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poll: how would you respond to this greeting?


icon: "incitement (painting of a bald purple-skinned naked person standing among thick vines and ferns: from Joan Slonczewski's "Door Into Ocean")"

If you said "hi" and I responded "share the day" how would you react?

I'd say "huh?" and wait for explanation.
12(42.9%)
I'd think you're weird, smile uncomfortably, and go on with my day.
6(21.4%)
something else (explain in comment)
10(35.7%)



"Share the day" is a greeting phrase uttered by the Sharer race in Joan Slonczewski's "Door Into Ocean." It reflects their philosophy of all things as shared; if you hit the nail with the hammer, the nail also hits you as you feel the reflected force through the hammer into your hand. In the sharer language you would not "hit the nail" you would "share force" with the nail. All things are mutual. So "share the day" is a short way of saying "we share awareness of our impact on each other because we are both alive today and all things are interconnected."

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volamonster ══╣mushroom's dragon╠══
I chose "huh?" because it's the closest to my likely reaction. I'd probably say, "Hm?" with a smile and quizzical look.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
Ah, yes. I guess if I were to do this I'd need to figure out a short explanation to have ready.
volamonster ══╣╠══
queerbychoice ══╣╠══
It would depend on whether I recognized you as a friend. If you were a random stranger on the street in California and it seemed unlikely that you were belenen, I'd smile uncomfortably and go on with my day. If I recognized you as belenen, I'd ask what you meant.
belenen ══╣amused╠══
*laughs out loud* love this *grins*
belenen ══╣╠══
kehlen_crow ══╣╠══
I agree with queerbychoice that it would sound weird from a random stranger, but if it were coming from you, or another person who I'm at least acquainted with... Well, it would give me a "huh" pause at first, but I would not ask for an explanation, but say something about it at least.

And then it would maybe become "a thing" between us, where I knew you or the others really wanted to know.

Yet sometimes it would also make me uncomfortable, when not in a sharing mood.


So, a good idea but requires a safe out/feels not applicable to everyone at large?
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
mm, makes sense. I wouldn't have thought that it would be taken as a request to share words (was thinking of it more like a request to share the planet), but that is likely!
bobby1933 ══╣╠══
Huh? and "no response" would be equally impolite.
Impoliteness is recognizable and offensive in many cultures
I would assume that "share the day" meant something to the greeter even though i had no idea what it was.

I might ask for an explanation if i were in the mood, but i am usually too shy and withdrawn to try to engage.

Since "share the day" sounds pretty positive, i might say "thank you."

Or i might share a "strange" greeting of my own: "Namaste."
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
Thanks for the explanation!
z8z8 ══╣╠══
I'd tell you a secret
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
ohhh, that would be interesting!
wanderipity ══╣╠══
I chose the first option and Im glad you provided explanation.
belenen ══╣gentle╠══
<3
cactus_rs ══╣thoughtful╠══
Like others said, if I knew it was you (so like, a situation where we have some shared background, i.e. I knew that was your thing that you did) I'd be like, "Yup! :D" But if you were just some random person and we were meeting for the first time I would side-eye. It would be a thing I'd have to warm up to first. That said, I wouldn't be weirded out if I overheard you say it to someone else that you obviously knew? So many friends have that kind of in-joke stuff, after all.

It's all about context I guess.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
*nods* thanks for explaining!
zimtkeks ══╣╠══
I clicked "huh?", but I think I'd ask what you meant more politely.
belenen ══╣curious╠══
*giggles* the things that I think of as normal that others consider rude continue to surprise me!
laeryn ══╣╠══
I can get pretty awkward in 'small talk' situations, especially when the dynamics escape out of the ordinary (aka the very scripted kind of interactions, if you know what I mean?), so I'd probably smile and freak out a little about what you mean and what am I supposed to answer with.

edit. I see people talk about asking, so I thought it fitting to ask: I would want to, but I'd be terrified to sound like an idiot? There's a lot of history to why my reactions are this awkward/insecure, tbh.
belenen ══╣artless╠══
mm, i can understand that. I so rarely understand people's cultural references. I'd probably assume a strange phrase was another one of those pop culture things that everyone thinks everyone knows, and feel too silly/ignorant to ask, also.

side topic, on the word idiot: http://tinyurl.com/pleasenoslurs
medesign ══╣╠══
Id probally smile and say something awkward . Im not the best at interacting with people.
belenen ══╣effervescent╠══
I feel ya, same here!
lorigami ══╣╠══
it's your chosen reply to a greeting. It's not snarky or mean, so there's no reason for me to do anything other than accept the greeting and move on.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
*nods* thanks for sharing your reaction!
soundofsunlight ══╣╠══
I think you are weird and I like it! :D
belenen ══╣giggling╠══
*giggles happily*
greenturnip ══╣╠══
Depends who said it, if it was someone I knew well, if it was someone who often said unusual things, and if so, if they were the kind of person who is normally happy to give a clear, brief explanation if you ask them. (I know you said if you said it, but I don't really know you and wouldn't recognise you, so I'm imagining more generally.) It would depend too on the context, if I (or they) were in a hurry, if they said it in a way that suggested they wanted a response.

If there was time, and if I felt they were the kind of person to continue a conversation in an open way and explain, I'd probably ask them what they said, thinking I may have misheard - but I wouldn't say 'huh?' (that's kind of rude, at least in the UK). I'd say 'Sorry, what was that?' and then if they said it again, I'd repeat it in a questioning way, giving them chance to elaborate if they wanted. If I knew them very well, I might say 'Share the day with whom?'
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
cool, thanks for explaining!
call_me_katya ══╣Chess Glass - clarity╠══
First off, I didn't know what this meant and thought about what this might mean before I clicked on the explanation. Like some others have said: it would depend on whether I know you BUT also the situation. If you say it with a raised hand, a smile and maybe continuing to walk past me, I would assume it was a greeting and smile. If we're both walking I might be puzzled but there's a chance my puzzlement might not register until we've already walked past each other, and I don't think I would walk back to ask.

If we knew each other and were stopping to talk I might ask, or say 'Hmm?' If you had a raised inflection I would assume question, and try to find an answer. When I read it, I initially thought it was a question and you were greeting me by asking me to share my day/asking how my day so far had been. Without a raised inflection I would assume greeting!
ladywind ══╣creatrix╠══
~points to above response~
This, also, for me.

And I'd probably turn it around and around in my head as I went about my day, to see if/where it made sense.
belenen ══╣╠══
ellie_nor ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
Re: something else:
mm, I see what you mean, that is a good point to consider.
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