March 2019
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a note for self-care: grocery shopping.

I went grocery shopping today with a list (on my phone via colornote, it's awesome) and coupons loaded on my Kroger card, and WOW that was satisfying. And now I feel so good about life, so safe and so taken care of, just knowing that there is food in my kitchen. I've realized that to perform good self-care, I need to go grocery shopping once a week (when I can afford it), instead of waiting until I have nothing left in the house but crackers and condiments. It is hugely draining and depressing to me to know that I have very little food, and yet spending money stresses me out so much that I avoid going to get food even when I can actually afford it. This is so counterproductive, but it's almost a compulsion; it's like I think if I avoid going shopping, maybe I can make my food last longer. The only way I can think to make sure that doesn't happen is to go shopping once a week. That's the best way to find cheap stuff anyway; so, new goal for me.

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aliyna ══╣╠══
Can you make the shopping experience somehow more satisfying to you, soulfully, socially, ecologically? Like if you did your shopping at a farmer's market instead? If you plan on going weekly anyway, then you could buy all fresh things, straight from the source, really develop relationships with the farmers, be in the open air and sunshine, it might be nice for you!
delicatexflower ══╣misc. "little soul -- big world"╠══

i know exactly what you mean -- food is so important part of life. you need food in order to live and survive, and if you have to worry about where your money is going and it's not food, it can be depressing..

you are a student, i don't know how the rules are down where you are but you may be able to get some food stamps. there's no shame involved. the only hard part is getting them due to time and energy you need to put into it, but you shouldn't have to worry about it if you don't have to.
aliyna ══╣╠══
Absolutely food stamps if you haven't already done that. We were on FS for a long while and it's just fine. It's a debit card, essentially. No one has to know you have them. That's at the grocery store, though. At the Farmer's Market you typically need to get little slips or waivers or like mine, has wooden coins that you can trade FS funds for, and then you pay the farmers with them. It's fun.

Anyway, yes to Food Stamps. If you have ever worked, you've paid taxes, and so you should never feel bad to have to take advantage of government aid. You paid for it! =)
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sombermusic ══╣be free╠══
The Cobb International / Nam Dae Mun Farmer's Market on Spring Road has incredible produce and ethnic foods, including those enormous bulk sacks of rice / beans / etc. staples, for absolutely dirt cheap. It's a weekly stop for me. (Bakery is kinda meh, sadly.)
mac_arthur_park ══╣╠══
I understand; I do the same thing. Kent and I made dinner tonight, and we had stuff to make a yummy meal (chicken taquitos and tomatillo salsa) and I feel *so much* better after a really crappy day.

Self care is *so* imortant, and so easy to forget.
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