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stress has lessened


icon: "progressing (a deeply, vividly green forest of thick vines and trees, with a tunnel running through where unused train tracks lay)"

Hosting gathers is good for me because it helps me motivate to get shit done. This week I did laundry, did dishes, took out recycling, finished setting up the cuddle room (except for the translucent fabric to soften the LEDs, that has to wait for money), tidied the entire house except for that one craft project (which I hope to get done Sunday night or Monday). I turned up the coldness in the refridgerator; hopefully that will help with the going-bad because I am sick of canned food. Kanika is being terribly picky but I have a plan to buy some mix-in treats that will hopefully solve that. My shoulder is still aching and I really can't understand why, it's been more than a week now. I may need to get an exercise ball for my office -- I think I slump too much in there because it is always cold and I subconsciously fold in (my boss has their own sitting ball so I know they won't mind).

Most of that stuff I did on Sunday before the gather, but yesterday I tidied my room which had been left undone for like two weeks which is WAY TOO LONG and I feel profound relief at having it tidy again. It is mind-boggling how much that affects me. It's not perfect but there's just one little pile of unsorted things instead of two big ones. I also brought in another lamp for more light with a daylight bulb and that seemed to make my eyes less tired and my general mood brighter. This room is actually much less sunny in the summer because all of the leaves are out. It's still bright but I don't get that same "almost as if I was outside" feeling.

The vacation with biofamily will cost me nothing except 3 days worth of pay -- which I can't afford but hopefully I can get my parents to give that to me in order to have me go with them. I want to go because my youngest sibling is going and I haven't seen them in literal years, much less spent good time with them, and they are important to me. I'm also hoping to have some good conversations with my aunt E. I have pretty much gotten over the idea that my grandmother is coming. I'm just going to bring some literature and maybe rehearse some bible verses in case of lecture.

By the way, I haven't responded yet but I appreciated all of your comments, as they made me realize that listing things is hugely helpful for me and I need a list that I keep hanging on the wall so that I can get obligations out of my head and also have the satisfaction of crossing them off. I think the stress is a lot worse when it is a big muddly mess than when it is an orderly list -- no matter how long or mostly-impossible the list.

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queerbychoice ══╣╠══
I'm glad you're feeling more able to handle things now!
belenen ══╣effervescent╠══
thanks! me too!
safranfoer ══╣╠══
I hope you can go on the vacation and spend time with your family :)
belenen ══╣artless╠══
I'm looking forward to getting to know my aunt and cousin better and soooo looking forward to seeing my lil sib.
callmebee ══╣╠══
Yay for lists!!!
raidingparty ══╣╠══
We certainly don't want to be left listless!

(Did I use this joke on this journal already?)
belenen ══╣amused╠══
:D
lilywolfsolomon ══╣╠══
Never really thought about it before but the particular lighting of a room does have an influence on my mood. When I volunteered in Michigan I slept on this bed against a really big window that felt like I was outside and when the moon and stars were out it was gorgeous. That's awesome that your room feels that way in the winter.
belenen ══╣glass╠══
yeah it's really good for me! I barely need my sunlight lamp, it's so bright.
meri_sielu ══╣╠══
I am glad you are starting to feel better now! :)
belenen ══╣effervescent╠══
thanks!
bunnika ══╣me: smile╠══
I hope you're able to go on that vacation, and that it is good for you. I also hope you don't get bible-lectured, because ugh. -.-
belenen ══╣hopeful╠══
yeah let's hope! I have some allies so I think I'll be okay.
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