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poll: qualities a person must have for you to have sex with them


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Random poll of a thing I've been wondering about -- what qualities must a person have for you to be interested in having sex with them (assuming of course that they want to have sex with you)?
Poll #2039642 qualities a person must have for you to have sex with them

I have no particular requirements.
2(1.7%)
They must know their STI status, get tested regularly, and practice safer sex.
25(21.0%)
They must have a certain kind of body (sex, gender, thickness, color, height, age, ability, bone structure, etc).
10(8.4%)
I must enjoy their company.
29(24.4%)
They must have a certain kind of energy or personality trait or world view.
22(18.5%)
They must be able to play a certain role in sex (male, female, dominant, submissive, etc).
5(4.2%)
I must have known them for a certain length of time.
6(5.0%)
I must be in love with them.
4(3.4%)
I must be pursuing a romantic relationship with them.
6(5.0%)
I must have negotiated the shape of our relationship for the foreseeable future or I must be in a committed relationship with them.
10(8.4%)


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slinkslowdown ══╣╠══
I answered the poll based on someone I want to have sex with for fun.

When I do sex work, all I require is that they don't make me feel unsafe in any way while communicating to work out the exchange of service for money.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
*nodnod* makes sense.
lorigami ══╣╠══
chemistry is a funny thing. it's either there or it isn't. If it is, and they're cool on both consent and safer sex, then it's on. (or, you know, was before I got married. Now I'm not the only person with input) If there's no chemistry it's not going to happen no matter what.
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
I don't believe in chemistry as a force outside human control entirely, because I can control it. For me it is a thing I can turn on or off. Perhaps for some it is not, but I can't be the only one with this ability.
sammason ══╣╠══
She must be financially solvent. She must be truthful.
webgirluk ══╣╠══
I selected the certain body type as in male as I haven't had any sexual interest in females, it's more an emotional interest in females but equally, if not more important in ways. Having said that though, I suppose it could be restrictive as just because I haven't felt that with a girl yet, it doesn't mean it's not impossible.
darkestgarden ══╣╠══
this isn't a consideration for me because i don't intend to have sexual relationships anymore, but when i did, they HAD to be pro-choice if they were men.
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Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.