May 2019
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what helps me most to relieve stress

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prompt from zimtkeks: What is your most effective way of releasing stress? Is it also the one you use the most? If it isn't, why not?

My most effective way to de-stress is to tidy my room, watch 2-3 hours of netflix, and then do something creative, like crafting or LJ. I do this fairly often but unfortunately when I am out of ADD meds it can be nearly impossible to switch gears out of watching a show, and it doesn't help my stress if I spend all day watching stuff -- UNLESS I'm depressed, then it can be helpful because my brain will only put down bad thoughts if I hand it something else that takes full focus and doesn't allow for multitasking.

But generally, my problem with watching netflix is that I find it difficult to stop. I have had more success lately by hitting pause mid-episode, going to do something else for a minute, then coming back and closing the window. Since so many shows put lots of curiosity-teasers at the very end of each episode, I cannot stop watching at the end of episodes. But if I pause it and leave the computer, my brain has a chance to gradually shift gears rather than me trying to do it by force.

Reading can help in the same way as watching shows but it has to be a very continously engaging book; I have to be deeply invested in the characters and/or plot, which doesn't happen often because I find most characters unrelatable (so many Gary-Lous, god) and most plotlines have boring shit like battle or political scheming or bad-relationship false-drama scenes. With TV, I only have to be interested in an actor's facial expressions to stay engaged (though I am a lot more engaged with a relatable character). With reading I already stop mid-page as my general habit and there is no structural intentional addiction (usually), so it is easier to stop when I want.

Watching shows is probably my most common method of relieving stress, but it is less effective when not combined w cleaning and crafting. However, cleaning and crafting both take a certain level of mental energy that I may not have, so I can't always do it.

Also, shows are better than movies because they usually have a layered and gradual plot, so I don't need to watch the whole thing, and they tend to be better as far as representation goes, and if I get bored with a show after one episode I haven't wasted 2-3 hours.

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(Anonymous) ══╣╠══
shows -- Xena happiness
belenen ══╣shows -- Xena happiness╠══
Something new is better, because my curiosity makes my brain more fully engaged (and therefore I do less fretting in the background), but there are some shows I watch over and over. Xena and the IT Crowd are the main ones.
xxmadsenxx ══╣╠══ ADHD is a bitch to control unmedicated. But I don't trust myself with a bottle of amphetamines.

belenen ══╣ADD-PI╠══
I can understand that! My brain unmedicated is immensely frustrating nowadays -- as distractable and unruly as a toddler on sugar.

on the word 'bitch':
xxmadsenxx ══╣╠══

I read that. I'm sorry, I meant no offense.

My brain unmedicated is a mess right now too. I medicate my bipolar, but not my ADHD.

belenen ══╣ADD-PI╠══
no offense taken, just a reminder. I understand how easy it is to forget (especially with ADHD!).
webgirluk ══╣pic#124969441╠══
It was interesting reading how you enjoy de stressing. I quite enjoy room tidying too although just the tidying part as I don't like cleaning. I'm hopeless at sitting down and watching TV shows, generally and tend to use the internet more to relax.
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
Ditto! I dislike cleaning unless something is quite dirty and I can then get a visible change. If it looks the same before and after, I don't wanna!

When I internet for hours it doesn't have the same effect, unless I am on LJ. Other parts of the internet are too full of distraction and upsetting things.
TFP ★ afterthought
ragnarok_08 ══╣TFP ★ afterthought╠══
That's how I de-stress as well, along with listening to music and yes, it is difficult to stop watching Netflix.
belenen ══╣artless╠══
*nods emphatically*
zimtkeks ══╣╠══
Thank you! It's interesting to see this combination. And I can see myself in some of your explanations, too.
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
you're most welcome!
(Anonymous) ══╣╠══
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
haha! I only recently realized that I like horror -- I am just picky about it. Lost Girl is technically horror, and lots of Sheri Tepper books are horror -- they're just not the 'visually grotesque scenes interspersed with walking slowly through dark places' kind of horror.

Ditto about long-form storytelling! And movies tend to be worse for representation because there are fewer characters you can give full attention, so tv shows have more interesting characters.
atmilliways ══╣╠══
Netflix is one of my go-to de-stressers as well. I wish I had a room to tidy up right now... I have my car, but out of respect for my partner's OCD tidying that would include a lot of lysol spray and when I'm really low energy I don't have the motivation to deal with the fumes.
belenen ══╣dammit╠══
oof, I can imagine!
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