.

I don't think it's possible to comment too much, so don't worry about over-commenting with me. heh. ;-)
jdalycitym ══╣╠══
Sure thing, will definetly do that! Glad to see that all is well! *HUGS*
belenen ══╣caffeinated╠══
*hugs back!*
writer_lilies ══╣╠══
I try to comment a lot because I know people like it. Personally, I kinda do and I kinda don't. I don't know. I always try to reply to what people say unless it's something short.
belenen ══╣teasing╠══
reply reply! heh ;-)
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wandrlost ══╣╠══
oh, i'm poll boy, you know that. or is that pool boy? hey, i could be a cabana boy!

but this is getting me nowhere...

i do try to return comments. and to comment. it's justthe lack of my own comp right now. but, do know that i am trying. and that i would like to comment more.

belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
I always enjoy reading your comments -- I don't mind waiting 'cause they're worth it. And that means a lot coming from Miss Impatient! ;-)
smallestdelight ══╣╠══
I totally agree with your stance on comments. :)

Sometimes, I find myself with a lack of anything to say in some instances, especially when I see posts that are simply brimming with the details of personal lives, and feel it's better to say nothing at all than comment with some "omg C00L entry!!!1!11one" just for commenting's sake.

But lately, I've found myself being less apprehensive about posting comments when I do have something to say. And I totally agree with replying to comments given; it's just the courteous thing to do. ;)
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
we are of one mind! ;-)
vineofcrescendo ══╣╠══
You have good, thoughtful posts. I also reply to most comments. I am not so good at commenting on others journ's cause sometimes I don't know what to say. I'm just like yeah, that's true. Like now..I've run out of things to say, lol. SO end comment here.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
thank you for the compliment!

You just need to learn to ramble -- that's the key to commenting. ;-)
lilerthkwake ══╣╠══
You're adorable. Love the way your brain thinks.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
*blush* thankie!
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sethsmagic ══╣╠══
Comments matter a lot to me, when someone comments on my entries i try and respond back to them with a comment to the comment or il put a blirp in my entry one day. It deffinatly is a good thing when you see a comment and relize yep people do read what you say.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
I agree. ;-)
sidheblessed ══╣╠══
I hear you on replying to comments. I never realised how much I enjoyed getting a reply to a comment until I started here on LJ and got consistent replies.

I try to comment on all my firneds and reply to their comments. I know I can;t always comment on every entry but I think it's still worth making the effort.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
yeah, I try to respond to most entries, but I think my perfectionism gets in the way because my method takes so LONG! I need to train myself to just respond the first thing that comes into my head when I see an entry on my friends page. Until then, I'll keep going to individual journals.
tremontidood ══╣╠══
I love your Angelina Jolie icon. She is insanely beautiful. And i havnt been commenting on your posts for the past week cuz i wa sin Carolina Beach and had no internet access. I just posted about it w/ pics.
belenen ══╣beautiful╠══
She is insanely beautiful -- inside and out!
shespoke ══╣╠══
I try to respond back especially if the person took the time to write out a lengthy response. But if it's just something like "I'm sorry. Huggggsss" (Oh, how I hate those) I really don't feel compelled to write back.

I'm sorry if I haven't responded to your lengthy comments lately. I will get to it as soon as I can, I promise. It means a lot to me that you go back and read my entries even if they are from a while ago.

And of course I do your polls and jewelry things :) Anything to make my Belenen happy! :)
belenen ══╣mysterious╠══
awww... *kisses*

And don't worry about not responding lately -- you're usually so good about it that it doesn't bother me at all when you miss some. I figure you either haven't had a chance to comment or you haven't been in the mood. ;-)
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paperwings21 ══╣╠══
My commenting style is just to comment as much as I can to let people know that I care about what they are writing about in their journal. The way i see it, if i have someone on my friends list it is because I care about their posts.

Also, it's not often that I comment on a comment. Sometimes I do, but not all the time. That doesn't mean that I don't care that they commented back, because I do. Usually my first comment will have said most of what I have to say.

belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
Well, what I meant was replying to a comment on your entry, not replying to a reply to your comment in someone else's journal. Confusing, isn't it. :-p Basically, after you have commented once, no more is necessary. ;-)

P.S. can I make you an icon pleeeeeease?
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boobearsguppie ══╣╠══
True, very true! That motivates me to comment on comments that people have written about my posts!
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
cool! ;-)
soapysmith ══╣╠══
I tend to try and guide people with my comments... offering opinions that are personal to me

So when someone doesn't reply to something of that nature, I tend to take offense and assume the person completely disagrees and chose not to comment as a result.

So sometimes... by not saying anything... you're still saying something... even if it isn't what you meant
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
I agree, silence is an answer, and it's usually not as good as what you could have said if you stepped out on a limb!
geminimystique ══╣╠══
I feel the same way :). My commenting style changed when I realized, that although I do mostly write for myself, I allow others to see what I think. They all deserve acknowledgement; in a way its internet validation :).


PS I added you
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
indeed, acknowledgement, that's what it's all about!

PS I'll check out your journal too. ;-)
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