November 2017
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lies and cheating: poly means everyone knows what's happening


So, Aurilion was dating someone else - and living with them - for 3 months without telling me, and without telling the other person that we were more than friends. When ze eventually told me, I felt lied to and when I told zir this ze sent me a scathing email full of attacks on my character, then cut contact. I was feeling upset that ze tricked me into going behind zir person's back, and I just realized that ze cheated on me too with this lie of omission. I haven't really processed that because it's such a big deal.

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frecklestars ══╣contemplative╠══
Maybe this is going to sound harsh, but it seems like you and zir aren't really ever on the same level. It seems like there are miscommunications of this magnitude far too frequently for there to be space to build an actual healthy relationship of any degree. Maybe it's time to cut your losses...?

I'm sorry to hear about this. <3
anrui_ichido ══╣╠══
sabrinamari ══╣╠══
I'm very sorry this happened to you.

{{{belenen}}}}
tikva ══╣hothead paisan - woofiegrrl╠══
For real. I'd have shit a kitten. *offers hugs*
miintikwa ══╣╠══
Yikes. I am so sorry. That is awful. *hugs*
virginia_fell ══╣bye bye╠══
Er. Wow. That sucks.
classical_wolf ══╣House baffled╠══
I'm so sorry this person engaged in a lie of omission and did not have the respect for you to tell you the truth :(
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