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CN: shooting / quotes & links about the Orlando massacre of queer & trans, black & latinx people

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I don't have anything unique to say about the massacre of queer and trans latinx people in Orlando this weekend. This was an act of American male terrorism (aka toxic masculinity), like the vast majority of mass murders.

"...when we live in a culture where young boys learn that “boys will be boys” and the violence they do unto others is a natural part of their gender expression of gender — nay, that being a man means dominating others — then it won’t matter how well guns are controlled or how much mental healthcare we have." - Toxic masculinity and Orlando by Lola Phoenix

"...toxic masculinity is a specific model of manhood, geared towards dominance and control... Toxic masculinity aspires to toughness but is, in fact, an ideology of living in fear: The fear of ever seeming soft, tender, weak, or somehow less than manly. This insecurity is perhaps the most stalwart defining feature of toxic masculinity.... The horror story of Orlando lays bare what damage that this kind of dominance-oriented masculinity does to our society..." - Overcompensation Nation: It’s time to admit that toxic masculinity drives gun violence by Amanda Marcotte

"...Sunday’s shooting was an attack against a primarily young crowd of Latinx and Black individuals celebrating their existence in a world that has continually tried to silence them... Do not erase transgender womyn of color.... 'We need to center our analysis, our conversation, and our advocacy on the fact that this is also a crime against womyn, against Latinxs, against Blacks, and not just a crime against gays.'" - It’s not safe to be a queer person of color in America by Alan Pelaez Lopez

"If healing is what we want, then we must give the marginalized voices targeted by this tragedy the space to articulate their suffering. This is what will emancipate them of their pain. This is what will empower others in communities who are suffering. If you are an ally, of course, your suffering matters too, and you are welcome to express your emotions. But, today, let searing indictments and heartbreaking personal accounts come from queer people, and especially queer communities of color. It will make all the difference, I promise you. It will resonate in such a way that cannot be achieved by a person who hasn't lived an authoritatively queer, marginalized experience. These are the voices that will generate empathy, create cultural shifts, and reset the dial on progress. Please give them a chance to do so." - Dear White, Hetero, Cis People: Please Don't Co-Opt This Tragedy by Mariella Mosthof

"We are reminded that we are not that far from our violent history of rejection, policing, hostility. We are reminded that the first Pride was a riot, one led by queer and trans women of color, who were fighting back against the violence they faced at the hands of the police. And we will have to continue to remember that this violence will not be solved by increased violence against the Muslim community or calls for the war on terror. These terrors stem from so many of the ills our society continues to foster—homophobia, racism, transphobia, Islamophobia and an unwillingness to address gun violence." - When the One Place That Feels Like Home is Invaded by Miriam Zoila Pérez

"...some of the usual pro-gun arguments got pretty thoroughly debunked here. There were several "good guys with a gun" in that night club, and none of them were able to take down the gunman before he killed 50 people and wounded 53 others. Arming the entire population will not increase their safety. Mostly, we need to start teaching our boys and our men a different path. One of kindness, of compassion, one that doesn't equate being a man with suppressing all emotions except anger." - Pulse by mousme

What I wrote on fb: Timely reminder to cis and straight friends: queer and trans people are not safe. Gay marriage being legalized didn't fix shit. Until we have a culture where gay or 'girly' or non-passing/non-binary transgender is just as respected and admired as straight or 'manly' or binary-gender, queer and trans people are in constant danger.

Every time there's a mass death event & everyone cares for a minute, all I can think is "where was your compassion for the living?"

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ioplokon ══╣╠══
Thanks for these links; I'll probably slowly make my way through them over the next few weeks (it's too much at once).

One thing I'd be interested in seeing discussed/reading about is the ways to put these mass-killings into conversation with lynching hate crimes in the US. I think that they're not unrelated, and should be looked at in relation to each other. For example, the scores of murders of transgender woman (usually not white) is also a mass killing, though on a different time scale. Obviously the rapidness & the weight of this event is something different but... I'm struggling to articulate it, but there's the way that this kind of threat of death slips into everyday life as well, and can't be contained by a discussion of one event? Hopefully that makes sense? I guess for me this just seemed so... almost inevitable to have happened, which is such a disturbing feeling for me to have, so I want to work through that.
belenen ══╣analytical╠══

*nods* I understand the inevitability sentiment, that is one I also have. Frankly it is the only reaction I think one can have if one actually knows about the high rates of violence and understands the cause of the violence. A lot of people get it twisted and think it is mental illness when in reality, it is mainstream ideas merely being taken seriously instead of lazily accepted.

There are always people who feel compelled to do something about how bad the world is, and when we give them a scapegoat instead of talking about the real cause, those people go after the scapegoat. They don't think they're doing something bad. They think they are doing the thing that everyone agrees should happen but most people don't have the guts/passion to do it. They've been told over and over in indirect ways that the fix for the world is getting rid of [oppressed group].

I think that the element that makes some people into saints is the same thing that makes some into mass murderers. The difference is just the ideas which the person was exposed to; are all people worth helping or are some people not really people, who ruin real people's lives? I think the goal is the same. If we don't teach people that there are no inherent differences between people, if we don't teach empathy with all creatures, we end up with rapes and genocides.
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ragnarok_08 ══╣Original ★ impending dusk╠══
Thank you for sharing the links - they all resonate so much, especially now.
belenen ══╣artless╠══
welks <3
Sad Jack
colesdragon ══╣Sad Jack╠══
Every time there's a mass death event & everyone cares for a minute, all I can think is "where was your compassion for the living?"

So much this.
belenen ══╣artless╠══
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belenen ══╣honesty╠══
You're welcome, and I totally agree that the marriage thing totally obscures the harms of real threats like murder, rape, suicide, etc.
fairytaleguise ══╣╠══
Thank you for putting these links in one place, and for sharing your thoughts (which resonated with me).
belenen ══╣honesty╠══
you're welcome <3
kiwi ══╣╠══
Thank you for this.
belenen ══╣artless╠══
welks <3
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