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18 goals for 2018

icon: "nascent (a painting by Michael Whelan of a person with long flowing hair and large breasts sitting naked and cross-legged inside a green egg, which is being held against the sky by giant blue hands with pointy nails)"

I always make my goals too difficult and too specific, so this year I'm trying to make it simpler and include ideas under broad goals.

1. More LJ!
2. Host more gathers. 
3. Work on my journal-book! 
4. Make some fractals! 
5. Be amazing at work. 
6. Be in nature more. 
7. Maintain and develop my relationship with Topaz. 
8. Strengthen my local connections.
9. Strengthen my long-distance connections. 
10. Keep life records.
11. Make new friends. 
12. More physical exertion & stronger muscles. 
13. Be more active with art. 
14. Touch more people and connect intimately with people. 
15. Invest in my home and self-decorating.
16. Reach out first. 
17. Do activism. 
18. Witness more art and write about it. 

1. More LJ!
 ◯  Post more often including short easy posts!
 ◯  1 22-day writing streak or 2 13-day writing streaks
 ◯  156 LJ entries (aim for 3 times a week)
 ◯  Do year-overviews:
 → ◯  2012
 → ◯  2013
 → ◯  2014
 → ◯  2017
 ◯  Redo my "characters in the story of my life" post

2. Host more gathers.
 ◯  8+ gathers with 5 or fewer people (hearts and crafts!)
 ◯  2+ gathers with more than 6 total people
 ◯  structured gathers, 1+ each
 → ◯  crafty party
 → ◯  cuddly communion
 → ◯  make-out party
 → ◯  intimacy practice

3. Work on my journal-book!
 ◯  get all the fluff out
 → ◯  2003-2005
 → ◯  2006-2008
 → ◯  2009-2011
 → ◯  2012-2014
 → ◯  2015-2017
 → ◯  get all of it tagged

4. Make some fractals!
 ◯  buy Chaotica and render that one that broke my heart
 ◯  write descriptions
 ◯  also share them!

5. Be amazing at work.
 ◯  take on more responsibility
 ◯  do useful research
 ◯  get a promotion

6. Be in nature more.
 ◯  13+ new nature site visits (places that I have never been)
 ◯  Go to the woods alone at least once a month when it is warm

7. Maintain and develop my relationship with Topaz.
 ◯  don't sleep over more than 3 times a week
 ◯  don't watch more than an hour of shows per day when we're together
 ◯  be more deliberate about setting aside time for cuddles
 ◯  Visit at least 20 state parks together

8. Strengthen my local connections, especially with Allison, Quinn, Sande, and Kylei.
 ◯  8 me-initiated text/app conversations with Allison, Sande, Quinn, Kylei (each).
 ◯  8 1-on-1 or 1-on-2 hangouts with Allison.
 ◯  3 1-on-1 or 1-on-2 hangouts with Kylei, Quinn, Sande (each).

9. Strengthen my long-distance connections.
 ◯  with Adi
 ◯  with Elizabeth
 ◯  with J
 ◯  with Anika
 ◯  with Katy
 ◯  and others

10. Keep life records.
 ◯  344 days of charting my moods and activities (aim for daily)
 ◯  300 cell phone snapshots
 ◯  280 days of best-worst-weird (aim for daily)
 ◯  55 love bank entries (check weekly)
 ◯  33 dreams recorded
 ◯  Keep track of media: books, films, shows, music, etc

11. Make new friends.
 ◯  go to more places with strangers and strike up conversations
 ◯  go to poetry open mics
 ◯  go to activist meet n greets
 ◯  go to meditation events
 ◯  go to queer events
 ◯  meet at least 8 new people one-on-one
 ◯  8 new casual friends made or re-made
 ◯  find 2+ new local friends who I click with
 ◯  find 2+ new LJ friends who I can build with
 ◯  8 group hangouts (me plus 2 or more of my tribe)

12. More physical exertion & stronger muscles.
 ◯  Do brisk walks, at least 6 miles per week
 ◯  Do more core and arm strength workouts
 ◯  Go swimming!

13. Be more active with art.
 ◯  post on instagram and DeviantArt
 ◯  browse DeviantArt and rebuild my personal digital gallery
 ◯  200 photos or fractals uploaded and described
 ◯  13 self-portraits that I like
 ◯  13 fractals made
 ◯  8 non-digital artworks created (aim for 1 per month)
 ◯  2+ pages in my book of magic written
 ◯  1 new set of talismans made
 ◯  at least 1 photoshoot

14. Touch more people and connect intimately with people.
 ◯  13+ people cuddled
 ◯  cuddly communions
 ◯  make-out parties
 ◯  5+ people kissed (at least 1 new person)
 ◯  3+ people engaged in intense physical intimacy
 ◯  4 intimacy practices
 ◯  Do ritual and energy-weaving
 ◯  1 or more energy-exchange experiences with new people
 ◯  at least 1 new kind of sexual/physical intimacy experience

15. Invest in my home and self-decorating.
 ◯  Organize my clothes, keep them tidy.
 ◯  Give away stuff I don't want and/or don't use.
 ◯  Organize my craft stuff and keep it tidy.
 ◯  Tidy my bedroom regularly.
 ◯  Clean my bathroom regularly.
 ◯  Vaccuum regularly.
 ◯  Tidy the living room regularly.

16. reach out first.
 ◯  180 instances of unprompted openness (aim for daily)
 ◯  try to keep up with text responses at least once daily
 ◯  share something about me
 ◯  ask questions
 ◯  birthday

17. Do activism.
 ◯  donate at least 11 percent of each paycheck to a variety of organizations/people
 ◯  self-educate
 ◯  write stuff to educate and skill-share
 ◯  lead at least 1 workshop at a large gather /conference / etc
 ◯  go to at least 2 activist work meetings

18. Witness more art and write about it.
 ◯  8+ book/film/tv show reviews (aim for monthly)
 ◯  go to 4+ art exhibits or art festivals
 ◯  go to 4+ music or dance concerts


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wanderipity ══╣pic#126421096╠══

These are awesome goals to have!

belenen ══╣nascent╠══
thank you! I hope to grow through them and feel like I have reclaimed more of myself this year.
daphnep ══╣╠══
Whoah, this is “simpler”? This is a lot! Just mathematically, broken down into 12 months, that is a lot of requirements packed into each month, to reach your numbers.

Very likely you work better under this structure than with spontaneity. I hope you reach a satisfying portion of these goals, and also that you find time for relaxation.
belenen ══╣analytical╠══
haha, well the specifics part is juat ideas for how to reach the main goal. so if for instance I get to the end of the year and I haven't gone to any concerts or art festivals but I have still witnessed and written about art, I will consider myself having achieved my goal. That's the main difference from before, when I just set specific numerical goals without organizing them into categories of main goals.
lapisspider ══╣╠══

Your list both excites and overwhelms me but I love it! Those are some amazing goals. I like how you have a lot of goals about connecting more with people. Are you more of an extrovert or an introvert? I think it's so easy to get disconnected from reality nowadays. I make list all the time, but I suck and keeping up with them for extended periods of time. I'm always on the lookout for new ways to organize myself and be more consistent. Do you keep up with your lists pretty well?
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
thank you!

I consider myself equal parts introvert and extrovert, as I have a strong need for alone time but I also need one-on-one time, small group time, and large group time to feel fully nourished.

I do not tend to keep up with my lists very well but the daylio app is helping me a lot with that! I have little symbols for different goals and I set the app to remind me to choose my accomplishments twice a day, so I stay much more aware of what my goals are which helps me to actually do them.
lapisspider ══╣╠══
That app sounds so cool! If I had a decent phone that could download ANYTHING (I"ve got an 8GB government freebie can't even update the factory apps without running out of's useless as a smartphone) I would download that in a heartbeat!
verdande_mi ══╣pic#122309054╠══
Best of luck with all of these :) :)
belenen ══╣effervescent╠══
thank you!
seifaiden ══╣╠══
You are an admirable and ambitious person and one to model one's own self after.
belenen ══╣incitement╠══
wow, thanks!!
webgirluk ══╣pic#124969441╠══
I love your list of goals and happy that I made it :-) Whilst I love what we share here, sometimes I often hold back in sharing thoughts in public posts so I could email with you sometimes and share thoughts that I would be less likely to in my journal or as a comment in journals.
belenen ══╣ecstatic╠══
I would love that! my only hesitation is that I am so bad about responding in a timely manner and I worry I might make you feel ignored or something. but I would LOVE to read more of your thoughts and you are absolutely welcome to email me anytime *beams*
webgirluk ══╣╠══
That's alright about not replying too often. I am EXACTLY the same and can take anything from a day to months to respond to an email or message, even when I value a friendship a lot. Sometimes the more I value a friendship, the harder it can be to sit down and write. Anyway, which email address is best? I can use email then to share extra thoughts that probably wouldn't even make it into my own posts or as replies :-)
Original ★ yonder and dream
ragnarok_08 ══╣Original ★ yonder and dream╠══
Those are some awesome goals :)
belenen ══╣effervescent╠══
thanks so much!!
call_me_katya ══╣Sungarden╠══
This is a wonderful list, and has actually inspired me to add a couple of numerical goals to mine, like short meditations x3 a week [one of these will be in a class] and try to visit one new park/walking in nature place per month. I'm really pleased to see poetry open mics and swimming there too! And to see my name in the long-distance connections section. I would love to strengthen our connection too!
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