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meeting Bruce Garlick / deep conversation with a stranger

I had the greatest day last Tuesday. First, Ben and I went to meet Bruce Garlick to discuss a future shoot -- at a coffeeshop. And Bruce insisted on treating us (well, me -- Ben didn't want anything), so right away I liked him a lot. We talked for a while about his photographic style and what I would want from a shoot -- he's very different from the others I have worked with. He shoots as if taking stills from a film: sets up the scene, gives a character, a story, and then just takes photos as the 'scene' develops. I am so excited about working with him! I have to share some of his work to explain:


"summer afternoon"


"rainy afternoon"

"the existentialists"

"sunday morning"

"sunday afternoon"


(all images ©Bruce Garlick)

He also wants to help me in my current theme-project: Body Love. I have been developing ideas in my head, but if anyone has suggestions, feel free to give them to me. I think I am going to do a lot of imitation-classic-paintings, posing like Renoir's, Zorn's, Ruben's models... I need to get more specific ideas though, so if you have ANY ideas on glorifying voluptuousness, celebrating curves, tell me.

After that, I got an urge to stop by the thriftstore, and surprisingly enough Ben was positive about the idea -- he was reading the Fair Tax book by Boortz, so he had entertainment. I went in and found !!! a magazine with a DOVE GIRLS SPREAD and another magazine with THREE of the nike body-positive ads!!! Then I remembered that I had prayed to find a Dove Girls ad (in something other than the Weight Watchers mag, because ugh) -- yay God remembered even though I forgot! aaaaaaaaand, I GOT MY ADS without contributing to the EVIL self-esteem-poison industry!!!! hahahahahaha, they got NO MONIES from me. I am seriously SO pleased about that. ;-D Of course I don't like the mixed message of the Dove ads, but really, I am so delighted to see various body types that I don't care. And I had only seen small, low-res images of the women before -- in the actual ad, I could see that they really DO have very varied body types! Top-heavy, bottom-heavy, slender all over, curvy all over -- so awesome to see! And I am in love with the black woman's belly. just wow. I need a scanner so that I can show the photos to all of you and curvygirls.

And then this guy walked up to me and just struck up a conversation -- quite an interesting guy. We ended up sitting on the floor and talking for about two hours about the interconnectedness of all things, politics, vegetarianism, music, humanity, the future of our world culture -- it was SO amazing. I could tell that he was a little too interested in stamping my mind with his ideas, but since I am now confident enough to handle that, I was able to gain some wisdom from him without feeling squelched. And he was very intelligent -- rarely do I meet a person that makes me feel that he is more intelligent than I. I know part of it was a conscious effort to appear intelligent (I know that shell, I used to wear it!), but he really was brilliant. And like all brilliant people, very intense. I felt sharpened by the experience.

And I was flattered when he asked if my clothing was a reculturization. ;-) I was wearing a headscarf, coin earrings, my black "conform and be dull" top, a long black skirt -- and mismatching socks with tennis shoes. I told him no, I just wear whatever I like -- but I do have a strong connection with gypsy culture. That sparked a thread of conversation on culture, my favorite topic.

I love love LOVE that that happened. I feel like that is what my life is supposed to be like -- me going out and making true connections with the aware people of the world. I am so thrilled that I am secure enough to have a real conversation with a stranger -- and a GUY -- who is MORE intelligent than I! We exchanged email addys. I don't know if I'll contact him or not, but I am pleased that I have the choice.

comments enabled, feel free! I'm feeling much more relaxed about that now.

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baka_shampoo ══╣╠══
wow, it's awesome, I love it! It is telling a story, which is also awesome!
I always wanted to take pictures like that (telling a story). But I always do the cropping wrong, or some other thing (like too much dead space and stuff).
well, it's art to me <3.
belenen ══╣artistic╠══
As long as it says something true to you, it's art. ;-) Keep doing it and you'll get better and better at expressing yourself -- which is what art is all about.
sidheblessed ══╣╠══
Wow, I do love his work! You're lucky to work with him! I really like his idea of setting a scene.
belenen ══╣beautiful╠══
I know! I feel so honored.
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belenen ══╣amused╠══
Me too! heh ;-)
sunshinepill ══╣cheesetastic╠══
those shots are so... wow! ("Sunday Afternoon" actually reminds me of a shot i did recently...) i really can't wait to see the work that you do with him. it's going to be so much awesomeness *impatient*

random conversations are fun! i think i'd like to be one of the people that starts them, some day. :)

belenen ══╣artistic╠══
I know! I can't wait to work with him.

Which shot of yours reminds you of Sunday Afternoon? I want to see!
Angie / Beauty Within
bluebl00d ══╣Angie / Beauty Within╠══
The first thing that popped in my head concerning a pose that so demonstrate the curves of the female body come from a scene in Titanic. When Jack (Dicaprio) sketches Rose's (Winslet) portrait. Rose is only wearing that blue diamond necklace, lying on a couch, her positioning accentuate her beautiful figure.

Here's the sketch from the movie. I think that would make a gorgeous photograph.
curvygirl 2
belenen ══╣curvygirl 2╠══
ooooooooohhh, good idea! *saves the sketch for future reference*
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notashamed ══╣[movies] retaaaainer╠══
*quick scroll so i can still comment while i'm at work*

i just wanted to say that i love you. you're so inspiring. and i just wanted you to know that.
belenen ══╣connate╠══
awww! Thank you! I love you too, you know. ♥
Anime me-
darkpool ══╣Anime me-╠══
I wondered if you had heard about the Dove campaign and if you liked it.
thesaj ══╣╠══
I need to do more photoshoots of you my dear....
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sethsmagic ══╣╠══
i am happy for you. It sounds like you are doing really good right now. BTW tell whoever took those pics that you have on this entry that I absolutly love them. They look fantastic. Hugs glad to see things are going well for you
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
Thank you!
Emotional Advantage
twisteddaydream ══╣Emotional Advantage╠══
~smiles~ Do you know how often you write light and sunshine into your posts? This entire piece was infused with it and I got caught up in your excitement about the pictures as well as how awesome it must have been to have a random conversation with a stranger. I love doing that! Sounds like you had an amazing day, sweetheart.
belenen ══╣beautiful╠══
awwwwwwwwwwwwww what a beautiful thing to say! Thank you so much! ♥ You are an incredible person.
zancro ══╣╠══
Nice images... I'm not familiar with this photog... but then... everyone is a photog... I may have missed it... did you list his website?

. . . lovingkindness . . .
belenen ══╣artistic╠══
he doesn't have a website, but he has an OMP portfolio -- http://www.onemodelplace.com/member.cfm?P_ID=105394
kmiotutsie ══╣╠══
wow bel, i think this photographer's style is *perfect* for you. when are you shooting with him?? will you post some of the pictures?? *looking forward to it.*

also: gotta love deep conversations with random people. when i landed in denver when i first came out here, i had a great hour long conversation with a total stranger on the bus, and last week i randomly ran in to him in front of the grocery store and we caught up for a little while:it was so perfect! i never got his number, but i'm confident we'll met again. (just had to share, hehe)
belenen ══╣connate╠══
I think his style is perfect for me too! ;-D I am working with him sometime this month, not sure when yet.

And somehow it doesn't surprise me that you have deep conversations with random strangers. ;-) It's so wonderful, kinda restores your faith in humanity.
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misemifein2 ══╣╠══
I really like Renoir's women. There is one picture of his I really liked, but I couldn't find it online at all last time I looked (though that was over a year ago, at least). It didn't help that he had so many paintings with exactly the same title either. Next time I'm at Home home and not just mum's flat or Glasgow, then I'll try and scan it and email it to you. I have it in a book. It's all soft looking and nice.

Rubens is the one who painted The Three Graces isn't he? Can't say I'm quite so fond of his ladies. Was thinking the other day, how funny it is that fatness (I mean fat, not curvy) used to be wanted as it was a sign of richness- affording food. Now skinniness is, celebrity style, like affording to eat organic and the like. Something like that, though of course a hell of a lot of disadvantaged kids are really skinny too because their families can't afford proper food, so it isn't a perfect turnaround. I like thinking about things like that.

I like the sunday morning photo best, though the others are good too. Think I don't like photos of people posing so much. Less alive. Beauty in movement type thing. Tim looks bad in photos, and it annoys me more than it annoys him because he really is so very handsome. It's a good thing really though, he's vain enough as it is. Which reminds me! I started reading the book you gave me when I was on the train here (halfway through it already!) and I don't feel much empathy with the Jane, but Silver reminded me a lot of Tim! I'll tell you what I think of the book properly when I finish it, which'll probably be on the train back tomorrow (saving it for something to do on the train). I'll write it in a letter to send with the rest.

I hope the photo shoot is as good as it sounds it should be. Description of his method seems intriguing. Should be great. I would love if I struck up a good conversation with someone, I wish something like that happened to me. I'm glad you had a great day as well, the whole of it.
belenen ══╣artistic╠══
It didn't help that he had so many paintings with exactly the same title either.

*giggle* I know! But I love his work, it's amazing. And I'm not too fond of Rubens' work either -- somehow his women look clumsy rather than graceful.

I can't wait to hear your thoughts on the book! I didn't like Jane at the beginning but I loved her at the end, so much.
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