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poll: naming that thing that means family without all the gross blood stuff


icon: "interconnectedness (two bald purple-skinned people in the ocean: from Joan Slonczewski's "Door Into Ocean")"

Poll #1995242 that thing that means family without all the gross blood stuff

pick no more than TWO please

tribe
20(48.8%)
nest
4(9.8%)
truekin / trukin
3(7.3%)
foundkin
7(17.1%)
lifekin
6(14.6%)
realkin
1(2.4%)

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Comments
kmiotutsie ══╣╠══
you don't like "chosen family?" I like the distinction of it. Also feel a mild annoyance when non-native people use "tribe," though I haven't researched whether or not it's culturally appropriative-- kind of a knee-jerk twinge
belenen ══╣honesty╠══
In looking it up, I get the impression that it's too broad to be appropriation but it gives me the same ick feel, so I'd rather have a different word.

I hate the word family, at all, it has only negative connotations for me.
antuvschle ══╣╠══
foundkin makes me think of adoption. nest takes me back to family of origin, maybe, or starting one - specifically an arrangement intended to raise/launch a young'un or n young'uns.

tribe makes a lot of sense to me. people who are in your camp but not necessarily in your tent.

loved ones?
chosen kin?

Maybe all the elided words with kin endings look too cutesy to me. I think of Munchkin games.
kehlen_crow ══╣╠══
I like chosen kin.
callmebee ══╣╠══
I like Chosen Kin as well.
kehlen_crow ══╣╠══
Are you looking for a specific word?

And does "your people" sound off? (It kinda reminds me of the old books and that bit of judgmental nastiness "who are his/her people anyway?")
kehlen_crow ══╣╠══
Also, does it have to be from the animal kingdom?

Maybe your grove?
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
I like that -- my grove -- except that it isn't changeable enough.
wildrose ══╣╠══
keiwontia ══╣╠══
Foundkin!
raidingparty ══╣╠══
I tried to pull something together with the word "Guild" a zillion years ago, but never really followed through with it. "Hearth" is another possibility. Or (my) "People".
... as if you didn't have enough choices already...
volamonster ══╣mushroom's dragon╠══
How do you feel about kin on its own? Someone dear to me and I tend to refer to each other as kin, and while I do use the word family as well, kin resonates strongly with me. Just curious. :) I have a similar ick reaction to the word tribe as described in other comments, but it's the one that resonates with me most out of the above options.
belenen ══╣interconnectedness╠══
kin on it's own is not enough context for me, because I use kin as a way of delineating different kinds of connection. For instance I see you as mind-kin.

I'm thinking about something entirely different now, from Door Into Ocean. heh. *eyeroll at self*
volamonster ══╣mushroom's dragon╠══
I LOVE THAT BOOK! You sent it to me ages ago and I absolutely treasure it.
meri_sielu ══╣winter wolf╠══
I like 'tribe' because it has a very family like feel and meaning to it anyway.... like I consider my Druid grove my "people and spiritual family" and I know some groves refer to themselves as tribes so that feels natural.

I also like anything with kin in it, mostly because I identify as Otherkin anyway. Lifekin just seems to fit :)
darkestgarden ══╣╠══
none of these particularly resonate with me. anything with "kin" in it makes me think of something plastic and artificial, something you can't take seriously. i'm not sure how or where i formed those associations.

on the other hand, even the phrase i used on my journal, "chosen family", doesn't do it for me either. i'm still searching for a term or phrase that fits.
mac_arthur_park ══╣╠══
I fell in love with the word tribe today in the most unexpected way.

I went out to buy concert tickets for the best Beatles cover band EVER. Kent's sister bought his as a belated birthday gift, so I only had to buy one for me and Santa Pete.

The guy at the cd store looked puzzled. "Only two? What about the rest of the tribe?"

I always buy at least three, either for Santa Pete or Fiona or Mark. Or sometimes all three. I like that he noticed that. It felt...validating.

So, yeah. I like tribe. Although I've also been known to use "lovable band of weirdos and miscreants." ;)
belenen ══╣adoring╠══
awwww! such a sweet happening! thanks for sharing <3
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