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there is no such thing as a body 'flaw'!


Lately I have found myself being irritated by those who say (in a completely well-meaning way) something along the lines of, "Good for you, accepting your body flaws." I want to say, "Excuse me? What flaws?"

I don't believe in 'body flaws.' To believe in them, you have to believe in one single ideal body, and I emphatically do not! I know what I am supposed to look like -- I'm supposed to look like me! And since no one can look more like me than me, I'm as close to perfect as it gets. I don't need to look like anyone else OR any other version of myself.

I don't have flaws -- and neither do you. What we have are differences, and they are what make us beautiful, what make us unique, what make us who we are.

x-posted in curvygirls

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wallbrat ══╣╠══
Very well said. *smiles* It's the differences that make us unique.
passionate
belenen ══╣passionate╠══
amen, yo!
mina19 ══╣╠══
WOO YOU GO GIRL!!!! i totally agree. everyone should just love every part of themselves :) love what you've got.
curvygirl
belenen ══╣curvygirl╠══
indeed! ;-)
kevloid ══╣╠══
what about webbed feet? :-)
garrulous
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
they could be sexy! You'd just have to get used to them!
evileve ══╣╠══
well said.
curvygirl 2
belenen ══╣curvygirl 2╠══
thankie. ;-)
kabandra ══╣╠══
passionate
belenen ══╣passionate╠══
He points to his own noise calling it bulbous and ugly
it may be bulbous, but that doesn't make it ugly or a flaw. Some people find bulbous noses attractive.

I am short and have frizzy hair. I call those body "flaws" for myself.

But what makes them 'flaws'? They're exactly how you are supposed to look and they are not negative things. The only way they could be flaws would be if you had been designed to be taller but had squished yourself or something.

I think they are not imperfections, they're uniquely you and cannot be compared to anyone else's anything.
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belenen ══╣╠══
angelina jolie / you are a pearl
acid_burns ══╣angelina jolie / you are a pearl╠══
in the words of Angelina Jolie...
I find flaws attractive.</i<
beautiful
belenen ══╣beautiful╠══
Re: in the words of Angelina Jolie...
fantabulously awesome. ;-D
lilerthkwake ══╣╠══
I love you. You are the bomb.
amused
belenen ══╣amused╠══
I love you too lillybeth! (I like typing your name that way for some reason, so if it doesn't offend or bother you in any way, I'm gonna consider it my nickname for you, ok?)

If I'm the bomb, then you are the missile!
lilerthkwake ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣╠══
lilerthkwake ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣╠══
tremontidood ══╣╠══
Well whoever said that should realize that no one is perfect! Saying so is a flaw. I mean i'm 6'7, and at school i hear people telling me all the time that they wish they were as tall as me, and i'm no you dont....be yourself...that should be all that you want to be. Great post.<3
passionate
belenen ══╣passionate╠══
there is no such thing as one perfect look, we are all supposed to look like ourselves and no one else, so flaws are impossible!

That's awesome that you tell them to be themselves. ;-)
abstractfish ══╣╠══
I wish I could think like you in that respect.
honesty
belenen ══╣honesty╠══
I haven't always thought this way -- it's something you have to train yourself into.
talkingpotato ══╣╠══
I get that all the time in regards to my breasts, and it makes me want to slap them :-(

I so agree with you that everyone is unique and beautiful, there are no flaws. Every woman deserves to love her body for the perfect and lovely thing that it is. *hugs* and I think if we had more people like you, we'd have less miserable people in the world. Quick! Clone yourself!
giggling
belenen ══╣giggling╠══
hee hee hee! You made me giggle so much saying that. ;-)

How the hell do people get off saying shit like that!?!?!? Seriously! And it's usually said condescendingly, in a way that means "aww, look at you deluding yourself to feel better." I'm like, 'fuck you, just because you don't have the guts to love yourself doesn't mean it's impossible or false. I reject your judgement!'

That, by the way, is a really good way to respond. They say "bullshitcrapcondescension" and you say "I reject your negative judgement about my breasts. Keep your insecurity to yourself."
lullingshore ══╣╠══
Halleluiah!

giggling
belenen ══╣giggling╠══
;-)
nikare ══╣╠══
Due to my physical ailment right now, I'm not going to gussy up what I have to say about this post. Just going to give it to you straight.

If someone tells you "you have physical flaws" and they mean you aren't "adherring" to the standard "ideal" body type...I say screw them.

God likes variety. If we were intended to all look alike, what number on the assembly line would you want to be?
passionate
belenen ══╣passionate╠══
damn straight, God likes variety!
boobearsguppie ══╣╠══
Hmm body flaws........Dont know what I would do to a person to said that to my face.
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belenen ══╣╠══
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belenen ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣╠══
paradigm_shift ══╣╠══
AMEN sister!
amused
belenen ══╣amused╠══
;-)
(Anonymous) ══╣╠══
garrulous
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
yep!
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