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nakedness and cuddliness poll!

too tired to really post... but Ben and I were talking about something the other day, we disagreed and it ended by me saying, "Okay, I'll post a poll and see!" So take the poll so we can see who's right. ;-) AND Anika posted a poll I loved, so I'm snitching some of her questions too. you can be honest, nobody can see what you say but me. ;-)

Poll #619227 nakedness

when you are at home, you are:

only naked when doing stuff that requires nakedness (like bathing)
rarely naked for no reason
sometimes naked for no reason
often naked for no reason
ALWAYS naked -- the clothes come off as soon as the door shuts behind you

you are comfortable being naked:

only when alone
only when alone or with significant other
only when alone or with significant other/close friends
around anyone who is comfortable with your nakedness

Would you feel comfortable being naked around ME?

No, I don't like people seeing me naked.
No, I don't think we're close enough for that.
Yeah, but I'd want to know you better first.
I wouldn't want to HANG OUT naked, but I wouldn't mind you SEEING me naked.
I'd be perfectly willing to hang out with you naked. Provided we stayed somewhere we wouldn't get arrested.

Do you like hugs/loving platonic touches (scalp massages, back rubs, etc.)?

No, I don't like being touched.
Yes, but only from family and my significant other.
Yes, I like receiving, but not so much giving.
Yes, I like giving, but not so much receiving.
I'm one step away from hugging complete strangers for no reason.

How do you feel about cuddling/bed sharing with friends?

I don't like having physical contact with my friends.
I don't mind being close with my friends, but not quite "cuddle" close.
I really like cuddling my friends to watch movies and what have you, but don't like sharing beds.
I love cuddling, and happily share beds with my friends.
I love cuddling my friends, and sharing beds with them. I'll even do it naked!


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eternitywaiting ══╣inverted╠══
You know, the only reason I'm not always naked the moment the door shuts is because my house is cold. Once the ceramic heater kicks in, clothes start flying. :-P
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
ah yes, I understand that dilemma. Which is why I am wearing a robe right now -- it's just too fucking cold!
kabandra ══╣╠══
sidheblessed ══╣╠══
I love physical contact but I'm very uncomfortable giving it if I'm not sure about the other person. I am never touchy feely. But if I was less nervous person I'd LOVE cuddling. I never feel like I get enough contact..
So, I'm not really stingy, just nervous.

That's pretty much me.
belenen ══╣artistic╠══
I hope seeing/drawing others will help you to accept your own body more...

and thank you for sharing. ;-)
kevloid ══╣╠══
I'm willing to bet the guy answers are pretty different from the girl answers. :-p
eternitywaiting ══╣╠══
Mind if I ask in what way you'd expect them to be different? I'm wondering if guys are expected to be more or less conservative on these things. :-P
kevloid ══╣╠══
I think guys are wayyy less touchy-feely with their friends (I'm thinking guy friends though).

except in prison. :-p
eternitywaiting ══╣╠══
I'd tend to make the same assumption (which is why I asked) but when I asked the same questions in my poll, I was really surprised that as many guys chose the really liberal "yay, let's all cuddle naked" kind of options as girls. Made me happy. :-) Though I do still think that a lot of hetero males would be less willing to be that way with male friends than female friends.
kevloid ══╣╠══
yeah, I think they probably had female friends in mind. :-)
eternitywaiting ══╣bastard╠══
Grrr, allow me to make it known that I did not just hang up on you! My neighborhood is considdered a "low service area" so sometimes my cell reception drops out without warning. I'm still not getting any bars, I'm severely irritated. I'm sorry. :-(
belenen ══╣amused╠══
pah, I knew you didn't hang up on me! no worries. ;-)
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sunshinepill ══╣blind stripes╠══
so i wanted to explain one:

Do you like hugs/loving platonic touches (scalp massages, back rubs, etc.)?

I said "Yes, I like giving, but not so much receiving" because... I can get jumpy when people touch me. It's easier if initiate the touching. At that point, it's ok to reciprocate. I dunno.. I guess my boundaries get crossed too much. The longer I know a person, though, I can train myself to not get all "omigod don't touch meeeee", y'know?
lorelei_sakti ══╣╠══
Wow, that's me totally.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
ahh, I see. ;-) See, that's where I could help you -- WHY do we have to live so far apart???
writer_lilies ══╣╠══
I love being naked. Hell, I'm halfway there now. I would be if my mom wasn't sitting here. She changed my diapers. We have no secrets. Lol. Anyway, it's way too hot in this house (The heat was on 79) to have on clothes all the time.
belenen ══╣amused╠══
heh, cool cool. or warm warm, I should say. :-p
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darkpool ══╣Me face╠══
I'm not really a step away from hugging strangers but I definetly cuddle with more than family. I would hug more people if I wasn't worried they'd think it strange. I love cuddling with my friends but I really don't like sharing a bed with anyone very much. It makes it hard for me to sleep.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
I sleep very easily if I'm tired -- and usually when I'm sharing a bed with a friend we stay up a loooooong time talking, so when we finally shut up I fall asleep very quickly. ;-)
shaybe ══╣╠══
Happy Thanksgiving... I hope your holidays are awesome. Love Shaybe
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
love back at ya!
untoldeuphemism ══╣╠══
I don't know how to answer the last question so I didn't. The friends I have I have no physical contact with. Being that my friends are guys, that makes it weird. I have a female friend I guess but she is also my ex-boss and potentially future boss so that would be weird as well. I think in theory I might like to be all cuddly with friends but I've never done it so I don't know. I've just not had those kinds of friendships.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
I understand -- for a long time I didn't either. In fact, it's only been very recently that I have.
trenchmeister ══╣╠══
Unavoidable Poll
I had to answer this poll - yet another brilliant one for you!

There is one major reason why I'm not naked all the time - KIDS. If I didn't have kids I'd spend most of my time in the house naked without a doubt.

Belenen, I'd be very curious to know what your own answers were for this poll and how they differed from hubby's.

I don't make comments as often as I should here, but I want to note that you have a wonderful journal and I do try to keep up at least weekly. When I have a break to actually comment I try to take it - if it's in good timing. I figure if I comment on something several weeks old it will get lost in the shuffle and lose it's effectiveness.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
Re: Unavoidable Poll
yeah, that's part of the reason we're putting off having kids! ;-D

Oh, Ben is not at all comfortable being naked around anyone but me -- he's a little more comfortable with other people being naked, but still pretty uncomfortable.

I got your email, BTW, and will respond soon. ;-)

Thank you for the compliment -- and I assure you that ANY comments, no matter how late, are always appreciated. Especially since your comments are nearly always very thoughtful and thought-provoking. ;-)
trenchmeister ══╣╠══
Re: Unavoidable Poll
Well, I may not blush much when naked, but this post did it. You're very kind. I'm anxious to hear your response to my email.

There are ways to work around the kids - but it involves planning and either a) staying up late and taking special precautions or b) making sure the kids are gone so you have full run of the house.
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