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yay for 1020 members in curvygirls!!! / loving your self and others' selves.


We broke a thousand! My comm curvygirls now has 1020 members! *crazy weird dancing*

Seriously, when I think about the impact this community is having, I'm blown away. Creating it, I thought it would end up being just a group of people like myself who like curvy women. Instead it has become a movement; girls come in with no self esteem and learn their own beauty through seeing beauty in others, slender-curvy to zaftig-curvy. People post so often about how their lives have been changed that it's become commonplace to me, and I don't realize just how astonishing that is until I step back and think about it. All I can credit to myself is having the passion to form the community and the graks to keep it focused -- the reason the community is such a huge force for positivity is because people are coming in with the desire to grow and learn love. All they want is relief from self-hate, and what they find is acceptance, care, admiration, friendship. Reading the comments in the community is so encouraging, because they are so consistently wonderful. It's wonderful because the women are wonderful. And it makes me want to cry with joy because all it takes is giving someone the chance to be supportive and caring, and they will take that chance! At core we all want to love each other, we're just too scared of rejection to do it, and if we find an environment where it's the culture to care and show admiration, we will.

It takes spending time with someone who's of 'normal' cosmo-culture to realize that curvygirls is a revolution, a quiet but continuously-building force of change. And we all go out and influence others, in tiny or major ways. And yeah, the comm is about body-love, but it goes so much deeper than that. It's about learning to love ourselves for being OURSELVES, rather than rating ourselves and everyone else according to how we match some tyrannical unhealthy standard set by greedy fucks who want to beat us down and charge us for it. The body is just a symbol of the self, it is our SELVES and each other's selves that we are learning to love.

Viva La Curvylution!!!

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_keena ══╣╠══
you creating that community was nuthin but God working through you. it was a God-send, you simply obeyed (sp?). real talk

love you B!
strong
belenen ══╣strong╠══
I think it was God/dess inspired, for sure.
vivacious
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
love you too babe!
in_withbothfeet ══╣╠══
It's about learning to love ourselves for being OURSELVES, rather than rating ourselves and everyone else according to how we match some tyrannical unhealthy standard set by greedy fucks who want to beat us down and charge us for it.

You know, that's a way of looking at "thin culture" I hadn't before... and I've given it loads of thought! I know a lot of it has to do with greed and money for selling an image and selling "sex", and I've known that fitting into a certain image can make insecure people feel like they have something special, something "ideal", but I never really thought of it as... wanting everyone to be the same way so there is more of the same, for them. So that less people get happiness and body love. Wow. But yeah, I think that's another effect of the similar thing... of feeling insecure and so not wanting others to challenge your "idea" that you are on some path of happiness by being thin...

wow.

Anyway, thank you. For posting this. For making that community, for everything.

I have some questions about it and curvy positive image in general, actually. Do you mind if I email you on it?
antagonistic
belenen ══╣antagonistic╠══
there is so much money riding on women's insecurity. SO MUCH. If women rose up and believed in themselves, they'd stop buying so much concealing makeup, anti-aging crap, weight-loss crap (pills and books and gym memberships), girdles, 'control-top' pantyhose, hair dye, manicures, pedicures, tanning, endless hair cuts in order to look 'polished' and 'in style' not to mention all the CLOTHES!!! We'd dress in things we liked and wear them until they fell apart rather than switching them out whenever tyrannical fashion decides that it's time for a new pile of money. We'd never buy ridiculously overpriced shoes and dresses, but instead buy normal-priced comfortable things that appealed to US as individuals! WE'D STOP BUYING FUCKING MAGAZINES that preach weightloss and 'style'!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

DOWN WITH THE FUCKING TYRANNY!!!!!!!
faceless_wonder ══╣╠══
i *heart* curvygirls!! yay!!
vivacious
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
yay! XD
amethyst_venus ══╣╠══
Happy New Year!
amused
belenen ══╣amused╠══
Re: Happy New Year!
thankie! ;-)
armandii ══╣╠══
You created something amazing when you started curvygirls and I agree, it really is a 'movement'. My greatgrandmother was a suffragette - she even went to prison after chaining herself to the railings outside the houses of parliament. I see the Curvylution as important as that movement. We are repressed by the media and by social standards. It takes a few to break out and say 'I'm not playing that game anymore' and you have given us a place to speak out. And of course actions speak louder than words. The second week in January I have a life modelling job at a college I sometimes work at. I have been feeling fearful because since I last modelled there I have gained quite a lot of body fat. There has been a scared voice in my head saying 'There will be comments about how your body has changed, cancel the booking' but I'm serious about my part in the Curvylution and will do the job and display my curvy body with pride. I have not weighed myself for many months now, and as I find myself growing too large for my existing clothes and buying the next size (which has happened a lot in the past few years as I've grown from a size 6 to a 14) there is a sense of panic, until I remember the community, remember that I'm no longer going to be part of the 'cookie cutter set' and it is fine to be me.
Bel, you have created something wonderful.
curvygirl -- me
belenen ══╣curvygirl -- me╠══
I see the Curvylution as important as that movement.

I AGREE! SO PASSIONATELY!!!!!!

I'm serious about my part in the Curvylution and will do the job and display my curvy body with pride.

amen sistah, you rock! Me too, forever and ever and ever!!!
jack
johnnyinamerica ══╣jack╠══
I've always admired Curvygirls from afar, and can't even put into words how much I admire you for your mentality on body image and for the work you've put into that community.

Just wanted to add my applause to the crowd here. ;)
curvygirl -- me
belenen ══╣curvygirl -- me╠══
oh fabulous! thanks babe ;-)
sidheblessed ══╣╠══
yay! It's such an amazing community - thank you so much for starting it! It's changed the lives f so many.
veneration
belenen ══╣veneration╠══
♥ and you're a big part of it! and have been, before you were a mod, with your wonderful comments. little drops that make incredible ripples. *hug*
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