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the eclectic ecstasy of an ecphorizing eccentric

musings of a treehugging, agender, fat & proud social justice activist (with ADHD!)

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"Revolution begins with the self, in the self." -- Toni Cade Bambara
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my self-labels and values
a photo of my face, wearing cat-eye makeup and a violet glitter goatee My self-labels, in three parts: 1 -- trans, agender/genderfree, neurodivergent, fat & proud, demisexual & erotic mirror, queer/bisexual/pansexual; 2 -- consent advocate, communalist, social justice activist, polyamorous / relationship anarchist, creativity catalyst, Southern / ATLien, tree-hugger, vegetarian, nudist; 3 -- atheist / nontheist Quaker spiritualist, energy-weaver, color/light worshipper, photographer, jewelry maker, digital/fractal artist, coffee clergyperson, curious questioner, growth-seeker, content creator, critical analyst, writer. I'm also white, usually read as cisgender, college-educated, employed, and non-disabled, and I'm open to people checking me on my privilege.

My core values are justice, respect, reverence/wonder, connection/compassion, imperfection/action, honesty, curiosity/questioning, transparency/openness, creativity, growth/change, & thoroughness.
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what you'll find in my LJ:
- stories of my experiences and my reflections on them.
- skillsharing, especially when I learn a skill for relationships &/or consent.
- examinations of injustice and privilege.
- analysing patterns in myself or society or relationships.
- my spirituality and how I invest in it.
- dreams; occasionally with interpretations.
- polls & interactive memes; me seeking to learn more of you.
- my core values and progress toward goals based on them.

I aim to write daily and usually end up writing 2 or 3 times a week. Almost everything is public: I occasionally lock things that are about work or friends who want privacy.
what I want to read on my friends list:
- everything in the categories that I write in, especially if the intention is openness and honesty.
- stuff that is free from slurs.

I look for LJ friends who are very self-aware and growth-focused: taking in other people's self-examination is exceedingly inspiring to me. I want friends who share at least the "justice" and "respect" part of my core values; friends who notice the evil injustice in the world and react by doing their best to make it better.

I aim to read my flist daily but usually end up going on a several-hour readathon once or twice a week (I read very fast).

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what you'll get from me as a friend:
- I'll be honest and open with you; call me on it if you think I'm not living up to this.
- I'll encourage you to pursue your goals and remind you of your worth.
- I'll help you when I can, with whatever resources I can spare.
- If we build connection, I will work shit out with you if you make a mistake (I am excellent at handling conflict with compassion).
- I'll skillshare and practice with you so we can develop our empathy and intimacy.
- I'll share my creativity in the hopes of inspiring you.
- I'll do my best to educate myself on any differences between you and I, especially if the difference privileges me.
- If I hurt you accidentally and you tell me, I will do my best to not hurt you like that again.
- If we have compatible spiritualities, I will do ritual and practice with you (if you want).

warnings and disclaimers:
Language is extremely important; it shapes our thoughts. If you value using any word that comes to mind without considering the consequences, don't bother adding me. I won't invest in a person who uses slurs. My explanations:
* slurs are still very harmful when they are aimed at a situation/action/thing instead of a person / TW: slurs
* we can't be friends if you use slurs because it damages me & breaks my trust in you / TW: slurs
* slurs are both harmful and not expressive: say what you actually mean instead / TW: slurs.

Other language issues that I object to and will unfriend people over include using rape 'jokes' or affirming stereotypes as if they are fact.

Also I sometimes post nudity, I have no TMI filter, I use the word 'fuck' a lot, and I do not understand social assumptions regarding privacy.

on friending and removing:
Add away! my journal is 95% public, and I certainly don't mind you adding me. If you want me to add you back, please comment on my latest entry to let me know you added me: LJ has been really bad about not letting me know when people add me. I love the chance of a new friendship! I'm also not offended if you add me and then change your mind after a little while.

Note: Underage users should not view this journal, as it contains material that is occasionally of an adult nature.
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