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someone left this in my guestbook....


Name: anonymous
Email: soccerpru@yahoo.com
Date: Fri Sep 24 08:25:38 EDT 2004
Thoughts: are those pictures really of you? dont you think you should loose a little wheight?


My first thought was to delete it, but on analyzing it I thought that the person must be young, with all the grammar and spelling mistakes, and honestly wondering if I was satisfied with my body. Plus, the first sentence seems admiring... so I ended up adding this reply:

note to soccerpru: Yes, the photos are of me; and no, I'm at the perfect weight for my age and height, and I prefer to be healthy rather than underweight.

If in fact the questioner was a young girl, like I think, then I hope she came back to see my response, and I hope she's at least a tiny bit influenced toward a healthy view of a woman's body.

feelings: contemplative

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Comments
jedibubbles ══╣╠══
idiot. societally brainwashed idiot.
garrulous
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
yeah... I got the feeling that it was like a 10-year-old girl -- with all the misspellings & lack of punctuation -- so I was nice just in case s/he comes back and my response has an impact on her/him.
rhaniha ══╣╠══
As much as it could have been a ten-year-old girl, chances are it wasn't. It seems like people don't bother to correct themselves anymore. The internet has killed any drive to spell correctly. I know people who type badly, sometimes just like that and they're my age (18). In any case, if he/she meant to insult you, they're full of crap.
bluebl00d ══╣╠══
Amen to that !

What a complete idiot and where on earth did he get that you should lose weight ? I've seen these pictures and you have absolutely no weight to lose.

And beside even if you had extra pounds, curvy women are hot, who wants to wrap their arms around a broom stick ?
garrulous
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
damn straight. Underweight women are not sexy, but a little extra curve can be!

And thanks for the vote of confidence!
stiletto
scourge ══╣stiletto╠══
Score one for you and not being one of the brain washed masses. There is nothing worse than girls who are the proper weight (which is more based on their opinion, combined with health reasons) and think they need to drop weight until they look like stick figures. You'll never see me with one, that is for sure. From the few pic's i've seen, i think your weight to be perfect for you, and very attractive.
mysterious
belenen ══╣mysterious╠══
Thank you! It's always good to get a guy's opinion -- with girls you're afraid they're just being nice.

I'm slowly growing more confident in my figure -- I know with my head that I'm the right weight (at least according to the height/age/weight chart in the doctors' office) but I'm still convincing my heart. It's a struggle when the media portrays airbrushed anorexic women as the epitome of beauty.
evileve ══╣╠══
is that the exact quote?
garrulous
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
yep.
evileve ══╣╠══
then it seems as though this person isn't very educated (loose and wheight), and thusly their opinion means jack shit.
garrulous
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
I agree.
song
amazedcreation ══╣song╠══
I think you are beautiful, inside and out. If I would have seen that response I would have probably replied angrily. But you took into great consideration the person behind the quote, and planned to be an inspiration to them.
garrulous
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
It was also kinda a victory over myself -- I decided I'm not going to let this hurt me or affect my self-image; and I actually managed to do that.
garrulous
belenen ══╣garrulous╠══
and thanks for the compliment. ;-)
misemifein2 ══╣╠══
Even went back to the page to look, you are one of these people who do look the perfect size/shape. I'm jealous. I'm one of these twiggy pea stick girls no-one wants, and i wish i wasn't. You're beautiful and that comment doesnt make sense to me. I can't think of anyone who would say such a thing. Mad. I have another picture of you, done in pastels, i'll send it to you when i get it on the 'puter.
vivacious
belenen ══╣vivacious╠══
oooooh, yay! I can't wait to see it!

And thin girls are beautiful too, if it's a healthy thinness. ;-)
misemifein2 ══╣╠══
Maybe. But everyone agrees that curvy women are much more beautiful and they say that and then say that people do not find skinny women attractive and don't want them. I can't get curvy. If people would say everyone is beautiful then it would be fine, but there is a lot of people saying nasty things about skinny girls. I sent you the picture so hope you got it alright, i've never tried sending an email with attachments before :)
darkpool ══╣╠══
There are all types of beautiful people. And some people are a "type" of beautiful people, they're not attractive to every person who walks along but to the person whose type they are they're absolutly gorgeous.
shaybe ══╣╠══
wow... i'm really sorry hunny
Soccerpru is my bitchy evil little sister.. i dk how she got your email address or left you messages.. but that's totally rude and not cool.. if it makes you feel better shes a bitch to me too. frankly I basicly hate her. I love you babe.. you are most awesome. and totally skinny!
anar_anar ══╣╠══
Your are beautiful.

and I LOVE your completely respectable and intelligent response to this person.

:)
gentle
belenen ══╣gentle╠══
thank you...
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